Im sure you knew some people, hoda. You know whats funny . First of all, it struck me this morning when i mean, you know whts coming, obviously, when you live in new york. But when you think a dozen years, we talked about like every 12yearold child, 12 or younger, did not experience 9 11 and didnt know really what it was like. Theyre just learning about it from family and friends. And i have a its funny when you think of your memory. I remember this is weird. I remember coming into work like everyone was. Everyone was racing in. And they asked me to go on the roof and do a live shot and there were security concerns and asked me to go down stairs. It was one of those weird sort of up and down the stairs things. I remember sitting in makeup for a second and a woman doing makeup was panicky and she said, i have a loved one in the towers. And we were watching the towers. And one fell, and i remember i watched her, and the phone rang in the makeup room. Right then. I watched her pick up the phone. Her back was to me and her shoulders were heaving up and down. And i said, oh, my god, this is like a moment and she turned around and she said, shes okay. And like you know whats funny, what comes into your mind and into your memory when something and it was st for her it was relief and for so many families, about 3,000 thats just it. If you were a member of that family, of the 3,000 or so that were lost my ill never forget it for a couple of reasons. I was at home in connecticut. Those planes came right over our house. They were flying obviously very low. And i was down in our gym. I couldnt believe they were letting the planes fly that low. Right. That was what what is going on . So i get up to the house and i realize whats going on. And we realized that my assistant taryn, who was almost eight months pregnant with her first child then, her husband, tom, was in the north tower and ultimately was lost with so many. He had been in the World Trade Center in 1993 and had actually saved some peoples lives during that attack, but this time he didnt make it out. And, of course, her child was born. He will be 12 years old in just a couple of weeks. And every time i see that child i just i remember that day i went in and wrote this song for him called little baby. Wow. Little baby, youre still unborn, too young to cry, too young to mourn. We should point out a moment of silence. 10 03 is the moment the plane went down in shanksville, pennsylvania. There is a moment of silence in the country. Anyway. Heres a beautiful story, though. My friend, who lost her husband, now has not only a beautiful 12yearold little boy, but she did marry again and she has a gorgeous little girl now, too. So as much as its been painful, theres healing. You cant rush healing. You really cant. Everyone has their own schedule for it. Mourning takes a long, long time. But god can bring beauty out of ashes, too. Yeah. You know, when you look at the reflecting pools that they have down there now at ground zero, when you look at that, its really very theres something very serene about it. You know, hoda, i have not been down. I started to go down three times and have never ive always turned back. And i dont know why yet. Like you said, healing comes on its own. I look at it and it makes me joyful to know something beautiful is being made out of it. But i still personally cant. And i dont know why. And there is a museum thats going to open early next year, i think. Early next year. And its been sort of in the works for a while now. Willie i think took a little a tour of it. Got to see some of it before it was open to the public. They have all sorts of things from that day. They have tributes. They have obviously just twisted metal and things there. And there is also they were saying there is a room that you have to actually make a turn to go into that shows you a destination room. Yeah. The more difficult things to watch. That was always the dilemma. Wasnt it . How much do you show of this horrifying day . How sensitive you want to be to the victims families and everything else. But at the same time we dont want to forget this horrendous, horrendous attack and the physical and human cost that it brought. Right. You know, so i think that is a wise way that is very solomonic. I think thats great. If you need a little inspiration, there was a woman, and i thought this was terrific, there was an inspirational obituary. And this is not connected to 9 11. But a woman from wisconsin. And her name was mary agnes mullaney. You love her already. She was nicknamed pink. She had lots of kids and grandkids. And when she passed away they decide write down her words of wisdom. Things they remembered. 17 grandchildren. Yes. So here are a few of them. Let a dog or two or three share your bed. Thanks to frank letting our dogs out at night we have three where we once had one. Heres another one. Never throw away old panty hose. Use the old ones to tie gutters, childproof cabinets, tie toilet flappers, or hang christmas ornaments. See, thats what i love about this woman, because theres really nothing much uglier than used panty hose but she was willing to put it all over the place. Proudly hang it from her gutters. And i want to know what one thing is. What is a toilet hanger . Flapper. Flapper. We dont know. Is that the handle . Oh, the plunger. Why would you tie you know what . Apparently she knew something we dont know. Thank you. Take magazines you have read to the Doctors Office for others to enjoy but do not tear off the mailing label because if someone wants to contact me that would be nice. All right. Invite hello. Invite new friends over to thanksgiving dinner. Bonus points if theyre from another country. My daddy used to do that. We were always late for thanksgiving it seems like to me because he would be doing the Washington Post rounds that morning. Even if its a holiday he had to work. And he would be late. And hed usually bring a little old lady that oh, how sweet. Yes. And never say mean things about anybody, hoda. She says there are poor souls to pray for. And lastly, give to every charity that asks. I like this. Choose to believe the best about what they do with your money no matter what your children say theyve discovered online. Thats good. I want to give a shout out to dennis basso real quick. Dennis basso is a fashion guy. Hes a designer. Hes a designer. And a bigger than life personality. He is. Hes big. Hes got a booming voice. He was there. Your buddies were there. Neil sedaka was there. Yes. Jim miller, carol alt were there. Another bunch of people. It was fun for dennis. He rocked. His stuff rocked the runway. Apparently there was a picture posted on instagram, insta stop with you, with the message, hoda kotb with her own clutch design. Theres nobody like you. Ziplocs work fine. One of my favorite things that you said today was first of all the elections in new york are finally over. Well, sort of. Two people got rejected. Eliot spitzer and Anthony Weiner. Yep. So what would have been a good headline . Well, i had a suggestion. Are we going to show it . Did we mock it up . There it is. It was up there. And they were seeing it at home. So so schlong. So Anthony Weiner came in fifth. Right. By the way, while he was at his it was supposed to be a celebration party. A concession party. The girl who was sexting him the last one that we know of. That we know of. What was her name . Sydney leathers. Of course. She was there. She crashed the party in her best. When asked why she was there she said, i feel like its my obligation. I mean, i will only be 23 years old once. What does that have to do with anything . Nothing. Nothing. She also told said that Anthony Weiner should have left the race long ago because hes such an embarrassment. People say i ruined his marriage but he ruined his marriage. She should know a Little Something about embarrassment. I think yeah. Yeah, shes ridiculous. And Eliot Spitzer but she is 23, as you said. We cut her a little more slack than we do for Anthony Weiner. Eliot spitzers race was tight. 53 . Now, diana nyad, we were talking about it yesterday. We were sort of standing up for her for this 64yearold woman who finished this 110mile race from cuba all the way to the keys. She swam all the way. And then there were these naysayers saying oh, diana nyad, blah, blah, blah. So for 3 1 2 hours yesterday she was on a phone Conference Call with these swimmers that were questioning her. Well, she actually spoke. Yes. Why dont we listen to what she had to say . Okay. Dont i deserve a little luck after ive had so much bad luck on my previous four tries . I had at least the persistence to keep trying until finally we got a little luck on our side. When you set a huge world record like this, youve got to vet it. Youve got to ask every question. Youve got to put the swimmer under a microscope and make her answer all these questions. I did the swim with my own body and my own mind fair and square, squeaky clean. Good for her. Good for her. You know, the trouble with anybody that goes through this is we have too many representations of the other, people that swore they never took performance we have our Lance Armstrong situation and all these others. Where people swore they never did anything. And i want to believe diana nyad. I do believe her. I do, too. But im just saying people are cynical now in this world because it seems like everybody is cheating. You know what . Well, there are a lot of people who do that. I just dont like the people who sit in their big chair and say really . You did that . Prove it to me. Well, why . Shes 64. She had boats with her. This is her umpteenth time to do it. She finished it. Its documented. Give her credit where her credit is due. I thought it was crazy. I totally agree. We have a lot. Coming up, the new iphone is out. You are already im already passe. I finally came into this century and im already old. Over. Theres a new iphone. This one you can put your thumb on it instead of punching in your pass code. I dont want to. Go like that and then it turns on. You can buy things. And what happens when i then say hoda, why dont you look at this picture or take a picture of me, hoda . Then ill have to have you put your thumb on it so ill unlock it and then ill take it. My head is going to explode. I think its going to be a real pain. And i dont want my secret thumbprint being stored in a device. Well, they already know everywhere youve been and everything youve done. Yep, yep. Thank you, nsa. Find out what making deposits into the love bank can do for your marriage. And our hulu quiz game takes you on a trivia trip down the catwalk. Right after this. Now youre in new york [ female announcer ] youve got finding time for what matters, down to a science. Youre the reason we reformulated one a day womens. A complete multivitamin that now has extra b vitamins, which help convert food to energy. Energy support for the things that matter. Thats one a day womens. Nothing to say. I have nothing to say. If you have ever wondered what the secret to holding a relationship together is, some might argue its the love bank, hoda woman. If you are making more withdrawals than deposits trouble could be coming your way. Here to help us balance the account. Our relationship expert and author of the breakup bible, rachel sussman. And relationship therapist to the stars, ian kerner. So good to see you both. Hey. You are calling it a love bank. Absolutely. Thats the term we are using. Whats the general concept here . Well, i mean, i think you have your relationship. You want to put it you have a ratio between positive and negative interactions in your relationship. Right . Every day you want to deposit positive interactions. You do not want to withdraw through negative interactions. Youre sitting with your partner. Youre listening to them. Youre talking to them. Youre smiling. Thats a positive interaction. And even Something Like teasing could be seen as a negative thing. The teasing could be positive if youre making it positive, you have humor, but the point is you want more deposits than withdrawals. All couples fight. And all couples pick at each other. But when you do nice things is this going to get you through tough times . The fact that youve got a whole bunch stocked in the love banks . I think what this encourages people to do is think about their relationships the way they think about money. Think about how often we sit down with our partners and we decide are we going to buy something, are we going to invest in something, can we afford this . Can we really go on that dinner or go on that date . If you actually took that time to think about your relationship, youd have a much stronger one. Have you ever sat with a couple at dinner and watched them kind of go at each other and they dont even realize theyre doing it . And it becomes almost part of the normal conversation, like that is that sort of negativity can just really take over your life. Thats what were talking about. Thats the withdrawal from the love bank. Youve got to be mindful. If youre someone who tends to be critical or you and your spouse spar with each other, youve got to kind of turn it back and say what can i do today thats nice, how can i be pleasant . Maybe just think before you say something. We just live so spontaneously that without thinking we think do you think some things are such big withdrawals its hard to ever turn back like infidelity or Anthony Weiner made a big withdrawal. That bankrupted the bank. And not seeing her through it and it makes you wonder if that one is over. Couples that are stuck in sex ruts and havent been intimate in the last three weeks. Thats also three weeks . Months. Two months. Three months. A year. Okay. But thats also a withdrawal. And thats a great deposit that you can make. You know . Yeah, but its also true that theres all kinds of intimacy in this world. We sometimes i think put too much emphasis on sex. Some people cant have sex anymore and yet they are very intimate in their relationship. Billy graham once said to me so we continue our romance with our eyes. Mmhmm. And i just thought, theres something to be learned from that as well. Thats beautiful. And you know what . I think i was reading about this. Just as you have like a joint account with your partner i think you also have your own individual account with your yourself that you need to deposit into. You need to have your friends, your interests, your hobbies. You know, you cant always just be dependent on what do you do about a friend . That just always takes. Always takes. What can you do . Well, listen. I think that can be very exhausting. When you have a friend who is a real taker. Sometimes you have to have a talk with them. And youve got to have a balanced relationship. Relationships that arent balanced you think they dont realize it . I think mostly they dont realize it. Maybe its someone whos in crisis or maybe its someone whos but some relationships work because one is the giver and one is the taker. Sometimes they end up working out that way. It has to be symbiotic in that way. Its got to be everyones happy and okay with it. But back to friendships, in relationships the friendships are so important. And youre not always going to have sex. When you have that strong relationship, that strong friendship with your partner, i think you can withstand some of the hard times. Thank you for all of the information. We hope that did well in the ratings. Okay. Talk about relationship makers and breakers, can a modern wife live a happy life if shes submissive to her husband . A fascinating book. One womans humorous look after trying for a year. But first these messages. We werent really morning people. Then we tried this nutrigrain fruit crunch bar. Its so crunchy. Crunchy granola, mmmm. Made with real fruit, 20 grams of whole grains. Now, we love mornings. All right. It is fashion week in new york, which brings to mind a question. Are you ready to answer this one . Yes. Which supermodel was o valedictorian of her high school . Heidi klum, Cindy Crawford or tyra banks . We are going to answer that question. I think i know. Am i supposed to say . But what if youre right . No ones watching over there. Cindy crawford. And youre right. And can a type a wife give up control and play second fiddle to her husband . It is called a tease. It is submissiveness. We will talk about it. Interesting. We are back with more of today on this wines day wednesday. Ready to play our weekly trivia game we call who knew. And as new York Fashion Week winds down we are taking a look at some fun fashion facts. Kathie lee is across the street at the nbc experience store. She is ready to give out 100 for those who get it right. And for those who dont they get a kathie lee cd. Here to help me out in the studio is tv host and Fashion Lifestyle expert louise roe. Hello. Are you ready . Im so ready. Before the commercial we asked which supermodel was a valedictorian of her high school . Heidi klum, Cindy Crawford or tyra banks. And kathie lee, what did you say . I said it was Cindy Crawford. You were right, as usual. Very smart lady. Take it away, girl. Which brand is behind the first ever pair of blue jeans . Levi strauss, tommy hilfiger, burberry, or perry ellis . Im going to say levi. Yeah, smart girl. Levi. 1872. Can you believe that . I know. Its nuts. Its nuts. He was a german immigrant. Came over to america as a dry goods salesman and made a pair of jeans and killed it. Genius. Still killing it. Back across to kath. Lovely lady from illinois. Which of the following supermodels is the top paid model of 2013 according to the forbes list . Kate upton, kate moss, gisele bundchen, or miranda kerr . Im going to say a, kate moss. A was kate upton. You were wrong twice. Give her two cds. The correct answer gisele bundchen. Seven years in a row now. Okay. Reportedly. Lets hear it. 42 million. No big deal. Are you serious . Tom brady apparently got 38. So theyre doing okay. Disgusting. All right. Back across to kathie. All righty. From ohio. What happened in the sex and the city episode when Carrie Bradshaw was asked to model in a fashion show . Did she get sick on the stage . Did she did her top rip open . Did she get in a fight with the models . Or did she trip and fall . Ill just take a cd. Okay. Excellent. Everyone has a story i like when she sings. This is a classic moment from sex and the city history. We all remember it. She absolutely stacked it. There it is. Goner. And then heidi klum who plays herself walks over her and she is deemed fashion road kill forever. Love it. All right. Back across to kath. This lady is from the oregon coast. Okay. Got to do a little singing. Finish the lyrics to this 1990 madonna hit. I know a place where