Is i know who wants people to express themselves. Know most of the Sexual Orientation. So we know that money can complicate things in a Partnership Like when love or sex are used as an exchange for money. Were talking here of cost about spawn says bless says or so the mommies and daddies. So we want to stick a closer look at the blessed a bless the culture, specifically in south africa. And some young women opened up to us about the experience. I felt wondering though this next report discusses dependency and relationships and sexual violence. When she started his studies 23 year old in the plunder tumble from the widow was struck by the expensive looks clothing and excessive shopping. Hestetler classmates enjoyed to friends with so cold sleigh queens who depend on richmond to maintain the last stop. They introduced her to her own less than a wealthy married man who was more than 20 years a senior to this c p literally get the cd right prostate. But the gifts did not come for free and tumble. Soon discovered that she need to perform sexual status. This is when she started having 2nd thoughts, you know, by doing what do you want, this is kind of just felt like, oh, i was the invited into, im sorry, says, but type of prostitution. But then now i have to now make do with whatever just comes by just because of the, the fact that you want to slice that you want. You want soft lice, lavish know, luxurious, a soft pull to struggle to survive in a society with money and how a concentrated in the hands of mid tempo is some man. Even believe money gives them the right to control a womans freedom. 46 road modular field because he has 3 mistresses. He does not allow them to work, leave the house without his permission or are in a cell phone woman that easily tend to. So we need to control that. They need to be in your finger tips. As a re election for me, i was really hot. I went to school so that i can have money. I can have power. I can control that his behavior might entirely unto mine his girlfriends right to Self Determination seems a little concerned to be the kazi, both he and his friend claim to pay that girlfriend around 400 years each cuz people mock long ago. This is pure business. I mean, thats the whole point. So let me know what we, what we do is we take care of women. Then they what, what do we get into tennis . Loved, thats all. So thats why nothing else. Sorry, the sites. Do you use the 6 um, being taken care of . Just someone making you feel special in a recent sounds after the health of a one in 10 young women reported to have had transactions that this is a massive problem that says also jackie about saying we meet the old in an up market a hotel in johannes somewhat say as well known as the head look, which feels to be on the blessing and bless the culture so much say experience with fluid borders between transactional sets and shes been traveling to this hotel. Yeah, i remember that as a young girl, she ran away from a violent time and became involved with a very wealthy man, a few months into that relationship. He took the on a private to us with politicians, businessman and the mistresses being trapped in the middle of the ocean. She had no choice but to enjoy being raped multiple times. It can be changed. It like this. In hot, if administer wants to buy, you still buy you regardless of who you dating in the green. So even if youre dating the wall, is that in the group taken change, you also have business deals because administer often traumatizing. Yes. Im on the same manage to escape the garage, so the chief little girl, i wish to merge. The book about her experience is a warning that the world of glamour that we see on our phones and internet platforms is sometimes fun from the actual social media gives us an invasion of to fix it. Comforts that to be expected. And people will that this is and you dont even know that just to get a headset district in front of us. What are the many other things you have to do . Thats for the one in the back. And so went to the la kazi meets his girlfriend. Relates to mine, he wants to buy her a new hand back, which is nice, but somebody is not early enough for the luxuries she has a baby and needs the money to buy basic necessities. Ready to pay rent, and shes well aware of the dependency she finds herself, said that as young calls have to sleep in all the guys and pretend is this the old you okay with everything just because of course, around here, chances of subs out, you dont have 0 percentages of getting a to do anything and everything to get it that sits in time with the post quite a bit. Economy in charges and then the Unemployment Rate of the 60 percent. The outlook for these young women is bleak, being less becomes a basic way of survival in the female body and objects that can be bought and bought it. But of course not all relationships, so this complicated and well money often plays a role. Its all fine about simpler things like who gets to pay for the bill on the dates. So we wanted to know what your experience as well and for this we went to millennium fox. You know, just i switched views and it comes to green a big, you know, just some guys the, the thing just guess im not really sure. Like so much wrong. So this. Yeah. Yeah, looks well, yeah. So youre not able to provide for different times where you want to have more than you think the most expensive place in the world to go through. And then by time you finish, do you feel like this one is of verizon that i got . How much is a really good i mean you are calculating your, you know, if you back home because it obviously can afford to mute us it. So that way if i was, if someone and i couldnt finish the food annual like you must finish, it tells me all right. Its like almost finished. You really nice ones because a red flag like how will you tell me i must finish people because this way more than bang i and i have no idea how it would behave. If somebody forced me to finish my would because they were paying for the bill, but you know what dating aside, we also wanted to find out what attracts people to each other and what makes relationships work. So heres what you said. The one thing that draws me on is if i knew the picture like right, i need to respect i. So i so the she was bianca. Its the model. And basically i was just in the i dropped fits and i guess it doesnt every day with the huge increase of, of my life. She was always there for me just of what the need the time that ive never had such support every my life. Hes on this, let me just say its a next to me and when it, by his role he do apologize. That the most amazing part of it really interesting to me. She was always. I mean, oh, dont that youre about me. Youre about me and even sure about money, runaways. And then he asked me what that was like, boy, that kind of that. Why didnt you that can there are a 1000000 different ways to love. And who you choose to love should really only be a method for you and your partner, much in life. This isnt always the case. Your family friend, society and Even National laws. Can you tell me where you kind of cant have an intimate relationship with, as well as, who are you kind of identify as im talking about the l g, b, 6, you plus community. We still faces this combination as well as defamation, and attacked by both states as society all around africa. So lets start so by unpacking gender identity and Sexual Orientation and what the left to stand for. We s o sits under the nation, should experts cause its a breaking down for us . Hello there, and welcome to the spread a safe space where we get to discuss everything, sex and relationships. Today we have a question on gender and sexual diversity. The question reads take as, as a pass, im trying to be a better l g b t q plus ally. Im finding it hard to understand all the new language around agenda, sexuality and 6. Is there a way you can simplify it for me . So i can better understand how to conduct myself in spaces where i meet diverse groups. Id really appreciate it. Thanks. Lets start by creating 3 boxes, biological or assigned sex, gender, and Sexual Orientation. Each of these boxes has many sub sections, but well focus on the most important points. The 1st box, biological 6, is what the doctor use is to identify you at best. Based on your genet tatum. Yeah. Most of the time its either male or female, but there are also cases where one is born with both male and female genitalia, that person is known as into 6. The 2nd box is agenda. Gender is a social construct. Its what society throws that you to place you in a binary box of either male or female. For example, the wells and the color pink are set to belong to only girls. Where is trucks and the color blue are set to belong to only boys, but not everybody conforms to this agenda. Binary gender identity comes from your in a sense of self and may not align with the sex that you were assigned at best. You could be male, female, both neither or some other agenda. And this could mean for example, that youre not comfortable with the pronouns he or she and would rather be referred to as they or them. For example, the fed box is Sexual Orientation. This has to do with the attraction that you have to a person based on their agenda, which can be romantic, emotional, or physical men. And women strictly attracted to the opposite agenda, a known as heterosexual. If youre attracted to some of the same gender, you could be homosexual. If youre attracted to someone regardless of their sex or gender identity, you could be pansexual. Keep in mind that this really is just the tip of the iceberg. Thats so much more to learn about the l g b t q plus community. I hope this has been helpful and i do urge you to keep doing your research online. Well informed allies like you are very important. Thats it for me, gaz till next time. Good bye. Thank you. Okay. And if youre interested in learning more about special minorities or just indicating yourself about sex on the body in general, you can have to Instagram Page where we have a series this has on just that. Now here, return you between 2 people of the same gender is to punishable by law. This law has been in place is nice you sexy and results in sexual minorities being harassed and left with virtually no protection from police of the states. In january 2023, a young can impression design the l g b to q activist. And when she logo was to fucking widespread, created the for community, we spoke to some people who are still willing to speak up can yes, l g, b t q community is on a lot in january 2023 and went to law about a student Fashion Design the and k rights activist was killed in the canyon town of el darn it. Is project death since shockwave through the community Makeup Artist dentist and gary felt the impact when women use 1st care and you know like, i was not sure whats happened, edwin. And i was like, i really hope its not about how he had them saved themselves as of late. Theres been a lot of hits. Um ive been receiving a lot of shifts and lots of competitors on entering. Everybodys telling me, you know, if you dont take care, youll end up like, and we, dentist was always aware that his Sexual Orientation was not accepted by society. But the online debates about edwins death has degenerated into an empty l. G b t q plus hate campaign. Right . Now they, at the most phase came that changed the final 2 out of the safety of the sexually to of their Sexual Orientation. Im going to be, i walk place. You can simply leaving the house can be a problem then not safe to go outside. Youre not sure that shouldnt be safe unless you have security to but the environment and they and the solution, right . And now inside of beats, run grab was intense to just take some time before we get back to our conflict. So if the government coming the lives of hips to add minority to groups, i feel like thats i i, we feel protected homosexuality. Split a boot and canyon society. But in the light of edwins death, the l. G, b, t q plus community and the allies, a once again calling for acceptance. And the criminalization these and lots of homophobia. These um, lots of hate sweats, people who was only who we are hating because they exist. You know, they exist. Thats it. Im, i leave, im leaving. Im jason. The most part so vast because the laws are very similar to those here in kenya. In nigeria for example, one can get up to 14 years in prison meant for being gain and in some parts of the country which are ruled by fleming. Serial punishments even was nevertheless, there are a few brave people who are standing up for themselves. We meet one of them, the legal space, Fashion Design, daniel k, who is calling for more respect and acceptance. In conservative nigeria, same sex relationships, khattab who is the whole say well for the l g b t q, Class Community but like ocean, tina john daniel k has an idea to make it a little friendly with you and to see question brand concave apparel. Very much and sophistic about so in this coming is one of the reasons i hit the scenario as im done. Were going through so i hit one. This was that so discrimination on 3 a freshman. So green up. Ive always been like bullied on all of that. So i go through, read one i found out about to you. Ive always been a 1st time i have to stick up on myself. Despite the ard, i think its brand has been welcomed, especially in the l g. B t q Class Community bold inscriptions like fam isnt quickness. Gender is fluid. And we can be seen of happening, hung out around legal i think its quite an innovative and inclusive brand. Ive always had a hard time finding. The old stuff fits my agenda expression for like with this bronze. Its always because i always find one called list of one my brand out and it was super and be like like good, how do you maintain those students stuff and im like yes. Then theres soak on stuff in minnesota. Is this clear . Anybody to kind of like, i mean this is in way if pushing isnt, is one for the or the one for the on the thoughts the need like switch Something Else sees upright. Hes very, very bold coming from someone elses age. Taking this course is really kind of sustainability, even always fun of things like this done, you runs on online store from hes home. He reveals designs on his Instagram Page. Clients can also request designs done. You know them gets across the country is to realize the outward before supervising the ceiling and grunting, experiencing hostility is part of the job, the vision, say by the offensive. I some people just come on and so my business page and just be like, hey, whats up . Why are you doing this . Is definitely just against go through on whats on whats not on. Whats the ever, the thing people dont understand is my brand is not out for the, for just the origin particular person. So my brand before it be 40 and fortys, friends and customers were having his clothes in steals a sense of pride. 5 was that also includes my son to ask him what, while youre doing Something Like this, what does this mean book to this is no, right. But then, oh no, its not. Its not. So most of the time i see the night keep them what things mean people find the scripts done by regional care. This is me on the line with a message. And while people like daniel a fighting for more acceptance to society, many people have their own relationship bathrooms to fights, big or small, like hulu and get you. There are kind of like julian, couple living right here and they will be. And while they knew they wanted to put together their families and friends, well, they took a bit of convincing a narrow b is east of protest, melton port of trust in residents from across the continent and beyond. But a king and capitals acceptance of diversity. Thats not always the extent to motus up to heart needs was very difficult when my wife go to places and in georgia is amazing. And jared was really low. They used to be a very which stereotype by dancing oh, youve come to can to steal our movement from aust coolant and get to a Cross Cultural relationship. Maybe unusual. But like many young people to love how familiar applicants we manage what else to i think. Yeah, ill stick to, to me is how is this fresh from school . Hes sweet. Talk to me and you know how me so the d t and talking and yeah, i liked his vibe. He liked by vibe. He actually upfront, he told me, youre going to be the mother of my kids from a best friends and family. The new couple was bought and loved connection was difficult to accept. I was now telling my friend to know these, that dating, you know, you know, telling a lot of people and then you know, come often to, yeah, i met this guy, weve been seeing each other and im that shes a jane and really was sure they did what do you know about him while do you know his back a few leave you today comments like these were phone investigators get to somebody have long since accepted the west african as a member of the firm. But i wasnt always the case when he told me like that i didnt know delete. See what i could not agree easy as i say its i dont 13, anything about the i want you to see for us when he told me that jerry and i was like, what do they do and doing, can i know african go to america or europe, so that was for me and mind blowing. Another thing that to had was hes mostly okay. And my sisters christian. So he will actually say is going to cause of a no my see say i really loved being. So im like, hey, we to become listening. Eventually, the couple chose to put aside that may see is but yet the else behind them, the path for ahead to us. The said life that blends the best of that different backgrounds include in, in the kitchen of the beginning is to cook a lot for cindy when, like, im visiting, please use to really see like cooking, you know, i guess best the, the time he was trying to uh, meet your legs, let me quote for you my way. He thought, you know, to make this to visual, the fried rice over time. Ive come to enjoy most of the guarantees. If im a guy, the from multi mall from the low, from, from my to get everything, whatever you going from that is a video background, your cultural and youll edge what devices your type its, its possible he lets me be me and i let him be. She, if it works for me perfectly, and we were just happy with the when any of the end of our show. But we have one more issue to talk about. So thats hard to break because like 10 or not, thats how some relationship sends me the most. I mean, i can be alone in this shortly. You must have some experiences of your own. So lets hear them read. It may not be shown steve, and i may have worked out a little bit. I think im the one actually that im interested in the youve given me. Yeah. And they did this wont allow us to did. So you just go to the, are you just have you read log . I basically read your wonderful uh, budgeting this with this thing. It says that a lot of the spots black the i will never forget because i invited you on uh which i wait for that particular piece, which is for how for like a long as i show up. So i felt very, very glad to do that. I believe i always never forget, i get all my trust a boss to take any for granted and damage of my head. Because yes, i mean football. Like if i go to the beach all perform well, like my g a black, okay. Was wrong with you. That way you why you know, for us to be it was wrong or deep. Dont have it out. Well yeah, im fine to me. Actually im on be my best. I didnt know i wasnt doing the right thing on the beach. I get my bride, end of the i ended up lose insights. I didnt get a lot by giving the phone like my trust was taken for granted. So i just have to like exclude myself out the relationship to them without our body to us. 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