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today's sunday, april 18, 2010. captions paid for by nbc-universal television live from studio 1a in rockefeller plaza. >> good morning, everyone. welcome to candidate fda" on a sunday. i'm lester holt. >> i'm jenna wolfe. the massive chowed of ash is getting worse. >> they were able to get in helicopters and our chris jensen went up to look at what's inside. it's creating a real menace. europe's worst travel disruption since world war ii. airspace remains closed in britain, denmark, france, austria and germany this morning. the airlines say they're losing $200 million a day as a result of this erupting volcano and a lot of people personally inconvenienced by this as they can't get to where they're trying to go. we'll talk to a pilot who knows first hand about flying through volcanic ash. there are active volcanos and pilots often encounter this and he'll talk about that coming up. >> scary thoughts and even to test it and find the empty pockets. meanwhile, we'll take a look at live pictures from poland where the president is holding a funeral for president kaczynski and his wife. many dignitaries including president obama was supposed to attend and due to the volcanic ash, they had to cancel the plans. a convicted sex offender has pled guilty to two teenage girls. the father of one of his victims was in the courtroom and he will join us to talk about the case. then we will switch gears and take you on a treasure hunt like no other where amateur sleuths have uncovered gold from warrior days. there's a lot to get to. let's start with the latest with the erupting volcano and nbc's chris jansing has this repo. >> reporter: report from 5,000 feet, the volcano showed the explosive and comblglowing ice. a potent and catastrophic combination. >> you can imagine what it takes to ferment a batch of rock into something the size of a grain of sugar or smaller into flower-sized pieces it tells you how immense amount energy it takes. >> university of cambridge volcanologist has studied volcanoes around the world. these spectacular fireworks are unlike any she has ever seen. >> there's a white steam cloud which billows higher up and then there's more dense ash brown -- clouds which carries hundreds of tons of material. you can really appreciate that no airplane can fly through this. >> her assessment, with only a third of the ice cap melted, eruptions could continue for weeks and shifting winds have carried the massive clouds south, an increasing threat, not only in the air, but on the ground. >> high winds have been sweeping the ash across these open fields and carrying with it those little shards of glass and rock. the same things that are so dangerous and they're dangerous to humans and they've started evacuations in two towns. >> with wind gusts of 40 miles per hour the black cloud moved to block the daylight and it was like driving into hell. >> as we were coming in here it was actually sunny. it was like going from day to night. we could only see a few feet ahead of us. >> rescue vehicles moved in to do safety sweeps as more residents and their horses moved out. most have lived in the shadow of this volcano for many years and respect its devastating potential. >> they had taken for granted and there are pretty things to look at. the volcanic plume has grown to 30,000 feet, expanding the threat to everything in its path. >> that was nbc's chris jansing reporting for us from iceland. the volcanic ash has crippled air travel in virtually every corner of the globe leaving air travelers stranded, frustrated and desperately wanting to go home. tom aspell is live from heathrow airport with more. >> good morning. four out of every five flights have been canceled. at every airport in northern and central europe today the message was the same. flights are canceled. no flights going anywhere. the volcanic ash cloud now stretches from the british isles east all of the way to bulgaria and from scandinavia to the south of france. the aviation agency euro control says it gives air travelers stark choices. >> the countries that are currently free and where aircrafts can take off and land is portugal, spain, southern italy, bulgaria and the country south thereof. >> london's heathrow is totally shut down. frankfu frankfurt's runways are empty. in brussels, nothing's moved in 48 hours. in paris, charles de gaulle airport has come to a grinding halt. in rome, passengers like vincenzo and his wife from illinois were looking for transport. >> we'll get to paris one way or another even if i have to push her in her cart. >> euro star services running between london, paris and brussels are carrying 50,000 passengers a day and perres to and from england are packed. >> we're talking 6,000 foot passengers in one day where wield be taking a few hundred on our services. airports around the world are affected by europe's shutdown. in australia, quantus has canceled all european flights. in india, passengers are sleeping rough waiting for flights to resume. >> air companies are giving us no reasons. tokyo and beijing are telling passengers to europe the same thing, no flights until further notice. how long will this go on? it depends on the ash cloud from the volcano in iceland and it depends on the wind. dutch and german airlines have been conducting test flights to see if it's safe to resume operations and in iceland helicopters are flying close to estimate how long it will keep, rupting. lefter? >> tom aspell for us, thank you. in just a few moments we'll speak to a veteran commercial airline pilot to tell us about the dangers of flying through volcanic ash. president obama and other world leaders who were forced to cancel tr plans to attend today's state funeral in poland for president kaczynski and his wife. jim is in krakow where the funeral has started. good morning to you. >> reporter: good morning, jenna, that's right. the siren just signaled the beginning of the state funeral. many had worried that today's funeral would be marred by anti-government protesters, but in the end it was mother nature who threw the only wrench. it was the only aircraft in the skies over krakow as the polish military transport plane carried the remains of president kaczynski and his wife maria from warsaw, flying well below the cloud of volcanic ash. in a solemn procession, the coffins were brought to a 13th century church, site of today's state funeral. some hundred world dignitary his planned to attend the service for the polish leader admired for his patriotism, if not his nationalist politics, but the growing no-fly zone over europe meant that almost half had to cancel including president barack obama. many came by car or train along with polish mourners from across the nation. i didn't vote for him, but he was very important for this country. as a pole i wanted toon here, said this man. some were worried kaczynski and his wife would be buried in this crypt and right next to poland's greatest kings and heroes. >> he's done nothing in particular to be -- to be remembered or to deserve burial in such a place. >> reporter: but others say kaczynski's love of poland, hmae him a lasting symbol of poland's suffering. >> the funeral marx the end of a week of national mourning for poles still reeling from the enormous loss of life and talent in the aircraft in western russia now being called simply the catastrophe. >> reporter: meanwhile investigators say they'll soon release date from the tune layoff 154 cockpit voice recorders and two black boxes and despite conspiracy theories all signs are still pointing to human error. back to you. >> jim arc seda for us in krakow. thank you. sdoo. as we mentioned president obama had planned to attend the funeral, but canceled yesterday due to the erupting volcano. david gregory is monitoring "meet the press" and joins us. good morning to you. >> good morning. >> it is usual for a sitting president to send a delegation to the united states, what does it is a to poland and its leaders that had it not been for the volcano the president would have been there. >> it's a tremendous gesture and we've seen justures like that in the death of a foreign leader. it was attributed not only to the man and also to the country and what he stood for and his patriotism and his contributions to the rest of the world. this was a very strong ally and it's just, you know, sadly ironic that you have a situation that's so unforeseen like this that would keep the president away. >> want to switch gears here for a bit. the president tackled health reform. now he wants to focus financial reform. on friday the sec accused goldman sachs of defrauding its investors which the government said contributed to the economic collapse. how much will public outcry help the president or will he need republican support and help on this one? >> well, he's going to need republican support and during our interview with secretary geithner you'll hear him express confidence that he can bring republicans along on this despite the fact that you've had quite an exchange of words between republicans and even the president over what these rules would actually accomplish. secretary geithner himself would not talk specifically in our interview about the merits and the charges against goldman sachs, but he made kind of a larger point about what these kinds of charges can ultimately do and what financial reform can do to change the ways of wall street. >> and you sat down with -- you did sit down with treasury secretary tim geithner. can you tell us more about what he said with regard to goldman sachs and with financial reform in general. >> think we have a piece of sound we can play in just a minute. the idea is that financial reform in his estimation would end the era of government bailouts and that's really the critical debate between the administration and republicans right now. again, as it applies to goldman sachs, you have an issue of a larger message potentially being set. this is what he said. >> the best thing we can do for the country is to make sure we put in place strong protections, reforms of the game and reforms with teeth. you want a system that acts preemptively to prevent these things from happening. you don't want a system where the government cleans up the mess later. >> again, this is an issue that has to do with the kinds of trades that were allegedly made here and the kind of products that were sold and perhaps misleadingly told that some of these risk safeguards and financial reform may try to prevent that, at least. david, this morning the new york times is reporting that defense secretary robert gates warned the president that in january that the u.s. does not have a long-term plan should iran develop a nuclear weapon. is this the kind of news we want iran to hear and what does this is a to other countries who may not be keen on reducing their nuclear arsenal? >> the real issue is where is the red line for the administration. the whole business of do they actually have a nuclear weapon and do they have the ability to produce one? are they both as dangerous? and the united states nor its allies want to just wake up one morning and see iran test nuclear weapons so the question becomes as we're negotiating and depath sanctions, how far is iran getting to the capability, how do you verify that and what do you do if you cross that line. these are important decisions that have to be made. >> david gregory, thank you so much. >> thanks. now for the rest of the morning's upon top headlines let's turn to lynn berry. >> lester and jena, good morning. we talk with tough talk from iran's president who says the country's military is so powerful that no one would dare attack it. mahmoud ahmadinejad made those comments during an army day parade show casing their surface to surface missiles. the weapons have a range of 1200 miles putting israeli and u.s. bases in the region within iran's reach. pope benedict has met with several victims of sexual abuse in malta. this meeting taking place before celebrating an open-air mass before thousands. the archbishop opened saying the church must be humble enough to recognize the failures and sins of its members. talk about a major league marathon. did you see this yesterday? the new york mets and the cardinals played a 20-inning game. long story short, the mets won it 2-1. both teams went through the entire squad using almost all 50 players and the cards used their third baseman and pitchers. it was the longest game since the colorado-san diego game went 22 innegligence 200. finally it is the mother of all library finds belonging to the father of our country. george washington never returned two library books to new york's oldest library. the law of nations and a book on britain's house of commons were due november 2, 1789. the fee for being 220 years late? $200,000. let that be a lesson to all of you. if george washington is not getting away with it. >> make him sit through a 20-inning baseball game. >> oh, come on! >> thank you so much. janice huff is here with a check >> good morning, everyone. i'm tony pan. we are off to a chilly start. you will see cloud cover drifting by. we'll call it a mix of clouds rlotte to columbia and down to charleston, and 78 in orlando and 78 in miami. now here's jenna. >> janice, thanks. up next on "today," a veteran pilot discusses the per ils of flying through volcanic ash. that's next after these messages. standing between you and a satisfying breakfast. now there's nothing lt introducing special k low-fat granola. with 50% less fat than the leading granola... and 5 grams of fiber per serving, it's a satisfying way to help you manage your weight. special k low-fat granola -- a taste of freedom. this is their report this morning that at least two commercial airlines have already begun test flights to see if the plane can make it around the ash. here to discuss the dangers of flying through volcanic ash is rob shapiro who spent 32 years flying commercial and military aircraft. good morning. good to see you. >> good morning. >> you flew 747s and flew overseas routes over volcanic areas. >> absolutely. most of the flights in the northern pacific which is a ring of volcanoes. volcanos were a regular part of our flight planning. >> there are 18 active volcanoes in the world right now, seven of them are listed as having new activity meaning anything from seismic activity to gas to even ash, even mt. etna in italy has given off ash. how much do pilots know when you take off? are you aware of where you can potentially run into ash clouds? >> you are aware of the level of activity of the volcanoes along your route. the volcano observatories give each volcano a color coding from green to normal seismic activity up to red which is an erupting or about to erupt volcano. if that's on your route of flight, the next thing would be to check the prevailing winds from that volcano because the ash cloud follows the prevailing winds. if there was no wind the cloud would fall right back on the volcano. >> that's the issue right now with this iceland volcano. it's where the winds are carrying it that make it such a hazard. >> and the degree of the eruption. a large eruption which pushes the ash into the high altitudes, the upper levels and then gets into very strong winds and it tends to follow the upper winds. >> we noted that there are some airlines that are ferrying emptier planes to various airports in europe today trying to find ways below or around these clouds. airplanes have weather radar that can look at thunderstorms and clouds. will they paint the area where these ash clouds are? >> they tend not to. the ash clouds are not normally shown on the weather radar. this might be more of a confidence builder than anything else. if they believed there was any danger to the aircraft they would not be taking them up. >> we're looking at some of the pictures of what can happen that the ash can actually melt inside the engine and is we know there's a famous case in the early '80s of a 747 losing all four engines. >> there was a case in alaska with exactly the same thing that flew into volcanic ash and lost motors. >> there are procedures, obviously, to get those engines started and back on the ground, aren't there? >> there are, but pilots are very aware of the dangers of volcanic ash and the first thing is to recognize that you've entered a volcanic ash cloud. it's not that simple because at night you won't be seeing anything so there are signs in the aircraft that you're entering a volcanic ash cloud and there's a procedure to exit the volcanic ash now. >> here's an interesting question. the aviation authorities may at some point lift this warning and open up the air place. will the airlines quickly follow suit or will they make a judgement as to whether to take the multimillionaire planes and making a judgement? >> it will depend on where the 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"11 news sunday morning" continues in 25 minutes. see you then. >> we're back on this sunday morning, april 18, 2010. it's a chilly morning here in the northeast, but it's a loud morning. we've got -- there you go, right on cue. look at the folks that joined us this morning. everyone is here, outside on the plaza, alongside lester holt, i am jenna wolfe and still to come, part two of our secrets, keeping secrets and couples keeping secrets and today we'll focus extra marital affairs. >> this is a biggie. we've seen a lot of celebrity names in the news with marital problems and marital infidelity. if something doesn't have to play out across the international press, we'll look at why people cheat and whether it is always a showstopper. >> coming up, we will talk to amateur archaeologists who have unearthed what they're calling warrior bling. they found it in their own backyard. it's a mystery revealed and it's going to be coming up. a lot of times people think about buying pets and we'll look at the pet options from kitties to doggies and tortoises. a lot of oohs and ahhs in the studio. and we'll give you information for making a pet choice. >> you use to have rabbits. my wife came home and said they're two male rabbits. >> and then? >> then we had five rabbits. >> there was a mix-up at the pet store. >> that's right. we'll get an update with the bright yellow base. >> that's me. i can't walk by a group of girl scouts with cookies without saying hi. these girls are from eastern pennsylvania. hi, girls. what have you got for me? hand them over. what's that song you were singing earlier? "do you like cookies ♪ ♪ do you like thin mints ♪ do you like shortbreads ♪ can't wait to get a box full ♪ >> i'm sold. thanks for the cookies and now it's time to check the weather and let's see what's happening. thanks, jim. now we'll look at the weather on the gulf coast and some rain over there. rain in dallas, flood watches in effect. another 1 to 2 inches for you down toward houston and also over south florida and that shifts over to the lower mississippi valley tomorrow and parts of louisiana. it's pretty clear in the country except for the pacific northwest and thunderstorms in florida. >> good morning, everyone. i'm tony pan. we are off to a chilly start. you will see cloud cover drifting by. we'll call it a mix of clouds 91 this afternoon and phoenix, 87 in las vegas and 74 in los angeles. and you can always check your weather any time by logging on to weather.com. very exciting. now here's jenna. >> janice, thanks. it was an emotional day in a san diego courtroom on friday for the families of two teenage girls. convicted sex offender john gardner pleaded guilty to the rape and murder of 17-year-old chelsea king and 14-year-old amber dubois. this surprising turn in the dual tragedies has fueled calls for california to toughen sexual predator laws. amber's father maurice dubois and was in the courtroom and joins us from san diego. >> thank you for having me. >> i'm sure this was an emotional stress for you. you were in the courtroom when you heard him say yes. how were you feeling when you heard him say that word. >> it was -- as you can imagine, it was quite emotional. we were prepared from the day before when we met with the d.a.'s office. they briefed us of the statement that was going to be read. so we had all night to let it soak in and we were prepared to hear it. >> did you always know that amber's killer was eventually going to be caught no matter how long it would take? >> oh, no. actually no. we were very concerned with the fact that -- because of the condition of her remains when they found her that there would really be no justice found. >> as part of the plea deal the death penalty was waived if gardner had pled guilty to both the murder of chelsea king and to that of your daughter, but the d.a. did come forth and say there wasn't enough evidence to just convict gardner for your daughter's murder. how does it make you feel to know that the evidence was not as solid in amber's death as it was in chelsea's. >> with chelsea's case there was much more evidence. with amber's evidence, was there nothing and when they found her on scene they had nothing that they found. so it's a little frustrating, but because of the time that went by with amber's case as opposed to chelsea's any evidence that would have been there at the time has all gone away now. >> we should mention gardner and his attorney have declined the judge's offer to comment on why he chose to agree to a plea deal. earlier in march he pled not guilty to the rape and murder of chelsea king. why do you think he reconsidered his plea? >> we were told he actually heard a taping of my plea to media the day of his pre-trial hearing, and arc parentally he felt some remorse after hearing me speak and contacted the d.a.'s office with the offer. >> you know, june 1st is gardner's official sentencing. i know you plan on being there. is that a way for you and your family to get closure with all of this? >> most people in my family have accepted the closure at the time that we found amber and knew that she was no longer in harm's way. she wasn't being hurt anymore. that was the biggest closure for me, personally. a lot of people in my family are waiting for the justice to be completed, but for the most part, most of the closure is happening now. >> maurice dubois and we want to thank you so much for your time and wish you peace as you begin to heal from this tragedy. thank you again for being with us. >> thank you. >> and we are back right after these messages. 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because it's wonderful to have the companionship. >> andrew, who would only agree to come forward if we concealed his identity admits he's an adulterer. >> beyond the sexual desires and needs that i have, one of the things that i relish is intellectual stimulation. >> reid knows the pain of her affair. her first husband cheated on her for years. >> it was devastating. it really was, when i finally put everything together and faced it. >> but, of course, it's not just men who are cheating. an increasing number of women are also going a stray. >> when did this change happen? it happened when women started to work. >> women cheat for excitement and so do men. >> who have vulnerable to having an affair? >> experts say it could be anyone who is not realistic about what to expect after saying "i do." >> once people get married they have this idea that they are safe and they can finally be themselves and they won't be alone anymore and sometimes that reality can be quite shocking, disappointing and in certain cases a dealbreaker. >> it would be a head breaker and i would get out a baseball bat and i would crack his head open. >> i don't think i could ever forgive him. i don't think i could ever get past that. >> mira is a psychotherapist and the author of "when good people have affairs." good morning. it's good to see you. you heard those two last ladies, no forgiveness here. as couples go down this road and try to decide if it can be patched up. don't you have to explore the motivation behind the affair? it was love or something else? >> absolutely. we want to know the reasons people have affairs especially given the fact that there's been such an increase since the opportunity for affairs has increased so we did research and we found that there are 17 different motives and you have to know why so you'll have to know why you're having the affair so you know what to do about it. >> one of the first ones is unmet-needs affair. >> even good marriages people have unmet needs. you heard the man say intellectual stimulation and it could be a need for anything. >> it sounds like an excuse, doesn't it? >> it does, but it is an explanation. people are hungry for certain things, more affection, an egoboost, better sex, companionship and they're missing it. so when the opportunity comes along then they find themselves getting involved with someone. they didn't plan it. they didn't want it, but the hunger is so strong people describe it as an addiction, in fact. >> there's a couple of other common types of affairs that you write about, the see-if affair and see what it would be like and the ejector-seat affair. >> yeah. the see-if affair is when you want to see if the grass is greener on the other side and what i've discoverdiscovered is lot of times people find out it's not much better and they quietly return back to their spouse. the ejector-seat affair is a completely different story. like the woman said i'll kill him and chop off his head and that's an ejector-seat affair. for some bad marriages people need to feel that they have an excuse to end it, and they say if he ever cheats then it's over. well, some spouses oblige and then the marriage is over. >> for those couples who have gone through this and they've taken a deep breath and tried to figure out what next? what process should they go through to decide if this can be healed. >> first of all, each person whether it's the cheater or the cheated-on spouse has to make a different decision. the cheater has to decide fast if, in fact, he wants to stay with his spouse. if he does he has to immediately and completely end the affair and then do whatever is necessary to take care of the problems that they both -- he and his spouse had in the marriage so that the marriage can be a place where he can get his needs met. >> how do you deal with this potentially third party still out there, the ex, how do you deal with that factor? >> if you decide to stay in the marriage then you have to have zero tolerance and end the affair. it cannot work. it eventually explodes. a three-way tug-of-war is what it is and everyone is pressuring the other person and it makes you crazy and the stress makes people really sick. so it cannot -- a love triangle does not work for people. >> tough topic, but good to talk to you about it. thank you so much for being with us this morning. >> always a pleasure. just ahead, the man who found britain's treasure right in his own backyard, but first, these messages. . huh. what's this? 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"lost gold of the dark ages" premieres at 9:00 p.m. eastern on the national geographic channel and now here's lester. ♪ ♪ ♪ >> jenna, thanks. this morning on "today's pets," choosing the right pet for you. spring is usually a popular time for people to welcome a new pet into their home, but there are a few things to consider before choosing a new companion. here with some tips is pet expert andrea arden. they're from the same litter, right? >> they're from a litter of nine puppies. >> are they coca poohs? >> they're calk poohs. >> if you're going to bring home a new puppy as cute as this little guy is, what are we in store for? >> people need to realize that in regard to maintenance, dogs are one of the most high maintenance pets you can have. they ve choir veterinaries, food and they need to be walked multiple times a day to make sure they're mentally and physically -- >> and they'll try your patience. >> they are. >> we have some beautiful kittens here as well. >> in general, less maintenance because you don't have to work them, of course. >> one of the biggest mistakes people make with kittens is they don't clean their litter boxes enough. if you have two cats you need to clear it out every day. >> totally change out the litter. >> but keep it clean because they have marking issues because cats want to go to the bathroom where it's a clean space. these kittens are an example of kittens that are very, very active. just like with dogs, there's a huge range of temperaments and don't expect to get a cat that will sit in your house and be quiet. it may require your interaction to keep it busy. >> we'll sneak past here because we want to look at the tortoise. >> tortoises are great, i think because they're so still and tend to spend a good bit of time inside annen cloesh thaur is big enough. >> but they're horribly noise pep i'm kidding. >> you have to worry about your neighbors and one thing you have to consider is the long-term care of your tortoise. they think i can just have it in an aquarium and they'll be fine. one of the needs they have say need for vitamin a and vitamin d. you need to make sure they get lots of leafy green and vegetables and you have a uv light which a lot of people can realize it can be $100 and they live for a very, very long time. >> they oftentimes will survive you and you have to leave provisions for them in your will. >> they've been known to live 150 years. >> rabbits. >> this is called the lion's head rabbit and this is not a great example of what they look like, they normally have a big rough around their necks. you wouldn't be able to tell from this bunny, but they actually are very active and they love to dig, they love to chew. so while you can litter box train them and wander around your house unsupervised you do need to make sure they don't chew on electrical cords. >> guinea pigs. >> this is one of my favorites. >> can't help, but think of chris rock when i look at guinea pigs. they tend to do better in pairs and they're very social creatures and also they do tend to be active vocally which i think is really, really cute. i wish you guys would make those noises for us now, but they're cute in the way they look. >> one thing that you need to consider that while they're social and do best in pairs you need to match the pair carefully or they will fight. >> i love the faces on these guys because they're all looking away from the camera. >> one of my concerns with hamsters. they can be great pets and you need to make sure with children that they handle them very carefully. they can be nippy and make sure that if you get a pair, that you get a pair that cannot breed. >> that's not my stomach growling, that's the little puppy here and they're all up for adoption, right? >> all from sean casey. >> except this one could be taken already. >> could be. >> we'll be back after these messages. ♪ sunny taste. sunny spirit. sunny d. brings out the best in kids. ♪ sunny d i have missed you. pollen in the air kept hunter cooped up itching his eyes and sneezing. but now i found zyrtec®. it's #1 allergist recommended. with children's zyrtec® he can get 24-hour allergy relief indoors and outdoors. ♪ now he can run wild... with the rest of the pack. with children's zyrtec®, he can love the air®. 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