the guest inspected the cabinets and left, of course, not empty-handed, he handed over part of the property to a pawnshop, kept the rest for himself, and a criminal case was opened against the attacker. this was the project zone x, our news is on the project’s youtube channel on instagram, have a nice day, stay on the bright side, and we will tell you about the dark side in our evening program. dobritsy belarus. good ranitsa belarus. good morning, country, a new day on the tv channel belarus, one of the satellite belarus 24. we are still meeting you with mariana murenkova and anna kriloria. today is tuesday, we remind you that this is october 31st. on the clock where my non-existent 8:18, which means, and this means, that we are no longer alone in the studio. it's time to welcome the psychologist, mediator, and author of our regular column “actual”. alla komarovskaya. good morning girls, good morning country. today we have such a burning topic, how to communicate, excuse me, with toxic people, but why are you apologizing, because i really don’t like this word, and in general i tend to think that there are no toxic people or bad people, there are people to whom a lot of troubles have happened, as in that song, yes, there are good people to whom a lot of troubles have happened, and this is true. because they seem to be stuck at the age at which some kind of trauma was inflicted on them, yes, these are usually children and such either very aggressive parents or super-strict parents who either had overprotectiveness or, on the contrary, had very little attention , these are children from whom super results were demanded, so on the one hand you can feel sorry for them, but on the other hand, if they can’t take it to therapy, they don’t want to do anything about it, but what happens, they don’t want to? as for others, but first of all for myself, and this creates difficulties in communication, and that this is only acquired toxicity, because i know that, for example, it can be caused by some genetic factors, as a rule, as a rule, this is acquired, but it happens, yes, that it is in character traits; anyway, the child reads this from the behavior of his parents, so if one of the parents was a cissist, well, 99.9%, the child will take something from them, because he copies this behavior, so narcissists are yes, these are those children who were asked to achieve super results, why eight and not 10, that is . i recognize myself a little now, my god, well, yes, come on, god be with you, then, since we have already started talking about narcissism, let’s outline the main features of a toxic person, a narcissist, and there are many of them, in fact such people, yes, well, if we talk about narcissist, if, if we talk about narcissists, then these are the people with whom you are in communicating with whom you will constantly feel the feeling that i am not good enough, a feeling of guilt, and a feeling of guilt, shame, and that you will try, but you will constantly. not good enough, your praise will always not be enough for them, your attention will not be enough, you will do something, but not well enough, and naturally, this will lead a person into such a depressed state, oh god, why am i trying so hard? time i’m doing it wrong, and can i also help you, yes, these are people who don’t experience, as we already said feeling of guilt, they are never to blame for anything, they have no empathy, that is , it is also difficult to build a dialogue with these people, and you need to listen well to your own. the body to its psychosomatics, because it seems to me that there is cortisol, adrenaline rises next to such people, well, you will feel uncomfortable, in general, empathy is not characteristic of all toxic people, and people who are victims or queens or kings of drama, yes, who will constantly next to you demand attention from you, you will always console, give advice, and they will it’s always not enough how to communicate with such people, always ask them a question, now you are tired of giving advice, and you say how and when you will decide. they will simply either shut up about their problem, or move the topic to another conversation, or find another victim to whom they will be, because they don’t want to solve their problems, they just want to complain, yes, there are clingy people who will constantly ask you for help, and but in response, or resorting to emotional blackmail, yes, or those who will ask you for help, but the opposite, but for a response request, they never have time, they never have. these are the people who are aggressive, yes, these are psychopaths, well, that is, there are actually a lot of them, yes, but i would say that these are characters with whom you feel uncomfortable, because our section is aimed at establish effective communication when both people think about each other’s feelings, and i’ll ask him this question: will he be comfortable answering it or not, yes or i haven’t been talking for long, maybe i need to give the floor to my interlocutor, then toxic people, they do not have such a feeling, they are always self-centered, they criticize, they do not have empathy, but next to them, why do they do this , there is negativity around them, what result do they want to get first, to feed on emotions, because they are usually energy vampires, so first of all you need to set personal boundaries with them, and here you need to be clear. i’m not ready, for example, to tolerate such an attitude towards myself, yes, or to say, harshly, no, but correctly, why, because that if you fall under their emotional intensity, you will always lose in this argument, because you have empathy, but they don’t, you know, so it’s important to think about what you’re telling them, so that it won’t be used against you later , limit this time of communication, if this is a colleague, we don’t always have the opportunity to limit communication with such people, it could be a relative, unfortunately... if you are in the company of such people, there are a lot of them, you will simply be gradually oppressed, yes , it will be difficult for you, so limit your time and communicate with positive people, that is, with those people who are ready to support you, who will give you advice instead of insulting you, next to whom you are inspired, we still have a little time, among toxic people we still know such a thing as parasites out. explain to us. bullies are those who want to constantly discredit you, set you up, that is, they don’t want you to look better against their background, but they themselves are not ready to work on themselves, so it’s easier for them to give you a little help, this is also narcissism, this, well, you can have them all call it that, but nevertheless, but i have, for example, empathy for everyone, even these people , yes, i know what the reason for this behavior is, but if, again, they don’t want to work with it, then... unfortunately, this causes discomfort to other people, yes, therefore, as a rule, these are also those people who, in order to feel confident in their importance, they, unfortunately, devalue their work. we can feel sorry for them only you can just always keep the focus on the fact that everything is okay with you, this is how we set personal boundaries, and not only this, personal boundaries - this needs to be strictly defined with them, you can’t do that with me, your tone of voice is unpleasant to me, yes, i’m unpleasant that you devalue me or you devalue me, the same people don’t care, they don’t care anyway, but they will know that with you it’s not about them just finding a simpler victim, that’s all, if this is possible, and if not, then here’s a rule for you from our alla komarovskaya, try somewhere in your soul to pity them , understand, as they say, and forgive, forgive, yes, understand and forgive, alla, thank you so much for coming, we are waiting for you next tuesday , as i understand it, we will continue to talk about toxicity, if this topic is so relevant, our viewers will give reactions, then we will continue this topic, or we still have a lot in store a stock of interesting topics for effective communication , we have no doubt that you actually have a million of them, friends, this was our regular topical section, write down tips from alla komarovskaya, give feedback, and continue our broadcast. hey with dancer, hey romancer, oh, you are a sailor, a tailor, a tailor, you are from gana, goyana, montana, why don't you get one? i'm sorry honey, i'm short of money. tonight away we have no time to fight midnight dancer - hey big romancer you are a sailor a tailor jailer you are from yaana yoyana montana hey dancer - ride away, we have no time to break, dancer, oh ho oh oh hey big romancer, you are a sailor, a tailor, jailor, you are from gana, goyana, montana, hey with my dancer, hey groman. you are a sailor, tail, a trailer, you are from canana, montana, oh oh, oh, so will, come on, let's do the midnight. these people are smothered in their radzima, the mown grass is rising, the fog turns out like this. problems, come on, let him join in, and the two of us made it, we get such beauty, watch palishuki’s project on the belarus 24 tv channel . 100 brave guys gathered in our studio, each of them has a question for an adult, we are children , we can be wiser in some ways than adults, i think, and i don’t even doubt at all, how in our time to get to... it’s very simple, you have good given, i like a girl, tell me how i can confess my love to her without words, the hero of the program will open up to the audience, i met my husband at a sports competition, we have been living with him for 39 years, what did you like about him right away, first i didn’t like it, they fought at school , including me, in kindergarten, even in my opinion, they separated us from corners, the main task is to answer honestly... it’s a dirty business, sometimes yes, unfortunately, your wife, press secretary president, and you are a representative of a television company, which one of you more important? at work or at home, has anyone tried to take advantage of their acquaintance with you to resolve the issue of cronyism, look at the project 100 questions for adults on the tv channel belarus 24. far from the bustle of the city, here are your roots , your strength, go forward to come to yourself , slow down... to enjoy the moment, the direction will be suggested by the elements, every step, unity with nature, wild, ancient, its own spruce tree. good morning belarus, good morning country, we continue to wake up, yes, there is only half an hour left until 9:00, we hope that we woke you up, and you will go to work with a smile, anna kviloriva, maryaana murengova, tuesday, yes, we have interesting international news for you, bronze heads of a bull, a tiger, a horse, a monkey and a pig are again exhibited in beijing yuan ming park - yuan. century, 12 zodiac sculptures served as decorative and functional parts of one of the fountains in the park. they symbolized the animals of the twelve-year calendar cycle, as well as the 12-hour zones. it was possible to navigate by the fountain both in time and since every hour from the mouth water began to flow from one of the animals, and at noon it came out of all the heads at once. in 1860, the garden and fountain were looted by the british and french during the war. return. seven sculptures were made in china only some time ago, two are under reconstruction, and five more have to be found and returned, what a beauty, very beautiful, i can’t believe it at all, when this was done, a very, very long time ago, a long time ago, yes, you can’t even say anything here , we wish you good luck, in fact, if you want to return it, come back, maryaana vasilievna just listened a lecture about abusive people, the world decided. well, from cultural news, let's move on to environmental news, how nice it is that the rational use of natural resources, once again , resources, yes, i know, this word worries not only adults, but our children, ignat svetinsky, a student of the capital’s school, created a device for stepwise switching the water, it’s like cold went, then hot, and then not at all, this is the pressure to regulate, according to the inventor byun, using his nozzle will be quite enough to open any tap strictly to the required water pressure. maryana vasilievna, write down, for his original work, ignat received a victory in the recently held republican competition of scientific and technical creativity of student youth. ignat, we congratulate you with all our hearts and wish you new inventions, so that they are introduced into our everyday life like this , so to speak, yes, in fact it is very convenient, sometimes the taps stick there, you turn it on and there is such a pressure, everything splashes around there , and just like that there will always be a neat stream that saves yes flowing gently, we are waiting for svetinsky with new inventions, and on our air, i hope that he will invent something that will radically change the world, well, right now, let’s remember the man who has already changed this world. guillaume apolinaire: aka wilhelm albert vladimir alexander apollinii voonzh kostrovitsky, was born in 1880 in rome, where his mother and grandfather mikhail opolinary kostrovitsky came from novogrudok, fleeing persecution for participating in the 1863 uprising . in honor of wilhelm kostrovitsky's grandfather will take the pseudonym guillaume apollinaire. at the age of 19 he moved to paris and settled in epité. his bohemian life, the beehive commune, where he quickly became friends with pablo picasso, henri rousseau, jeanne cacteau and other prominent people of that time. the aspiring poet began to actively publish, wrote a lot of lyrics in the classical manner of french poets of the 19th century, but gradually moved on to literary experiments. it was apolinaire who became the defining figure in french avant-garde art and the author of the term surrealism. he is also considered founder. he was the first in the 20th century to publish a collection of poems, the words and lines of which look like drawings. polinaire herself called such poems calligrams. geyoma poliner looked bright and could hardly complain about the dullness of his life. once he was even arrested on suspicion of stealing the mona lisa from the louvre. the arrest actually lasted only 5 days. there was no evidence against the poet, and giacondo was soon found. in 1914.... the poet volunteered for the front of the first world war, received a serious wound to the head, from which he was unable to recover completely. recover, and died in 1918 from the spanish flu, he gave the world shocking prose and vibrant publicity, overturned poetic traditions and taught us to see surrealism in life. guilhem apolinaire is a man who changed the cultural world of the 20th century. my love ends like a beast, believe me, you are the worst of all, rubbed, by loss, my heart is like iron, but you melt it , you know how to cut, i never said how much it hurts, how many times i put our songs on rebeat at night, i should forget, it’s stupid to love you like that, now it’s not our day, october 5th, when memory plays like that, you want to go without cola, yes, spending time details, as if it was yesterday, not with you, i say the whole episode, noah, and you riff me in another, but we both speak across the whole hall, with our eyes, what each didn’t say, oh, i i dance the whole episode, but oh-oh. and you are jealous of me, the other one, but we both say across the whole hall with our eyes, what everyone told me, i haven’t felt this pain for a long time , believe me, i want to leave, a strange feeling, love leads to the one you bypass, i’ve never he says, when it hurts, how many times he put our songs on repeat at night, he should be, because it’s stupid to love you so much, now it’s not our day, october 5, not with you, i’m dancing the whole prom, and you’re jealous of me, but we’re both across the hall, with our eyes , we’re saying what everyone told me, oh-oh, i’m dancing the whole prom, nooy, and you're jealous of me, the other one, but we're both through... brought with our eyes to say what each didn't say, oh-oh, i 'm dancing here in a special, oh-oh, and you 're jealous of me in the other, but we're both driven by our eyes to say ! not with you, oh, i’m dancing the whole episode, noah, and you’re jealous of me, but we’re both talking through our eyes. nikita belko saw nastya kravchenko in the frame, we remind you that these are the super finalists of the first season of factor buy, every friday at 20:45, watch the third season of factor buy, i reminded you, and now a little about the weather from my colleague anna valerievna, but i don’t mind. so, let’s announce what awaits us this afternoon in minsk up to 15°c, cloudy with clearings, and there will be more... some precipitation, possibly in the form of rain, +16 +18 will be in brest, there will also not be without precipitation, in vitebsk 11:13 with a plus sign, weather forecasters promise rain, in gomel until 17 with a plus sign, here it will be cloudy with clearings in grodny there will be rain and +14-16 in mogilev 13-15° c, cloudy with clearings, good, well, good, considering that on october 31, friends, the second autumn month ends, chestnuts are blooming somewhere, somewhere, as maryana vasilievna noted, there are lilacs, yes, but here , everything is fine, as if we had moved a little, soon the bees will fly out, collect honey, and i think they will quickly gather back, because it’s only a couple such days will be warm, but at the end of the week it will be cold, but i would like to say, if only all november was like that, in fact, but perhaps it’s bad for nature, but wake up and go to work, in fact, everything we ’re getting at is, yes, yes, we want to say that our colleague olesya boyarskikh spent the day in minsk together with belarus city center for medical rehabilitation of children with psychoneurological diseases, right now, i hope, we are ready to show its plot. providing assistance at the right moment - support and care, this is so important for many of us, what is the project next to by us, we’ll find out right now. this is the first time this project has started. its goal is to draw public attention to the existing problems of socially vulnerable segments of the population, as well as to provide help and support to everyone who needs it . the organizer of this project in general is the republican public association of the patriot of belarus, belarusians are very kind people, but the majority of the people do not know where to apply our kindness, so we give people the opportunity to be kind, this time the charity event was held in minsk city. rehabilitation of children with psychoneurological diseases, the place was not chosen by chance. in this institution there is a girl named lisa, one of the children with sma. and they turned to us for help, because a collection was announced. and thanks to the head of our state, thanks to the policy pursued by the head of our state, this girl falls under a program in which the injection, which costs a lot of money, is real. very large, our state will buy this injection for this girl and save her life. in our center children from 3 months to 18 undergo rehabilitation years, children with diseases of the nervous system, with motor disorders, with hereditary, neuromuscular diseases. we have about 2,700 children every year, and it is very important for our children when our guests come to us, our friends, who help us create joy for the children, many activities and pleasant surprises were organized for the children, gifts were brought to the children, and we also organized an interesting
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