Doug emhoff is Making History of his own. What is your job . As he redefines an old role for a new generation. Theres this toxicity, this masculine idea of what a man is. A father. Its the kids initials. I just really wanted a reminder of whats important to me. Who with the Vice President is marking many firsts. This is very emotional to be able to do this. Reporter while still trying to make time for each other. Were not each others chief of staff. Were husband and wife. Its the opportunity of a lifetime for the former Entertainment Lawyer who gave up his job to support his wife. Men need to support women. We talk to people in politics and pop culture, and find out what its like to be them. Now being the second gentleman. Whats it like to be The First Second gentleman . Im only The First Second gentleman because the country elected the first woman Vice President , so i look at it really mostly in that lens. Im here because im her husband. Im here to support her. So help me god. Reporter but hes also rewriting Unspoken Rules and road maps largely designed by men for women. Theres a library at the residence where we live, and its i think every single book ever written by a Vice President about a Vice President about the vice presidency, and our favorite ones title is Vice President s and second ladies. And think about it. Were going to need a new book because theres now a man in this role, and i say half jokingly i may be the first, i better not be the last. What do you think that sort of title or the headline of that book should be . It should not even be a big deal that im a man going forward. We need to have more women in leadership. There needs to be more women in government, more women in the business world, more women in communications. More women in the military, you name it. So i want to be in a world where this is not unique. This is not unique at all. Reporter but for now, it is unique, which means deciding whether hell take on some of the traditional duties like Party Planning and holiday decorating that americans think of when they think about first and second ladies. Picking the china patterns and arranging the dinners and doing more of the social aspects. Do you do any of that . Things like that well do together. My wife and i, the Vice President , but because of the circumstances in which we took office and the time, really mostly focused on covid and vaccinations and just fanning out across the country. To see what was going on, and a lot of what i do is listen. A lot of small group meetings, hear what was happening right on the ground, and bring it back to the administration. There hasnt been a lot of time for the ceremonial part. Maybe there will be moving forward. Is there any part of you that thought i better do the ceremonial stuff because thats what a woman would do . I dont want to genderize it. I think were a married couple, and we do a lot of these things together, so if theres things that we need to pick out or the decor decorations, or having an event, ill give my input, but its like how we are as a typical married couple, what we will do in our other life. We looked at things together. We pick it out, and were both busy, and we move on. So im not trying to make it where this is my job. What is your job . First and foremost is to support her. We work in an office called office of the Vice President and this office that youre sitting in is really here to support the Vice President , support the president , support the administration any way we can. In addition to being her husband. Since Abigail Adams in 1779, a Vice President s spouse was a woman. Emhoff calls one of those women his mentor, now first lady jill biden. Was there a crash course when you came into this . I know there was no manual to be the second gentleman because it didnt exist before, but to be the second spouse . Theres no manual, and dr. Biden said as much to me because i did ask her, well, you had this role, what can i expect . She said, first, you wont believe me if i told you, and two, its just going to be different for you because youre a man, and shes a woman, and youre the first one. And kind of the times were in right now. But just be yourself. Be authentic, and support her. The term second lady first used in the 1890s, but there wasnt much of a public role until pat nixon started traveling independent of her husband to promote causes. There are now five living former second ladies, marilyn quail, tipper gore, lynne cheney, jill biden and karen pence. Whod you talk to . I talked to mrs. Pence. Was she helpful . She was, she was. We had a very nice conversation. What was the most important advice she gave you . She was very helpful because having been in the residence right before, theres a lot of just, you know, its nonintuitive things that happen living in this type of situation. Like what . That she was very helpful with. Just from paying the bills, how does the food get in and just, youve seen a lot of the security. So just the basics of evidence everyday life, ver helpful on. Of course ive talked to our now first lady many times. I talked to tipper gore as well. Whatd she tell you . She just had a great Historical Perspective on the residence and what it was like to raise a family there and just some of the just the history of it because i really wanted to get a sense of what i was getting into. Reporter emhoff has had a sense of what he was getting into from the beginning. We cannot delay or deny individuals their civil rights. Reporter he met the now Vice President later in life when she was a rising political star and he was a successful corporate and Entertainment Lawyer. A lot of couples in politics, they get together young and they kind of work their way up the ladder together. You and the Vice President met as adults, well into adulthood. Yes. And she was already the Attorney General of the state of california. Yeah. You never had anonymity with her, meaning, as a couple, from the minute you met, it was already a relationship in The Public Eye. But not like this. People knew her. It was funny because she was living in San Francisco at the beginning, and i was living in l. A. , and id been an Entertainment Lawyer for a long time, so wed be in l. A. , and people would come up to me and say, hey, doug, hows it going . How does everyone know you . You know, i was kip of somebody here in this town before i met you. It was pretty funny to have had her see that so we were able to have a normal kind of trajectory on the relationship in those early days. We can go to dinner, go to Movies Earnings appeared maybe a few people would come and say hi and take a picture or two, but nothing like now. He left his law firm in the days after the election and now has his own office in the white house complex. Up there is the second gentleman wood cutout. Where he displays proud possessions like this sign he says was given to him during the 2020 campaign made by a veteran suffering from posttraumatic stress. They presented me with the second gentleman sign. I said, well, i cant take this, we havent won. Okay, if we win, im going to put that in my office. So i promise made, promise kept. So tell me about this photo. So this is the first flight that we both took on air force 2 ever, so the first flight ever was together, and this was that moment after we walked up this flight of stairs, which is surprisingly steep and very windy, and so of course the whole way up youre thinking, oh, my goodness i better not, you know, trip or anything. And then you get to the top and its that moment that weve all seen hundreds of times of president s and first ladies and Vice President s and second ladies just doing that turnaround, and here we are doing it. It was was it out of body . It was kind of one of those surreal, overwhelming moments, and theres no theres no Instruction Manual for Something Like this, but i just love her eyes. You can just see the smile and just the pride. Coming up let me show you this, its probably one of my favorite spots here. Our Exclusive Tour of the Naval Observatory Grounds where the second couple lives and the second gentlemans tattoos. Were you sober . Ish. [ laughter ] i choose airborne. Unlike some others, airborne gives you vitamin c and much more. Its an in 1 immune support formula. Airborne. Do more. Good checkup . No, great checkup. Nailed it again keep up the good work for great checkups, crest has you covered. Because crest prohealth protects 100 of your mouth for 24 hours. 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This is run by the navy. Yeah, this is owned by the navy. And it was the home of the head admiral of the navy for all that time up until 1977 when the Vice President s families started living here, and were on a naval base. This is a working naval base, most of which is the atomic clock, where they keep the exact time of the United States. We went for a tour of the grounds steeped in history. So on my left is one of my favorite things. The swing . Its a swing. And theres a plaque, and it says joe loves jill. I have never sat on it because i dont want to break it. Let me show you this. This is well, first of all, this framing, its so pretty. He took us to the family heritage garden, a quiet place of reflection that honors previous Vice President ial families and their pets. Oh, wow. Millie. President h. W. Bush was Vice President and they lived here for eight years. Are you scared that i actually remembered the name of his dog . I love it, i love it. [ laughter ] sometimes if you just sit in here knowing that youre literally amongst history and its such a great, Beautiful Contemplative place to think about, you know, whats happening right now. How often do your kids get here . Not enough. Not enough. I mean, theyre grown people. Emhoff has two Adult Children from a previous marriage to kirsten emhoff, they divorced when their kids were young. Ella is 23, a Fashion Designer and model in new york who became an influencer of sorts during the 2020 campaign. And 28yearold cole is regally engaged and working in hollywood. How have they adjusted to being in The Public Eye, even though theyre not here, theyre emhoffs. Id say ellas, you know, in The Public Eye with her career. I think shes out there. Im so proud of her, im still her dad so im always i see what shes doing, and im always just thinking about her as her dad. Coles doing his thing. Hes getting married next year. Hes also in the entertainment industry, so we talk a lot. I dont see him as much as i can, but were talking at least four or five times a week face timing, texting. One of the things i love, ill be walking in and as we now know, the v. P. Cant text. Shes on the phone with the kids. Ill come in ask shes laughing. Oh, whos that . Its ella or cole. Normal, we wanted to be parents first. And as intense as this whole thing is, we want them to know were still there for them as their parents. Yeah. Yeah. Thats the goal. But its hard to jump on a plane and go see them if theyre having a bad day or have them come here. Its probably easier to have them come here. It is, but a lot of the schedule, moving parts and theyre adults. Theyve got busy theyve got jobs and busy lives, so id say that can be the toughest part, but id say if i was still a lawyer back in l. A. , id probably be saying the same thing. Yeah, right. Show me your tattoos. You talked about ill show you one. This is very simple. Ill show you two. Its the kids initials, i got this shortly after kirsten and i separated. I just really wanted a reminder of whats important to me, and it was cole and ella, and i just wanted a visceral reminder of them. So cole is coltrane, and ella is ella fillings gerald. We were very much into the jazz. Were you always a tattoo guy . No. So what made you wake up one day and say, oh, im going to get my kids initials on my wrist. Many people who got tattoos. It was a whim. Were you sober . Ish. [ laughter ] and i just decided on the spur of the moment, you know what . This is something i want to do. I just wanted to make sure i was focused on the most important thing in my life, which was the children and they still are. The other one, you can tell me, its personal to the vp and i. Its personal to me. It has to do with the year you were born . Its in reference to the year we were born, 1964. How many days apart are you . Seven. It took us 40 some odd years to finally meet, but here we are. This is all part of the residence. Reporter he takes daily walks on the grounds here, now with his position and the secret Service Detail with it, its one of the only places he can be outside and alone. For instance, if i wanted to just go out and grab a cup of coffee, youve got to go with all the security. But i can walk out here by yourself. By myself. So i dont have to call them up and say im going out. So this is it. I love to walk, and so a lot of times ill just kind of walk and and just take it in and take in the beautiful nature here. Do you have to tell them im going outside to take a walk . Or do you just go and then they just know . They just know. If you go right outside the gate, then you have to tell them, and i joke its almost like one of those movies, like truman show where you cant walk past that other side . Ill have had family here and helping them out with their bags and maybe their car is 20 feet from the gate at the front. Im like, im so sorry. I cant do this. Otherwise its going to take 20 minutes and ive got to call up the crew, and then all these cars show up. This is the only place when were on these grounds not on the navy base side but on the residence side that we can walk out here. Now, of course they know and theyll theyre watching. The political Immigration Debate has literally come to your doorstep right over there. The measure of what were doing to bus people from the rio grande valley, from the Border Region to washington, d. C. Reporter the area just outside the gates of the Naval Observatory Made Headlines after Texas Governor greg abbott sent busloads of migrants to the Vice President s residence and left them on the sidewalk. Republicans slammed Kamala Harris for mismanaging the border, addressing Root Immigration causes in Central And South America is in her portfolio. Its shameful. These are human beings. These are people, not palms, anand pawns, and leaders, governors of state knead to focus on the issue at hand and not use these folks who are fleeing immense violence and cruelty to escape. He says its his wife, the Vice President , who helps him keep it real. Okay, so what does she call you again . Dougie. That was a good imitation. It doesnt matter where we are, on stage in front of the team, its like dougie or my dougie as shes adjusting my collar and checking things out. But your official title is second gentleman. Oh, that