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What our goal is is looking like and not just pick an arbitrary goal but what do we want our life to look like and then create a plan to get there and we can help kids do better but its in their own hands its in their hands thats a lesson every kid should learn and those sort of step the responsibility i can make sure that i never will be poverty and my kids never with a barbie if i do the right thing. Hello my names wendy im 18 years old i go to caprica high school and im a senior this year there was 8 of us dont live together there is a 3 bedroom. There was a lot of trouble once the economy hit and everything my parents they both had lost their jobs it was kind of hard for us to even like cat food all my life even now im still on free and reduced lunch. And free with my little brother house free and reduced lunch and there was 5 of. My sophomore year i was 15. I was on a journey with 50 and coming back slowly nauseous from there and the started noticing that i was feeling different. Sounds like youre either believing or youre pregnant and i was like i dont think im believing the like i had all the time like well ive watched the pregnancy tests and i was like what is this kind of like better and so theres a pregnancy test that came out positive and just kind of frightening so my mom told me what any other parent would say to their kid. Youre going to be fine were going to get through this no matter what happens. What am i going to do how my going to finish school how am i going to do any of the set all. Just. Terrified out of my mind. It turns out in the u. S. Right now an awful lot of children are being born to parents and parents who are not married to each other and that is about 50 percent of the birth the youngest generation in other words about half of the birth and the youngest generation are babies born outside of marriage to typically quite young parents we have norms over the years. With kids who are Single Parents. Generally education. They also. Think kids who come from married couple. More of our kids with their married parents live for their whole childhood with their married parents that also can make a huge difference theyll do better in school will be more likely to college and even though they might compositions magically over the last 3 or 4 decades more kids arent still families who are kids were both there so i think americans are going to figure this out Single Parents alone have high stress levels stigma comes against them because theyre Single Parents. As teenagers we have these adult so we feel like were adults but were very malleable in the sense that were still children in a way our emotions go up and down and happens is so many kids are making these very tough decisions around friends and peer groups and theyre making a lot of decisions around relationships and who their phones love with their intimacy with those people and its just this kind of like these tough things like what really a lot of kids in poverty. I never thought i would. Ever play because i was i am i thought i have a standing that i do so much charity work so Much Community service or everyone at school is like wendy spain is a sheriff mark and she would get one from our family isnt she the church girl i never thought this would happen. You dont think from one night something. Is going to pop out 9 months later you just think oh i have it once here keep going with 5. And a half. And know what you see the picture and blow your whole world just. Turned upside down. And when we talk about participating in risky behavior whether were talking about having sex doing drugs drinking watching pornography whatever it is getting involved in social media. Becoming really addicted to whatever device it is that youre using if were talking about any of those risks to be i think its important to consider. The outcomes of those that its important to consider that were not living for just this moment we have a child you know dont. Really think about the cost that it takes to be a parent the cost in time the cost and finances and i would encourage you to wait until youre married before you have kids wait until you know youve got that 2nd parent that 2nd income that can help you raise that child what kills me is when i see a kid with all the academics to rock it you know they get these all lazy finally they finally break this Glass Ceiling where they put all this hard work in their academics and then they get pregnant with their with their High School Sweetheart and i literally just take 3 steps back and i think its because theres this. Intelligence we just dont talk about like relationship and the strategy around what you do as an emotional being. Always been a daddys girl i would go to him for everything. And i got pregnant he distance himself along he had different views than i did when i told him i was going to keep matthew. Youre going to keep. Going to keep you like he saw me completely. I had matthew on april 26th. I called a month later to see how he was doing. To catch up to see if you want to see my son he calls me. This like i still cant believe you decided to keep him you could have had a future now youre not going to have anything. And its been built 3 years. And i havent heard from what ive heard from people one of my teachers actually. When i wasnt there and everyone from the class told me she said if wendy was my daughter i would take the baby away from her and raise it myself sure but now shes not going to amount to anything. And hearing it from my dad now. And saying youre not going to announce anything youre not going to have a future anymore because i decided to keep my son. It broke me. We as a society have lied to me this weve been dishonest with because what we have said. Is that you can behave any way that you choose you can make any decision or choice that you want to make whatever you feel this this day you can make those kinds of decisions and we will do the best that we can to alleviate the cons. But the fact is we cannot alleviate the consequences it is true that you make your own decisions you can choose any of these paths that you want to choose but we are being dishonest to you when we say we can help you avoid consequences there are consequences for the choices that you know having sex outside of marriage is not going to fill the void that youre trying to fill it only creates more and more of a vast open and. Within you because you are opening yourself in the most moaner a way to another human being who is in no way committed to you and his whose actions. Is our really out of selfishness likely and a desire to meet a need that day. The day i had started getting ready i started a campaign and then by the time i got there they told me it was too late for me to. Im just bawling my eyes out like i dont know what to do ive never done this and whenever he got there. I was scared the 1st time i change just. Like i care to change the diaper he looks and what do you mean you can change diapers like i cant do this i am fix tina i can do this i cannot support him i cannot just call work and raise a child. Bearing at this precious little boy mile at me and im thinking i cant do this at all the only thing going through my head was i cannot get. If you find yourself pregnant at 15 there is no easy option for you you can choose to have an abortion and that is not an easy option it leaves damage for the rest of your life for you and for your family. Having a child at 15 made all kinds of issues because now youre not just a Typical High School kid your response will for another human be youre going to have to find a way to bring in candy youre going to have to tend to a sick baby in the middle of the not when you have homework and you have to get up early and go to class yourself and then your other option would be to place your baby for adoption which is the most difficult decision ive ever seen a young person it is a wonderful choice and it is often the best choice for that child but it is heart wrenching and extremely difficult so once you find yourself in an unplanned pregnancy we cant take away those consequences and you now have very day. Call decisions to me. So i have my little brother i have my son and. About to be given a. Wake up at 6 in the morning around 7 i will wake up my little brother and that around 720 i will get matthew ready for my sisters at 730 take my little brother to 730 i get to school and im racing im running rushing to get there i get out of school i want 30 and i was going to work at to get up before i had to say shall i blame when matthew 30 minutes but i have and then i go to work and whenever i get my 30 minute lunch break do the same thing go to my fish al and spend time with them. And then i get off work around 9 i forgot to put them both of after i put them both to sleep i are working on my homework at around 1030 and i usually fall asleep but i. Was a pandemic no certainly no borders im just blind to nationalities. So much which i really dont look like shed. Be just sitting. Judge. Commentary crisis with this system to london times we can do better we should. Everyone is contributing its your own way but we also know that this crisis will not go on forever the challenges claim to respond. So many good people are helping us. It makes us feel very proud were in it together. The world. That stock trading is free got all that free money from the government because a lot of people speculate. On my hands on guns and money. On them saddam. About what it was it was a bit. More about. What we were to the side that will come and. See. Him but i. Didnt believe. So what i would say to a 15 year old is. All of whom have convinced me. That you are lying but you are and that you are incapable that you are still because i dont believe any of those things that. I believe that you purchase i believe that greatness is only. Believed that you bring into other peoples lives and youll bring value to the law in this child if you choose to but its not going to do things and we have failed and it is now our job to come alongside of it in support to enable you to make better choices go. My mama watch matthew the 1st year that i have and i want to tell their. Thank you mom i love you i appreciate you and work you are. Ok. She shows her love differently. He would show her love by watching him. Taking care of me making shadow on my head. She told me for the 1st time i know i never tell you this often but im so proud of you you have a baby you are working youre going to not only that youre getting she told me that i was a fighter if i dont and if. Youre a strong woman fighting. For me to get a message from her saying im proud of you and everything they are complex everything thats regularly for me was the best prez i could ever get this is what i have been working for him but he years to get us some. Im proud of. Theres a group of villagers working the fields by river when someone in the group noticed a baby floated downstream. One of the men rushed into the water rescued the baby and brought it to shore before it could recover a number of babies were found floating downstream for long there was a steady flow of babies floating down the river and the whole village was involved in the rescue effort pulling babies out of the water and making sure they were made safe but not all of them could be. Some are pulled under by the ranging river rather slipped through the villagers hands while others fell back into the water as the villagers tried to save them. The villagers were saving as many babies is they could before long they became exhausted from all their effort. Frustrated contre. Around the edge one group argued that every possible hand was needed downstream to help rescue the babies they didnt have everyones hope they would lose too many downstream. The other group argued that every possible hand was needed upstream secure find out how the babies were getting into the water they could save all of them in a limit meet the needs of the costly time consuming efforts downstream. To find out how these babies are falling into the river in the 1st place we can stop this and no more babies will drown if we go upstream we can eliminate the cause of the problem. But its too risky some said might fail or take too long to lose too many lives. We owe it to the ones weve lost and our future children to fix the problem upstream and save one else falling into. A drug from a separate water fountains used in texas well how much. Ok what was different about the water. Coming out of it found a. Person. With the album out in the middle of the post that me. Mother grew up more real than most of the. People from completely. All that life all for. Based around. When you. Get in there can always address poverty one is to try to prevent it from ever occurring in the. 1st place and the 2nd is if it does occur to a 1000000 you know provide people with assistance with childcare hours a day has to be. Have to help those who are in need. And you have to help those. In the future and in order to do both you have to work downstream of the circumstances that got us to where we are are unique and so our approach to every person and every family and poverty needs to be as unique as that person in that family and thats difficult to do and its a little overwhelming to think about but people are different its interesting looking back historically on what weve done to address poverty in the United States its mostly been to provide people with assistance of various kinds and those things are needed i think we should not leave people destitute and without such assistance. There is not a lot of evidence that those things are going to move people out of poverty except temporarily i dont think americans are in favor of simply redistributing income what they want is to provide everyone an opportunity to get ahead on their own we believe in equality of opportunity not equality of results. I went to a conference once the conference was an opportunity conference where we invited 74 families from our community and hopes to just allow a pathway to cycle out of poverty majority of the people in this conference were a generational poverty so they came in and they heard from dr diaby goal on her story and were encouraged with the 6 hour program and she would say how many of you know what it is to have a disconnect notice how many of you know. What it is did receive an eviction notice and before long arms were coming up and she allowed them to see that if i can do it you can too we all have hope with us sometimes just gets buried so i had the opportunity to visibly see hope rise to the surface of 74 people and thats not something that you can contain we knew you cant contain hope i left this place with hope and im going to tell everybody about it i want them to know what i know and im going to succeed because people came in the room they didnt know me and i matter i wasnt born i. I am hard. Right im no longer in this isolation where im irrelevant or i have to walk around and lead with this label of shame little by little the hope starts to take that label off and when people come into place youre able to replace that label with words of worth instead of allowing that person to feel. We all are the same when it comes to what our basic needs are and what our basic desires are and i think if we really think about what we have in common with one another thats where we can start to create a basis of understanding a person saying im not going to judge you im not going to criticize you im not going to do you value your lived experience because its different than my you say to the other human being what ever dream youve ever had is still possible. When i was growing up it felt like there were a few gives that were completely off the leash. And there are a few kids that were trying really hard to. Choices. There. But most of us are somewhere in this gray area where were trying to get our toes as close as we can without completely stepping over but really convicted either way were just trying to get. What. Is that there are more kids off the rails. There are very few. But there are. People who are committed who are strong who are focused who want to make good. Are making and. That is my hope for the next generation. And that hope comes from the stories that we hope. You can do this were going to stand by were going to help you get 3 days after the power to turn the ship and. Good decision after that. One of the bigger you have to realize the things you do from 24 compound interest of things that were going to take you to places that you can but understand what you do today is going to play more interest than anything else youre playing a game thats bigger than yourself youre playing a game for your familys name for your kids that dont even exist yet for your grandkids benefit off of the hard work you put into. Not all poverty is preventable but we know certainly. That based on research and the research that were using for our programs some of that can be preventable we want to help them we want to help the Community Around us nats what were trying to rally our Community Around and support a lot of times when i work with people who currently live in the crisis of poverty they also are not smart enough to get a skill not smart enough to go to college to ask for help you got to ask for help in poverty teach you dont ask for help. Thats the wrong message. Nobody makes it alone absolutely no one we have to Work Together we have to overlap with other organizations we have to be community is the key is allowing hope but we cant allow hope we cant communicate hope we can allow worth until theres a relationship. That not only helps those who are in the river but also gives them the help their kids and their kids not be in the river thats the movement we want when we reach out to people across. These barriers of poverty barriers of political opinion. We can really find some unique treasures in people who are different from months and find out that theyre not so different after all. I am. The world is driven by a dream shaped by one person or those better. Than. The day or thinks. We dare to ask. Is anyone safe in that era wrong conservatives are the thought forms to monetise then shout a better those were the easy ones now the mob is turning on its own long face demands conformity and does not dissent is freedom of speech now only for the will. Of. This politically impossible in the United States to advise eating wasnt anything that has the industry to be among the that makes a lot of money. And going to say over and over again we know what it healthy diet is it means not being should much for one for one thing and eating less is very very bad for business it doesnt make anybody rich if people eat less food. Coming out of the community. Greetings and salutations yes put another candle out on the cake as the United States of america celebrates another birthday with this years coming and going of the 4th of july but. There is not much room for celebration because well my friends things are looking pretty grim here in the red white and blue land of enchantment and tater tots yes on the eve of its 244th birthday a majority of folks living inside the United States say that things are definitely not looking up in fact according to the high