Off said have made their 4th monitoring visit to check on the service after its inadequate rating in January $2800.00 obvious go reporter Andy Holmes has more on this visit inspectors examined services for children in care and found less progress than in other areas that they'd previously looked at high staff turnover continues to cause issues which the report says have made it difficult to ensure basic practice standards however an increase in local placements for children is beginning to deliver results the singer Kenny Lynch who became one of Britain's best known black entertainers has died at the age of 81 he'd been suffering from cancer Kenny Lynch had a big hit with the song up on the roof and was later a popular contestant on television gameshows he said he got into showbiz by accident it was American down the block my sister singing McAlinden use to go when you come with him and sing a song so I said I'll come along but I didn't think I could sing because I'd be too shy to sing in front of anybody anyway after being on the stage for about half a quarter and so I liked it Kenny Lynch has died 3 counties where the thickening cloud with outbreaks of rain becoming heavy at times and a low of 7 Celsius and get the latest news in sport online at b.b.c. 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The next census has come under fire from more than 80 academics for allowing people to self identify when they're asked where they are male or female under a new proposal respondents will be able to answer the question according to what they feel themselves to be rather according to the biological sex they were born out in the the census takes place every 10 years and it's intended to give an accurate analysis of the u.k. Population the next one is due in March 2021 March 21st 2021. Are you the man or woman the choice it seems now and he's yours that's very kind to be thank you very much for the basis of the way things are these this there are also some people out there that relate to being animals as well to know they they have all their face shows that you know it's what they going to be able to put down they've kept or don't look or you know is that going to be allowed or is it just that they can be met all female and they can choose which one they won't say you can self identify you can be whatever you want I mean it's a. You know I mean a camel if you like Yeah or just die another day and you can't and don't mope that there are people who are there as a religion. You know it could be anything you want to you Britain killed. As a sauce just a side is how stuff these gender stuff just when it is madness going to end really one of the things I did sound when I was in a measure breaks it's wise and we'll mention it now one of the things I hope we start to see now is swinging back from the mad extreme left is a realignment of this craziness that infected this country and is this is one of those symptoms to me I know 2 people who one of us fully trans. Transitioned from male to female and one who is in the process of going to have a way. Not ever of them they're both fabulous people I love and by feeling. Very comfortable in what they're doing understand what to do in but they're very humble and when I ask him about this kind of thing they find it just embarrass it because they say this isn't what it's about for us we don't need that kind of it's a very personal thing for them and when you move into the stage where people can identify that when when I was if you know we have the sense of then and suddenly they change their mind or we seen all these different things about you know about sport about prisons about all sorts of things we have to have a sensible discussion in this country about this whole issue and come to some kind of sensible conclusion about what is sensible more he's insensible Can you imagine if it's still going of course or 100 years time the b.b.c. Is who do you think you are the story's going to the archives they would be as confused as. Anything when I would like it doesn't even have to go that far I was in a better roost not so long ago and we haven't they were asking me about this and I just think we are mad in this country then you're mad and female if you go the other way you're free man a mile that's what is but this whole self identification thing they just think it's hilarious like it's something out of a sick home and it's only when you look at it from the outside you see how mad it's become poor as you're in the census the next one is due on the 21st March 2021 and this week has come under fire as they prepare to put it all together from 80 academics for because it would be allowed to self identify when they're asked with a male or female. Well I actually have no problem at all with 8 I think it's. Your right to get it's very personal and I think the idea that the. Somebody else gets to decide on the news is just not it doesn't bother me too i'm What strikes me too is that it worries me about this these academics complaining and I wonder how many historically people because you feel in your senses full Nobody's checking all day how many people in the past have self identified and it's not even being an issue it's not even be noticed and so the idea that some point that you people are the translation of yeah they do and that's fine you know but this idea that you can self identify is it not for everybody of all what I need a born male or female and you know not necessarily And everybody self identifies to a certain degree right. There is a choice and you make that choice and the the difference between the sort of biological sex of a child of an infant and the person they become is entirely that it's about that person and I think those academics are being disingenuous you know I haven't read their letter and I probably should have done what and then they did but when Swan So for them to fight in later life and they don't want to refer to the river it's normally normally it's men who don't know if they don't want to be referred as they want to for the victim yeah what does that what does that serve or that the thing is that use of a gender neutral pronoun isn't new a tool and again this idea that it's some sort of new craziness that we're suddenly coming into that is going to be taken care of by a particular political view is is again disingenuous the gender neutral pronoun I was reading the other day has been in use since the late Middle Ages it's not something new. And you know the sort of the the idea that it is somehow threatening to. Pass a society or 2 and thing is is I just think this is the enjoy yourself identification is that when you have to certain stores in this country allowing people to self identify as to what changing or toilet they use that's when it becomes dangerous to me and certainly when it oversteps the mark so that's why we need to have this discussion because I don't want to walk into a shop and. Our identify as a woman today and be able to walk into a woman's changing rooms but at the moment it's certain stores you can do that to me that's wrong. I think the changing room argument always strikes me if you're you know with the greatest of respect is a little bit frivolous because what is frivolous is mad that's why no no no the argument itself because actually most changing rooms you go in you go into a little cubicle you get changed you try on the thing it fits it doesn't you get Jane you go back out again with toilets if you're in a cafe You're in cost or earlier I understand and there were toilets there and there's probably only $1.00 and both you know anybody of any gender can use it and that we're going to because we bring our money back into the conversation you've gone swimming somewhere right during the ladies' change or all over the you know and the man comes in it's self identified for that day as a as a man would you be bothered. No he doesn't it doesn't bother me any of that but what I just think this and I'm going everybody to self identify who you will get some what he says it won't be it won't be realistic to walk to I think the reports that they actually made it I just feel as though what somebody wants to pay one way you know that's up to them and that doesn't more email and majority of places these days a you do sex where you you have all of bar I have to say I mean 3 men I wouldn't want to go into a Twitter and be a main in there at the same time as we've been that one that would not sit where we are stories on the known this lady online and a story that is that some of the Nationals are picking up as she's going through a flak because you're going a conversation on on social media and she referred to Father Christmas as Father Christmas and people respond to responding to a saying you can't call him Father Christmas you have to call him Santa because Santa is gender neutral Father Christmas is not gender neutral now can Father Christmas ever be a woman and. And there we go that's the road we're going down now that's the madness that we're going down and the we disagree Fibes elitist I think that those kind of examples get pulled out tediously every time and actually there are very real issues for people who are struggling who are victimized who are made to feel that they are not fully who they want to be he's kind of a holding out I am going to let the governor on polls about Father Christmas Well I'm not but it's what is emerging I think you know these kind of these kind of frivolous arguments undermine the real problems that these people have that's what bothers me and that's why the issue of self identification we do need to have a proper free and frank discussion about this whole issue because up to now we have one do you think 2 or 3 panelist do you think we can have that Frank and liberal discussion given the climate that we are all living in because sometimes frankly sometimes you can say one word out place on the lake and in terms of social media the world comes bearing down on you yeah. Oh it's a difficult one I hate moment my feelings towards social major and the cause is just rather switch the whole not often thing a lot people out you know it's just it's cooled off family upset it's caused so many people and you know so many people sit behind these computers and that's all they can do is pick what somebody says to me in my eyes as a person it will always be Father Christmas because that's how I've been brought up but I'm not bothered by the somebody calls it son said Mrs Claus I don't get wound up about it just in my head that's just how I've been but it doesn't worry me what other people want to refer. To the schools I will take some trouble use because such is the preferred method to to bring your strong he's just got that from Rupert as a a 5 traffic between Will Green Zone struck but caused by a car a van blocking right lane in the old Stratford runabout 3 times the 2 took me 45 minutes from Milton Keynes that's that's bad for the river you see 3 counties radio dad's house and bugs travelling every 15 minutes Good evening Roberto Well there's no improvement on the m one northbound I'm afraid that still queuing up to junction 10 at the Luton Airport Sparrow because the break down traffic spec'ing up to junction 6 a at the m 25 into changing the inside lane remains closed with tilting delays on the m 40 southbound before junction for the high with him I had to cross roundabout that's pulling a crash early in the junction 3 and it's getting on the a one northbound from Homebase roundabout to the lane that's all because of an accident partially blocking the roads are also watching delays on the southbound side we've just had a call from Martin is that the a 414 fix from Leighton Buzzard to Milton Keynes is down to one lane for breakdown at the end the police are at the scene that's causing long delays. 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Band in Leighton Buzzard getting his Rob you have to call him Santa this is a prime example of the loony liberals Idiocracy Ben thank you you can take the program 13 double 3 Start your text 3 Sia Let's go to our next story of the Robinson people chaplain Duckie brims And with me live in studio one this popped up on social media over the weekend from the bed chick Cambridge and hopped a road policing unit and they did tweet some corkers the guess is the unkind pounce just that some people are simply too stupid for words Peterborough driver brought his insurance from Facebook says the place he was given no certificate and the person he bought it from no longer has a Facebook profile and they go on to say not at all surprised to find out there's no insurance and the vehicle has no the either. Pip or buying car insurance on Facebook so should somebody be locked up for their own safety. I think that's going a little. You know it's one of those stories on the face of it you think it's totally ridiculous and absurd thing to do but then you think actually we buy everything online and so that line between Facebook and just online whatever I guess it gets. A lot of very clear not really selling it yeah I buy my car insurance online but I go to I go to recognize me company. And I guess a typical president if the like a certificate just is a bit of an autograph I thought yeah I can shoot I want to buy car insurance on Facebook but I've booked things through Facebook really events and tickets and yeah you're very trusting person Doug Briggs and asked some people too stupid for the 2 words well it would be easy to get an error but I mean as a man Lisa some of these people are very very clever and and it's what I want to be easy to ridicule this Paul man versus a person on our shores a man of one but the person I want to Mr gender identify we I think we need to be more. Active in catchin these people and issuing them with proper sentences because some of the cons they put together. Borderline disgusted because the target in elderly in vulnerable people that's all they ever do and or gullible motorists in this all got a moment with. Their victims United victims of crime and we need to be dealing with perfect it's more than a mock in a victim you are right of course but buying car insurance from Facebook going on Facebook had to give you details but to see the younger i miss obvious he being with however long Facebook is they now this person's been on Facebook probably maybe young and doesn't really know him because. Children Society today Facebook Instagram everything is there and you get the same many adverts that flash up to the side or flash up in front of you you can click on this you can click on that and if you really don't know what you're doing you will make mistakes and I do get what you're saying about really buying it on Facebook but I think some people just the the problem is especially if you're a new you relatively new user to social media is the assumption that everything in there is true. You know and correct and honest and this is absolutely not the case I'm not sure that anybody thank you believes that everything online. Only I don't know if women are gold but there's you know people I know of recently gone to Facebook they fall for stuff like that because they just don't get that people that savvy that all I want to do is with the one that always gets me that there is there's a post that appears every now and again and I get it reposed from people I know who I think are quite clever you know mature or clever people and the one that always gets me is the 11 of the ones is the police the notice from the police that apparently some Eastern European gang stopping cars making cars stop because they're blocking the road and as you get out the car they'll steal a car and your children I'm thinking no because the police never issue there's not even a press release is not real story but people just make up stuff that put a picture on it as if it's the truth and I think you crazy they just they just assume is true and they're free holiday for a holiday so that fake had been there you know we've all fallen victim of a you know I have Ray-Bans temper yes right. You know stuff that you know fresh is to come from banks to say we need to look in details we need this we need that and people just do it and the paper on the other side the people doing it to set it to get the money they are so clever. Are so clever and could sell anything literally anything you know it's not just it's not you know media amplifies it as amplifies everything but you know it's been over the phone it's been doorstep Oh yeah all those things it's not all unfound of a scam have I ever fallen foul of a scam I don't think that. I don't think that Turkey No I'm aware of my dad did twice my do when my dad started to get losing my job it should have for he died he was mercilessly signing up for stuff and we we they were we basically put it politely. We saw it things out for him various companies and you think they were targeting him on purpose sometimes the strange algorithms they see you know yeah really really you know soonest because he was you know he was just saying yes to everything and of course once he does one then you've got like Lost information to somebody else and there were him as well and it was you know he signed up for 8000 pounds or for new wind is new glasses which would cost him 800 pound or sources download and luckily we found out and managed to get his money back for him should he say or ask me questions you know and then you're being conned Well you know I've done that when my case is current I mean. You know I sometimes when I was very early on in the face because I didn't join until I was a lot later you know I used to rate them and think Oh. Yeah. So yes. He's a young 23 minutes past 6. Should this lady with come with a health warning of some kind but this I felt so I ask rival. You said you wanted to stop if you don't know. Who is described but was described yesterday in the papers as a b.b.c. Star you're right has revealed her Baby Doe has rocketed following a dramatic 4 stone weight loss sparked by a life saving operation to remove her stomach already too much information she says I can't get pregnant more and she pushes the pictures yesterday but pictures in the papers with some sort of top with empty nest syndrome get up short of that as you can have sex in any position any time of the kitchen counter in the garret over the Detroit or wherever and I'm thinking she's got kids and grandkids she can't be desperate that desperate to stay in the public eye doggy knew you can't I'm telling you it's a pro. I've got it I'm a massive fan of and his fellow you know everything that he is I mean about any but . Like you I think she is the most brilliant broker really genuinely I think she's fantastic what she does she's massively hardworking as well. If you don't know the number I do know they're phenomenal she has a very good agent she doesn't have a good agent but this I mean I you know if you're right age really as you say she's got kids to be running towards what happened to. Humility and more was scruples privacy and celebrating her forte on weight loss with a raunchy photo show and then the suggestion that it basically is like Martini anytime anywhere I don't even want to know that because now every time of this year I'm going to be thinking of that you know and what you've done. I don't want to turn up you know I thought I was just going I don't want to talk there are no no no just generally surprised that I for the 1st time every my life I met somebody like this I felt so I mean she's got a genuine she's great because I don't you're going in my diary tonight I'm going to Robinson Well I think she should keep it quite between herself and I feel I think it's a bit too much information just. That I just think I get on or I put the pictures the thought process that I think featured in the sun were pretty not explicit over the but the very I think she was tempted to go for the raunchy look. Something to come into the office about it but I just completely ignored it and carried on working so I didn't really take much notice of it. I just think there's a better way you probably present yourself in public advertising in that. Time if they have to get. A chapel. Well as I only said you know good on that you know but it's not really public you know public fodder is it really you know. Not really you know you know I'm delighted that she feels really comfortable in her body and wants to you know express that in every way and you know on top of the dishwasher whatever absolutely fine you know. I mean she's got to do all she's got grandchildren so they don't read the paper when they think Granny What are you doing I know the thing is I don't think she could well regret it has said if I think talking amongst friends and say what you like but not to the. Not to the nation I think you're right the word you say is Well we've talked about it I haven't seen these pictures and I really don't want to you don't want to see them but they're well if they're on the Internet they're there forever yes and so any time anyone searches and I'm in the future they're going to pop up and as you say of us are going kids it's like wow nanny is that really my nan and. I get it but part of me thinks if she's feeling that amazing about her body then you know keep yourself well you know she can you know I think she can sort of try to look she's done it she's lost the why except for well done I mean that's brilliant. Yeah. I think we could have done without Yeah I think all I'm thinking is about wiping the kitchen side standing over you can imagine you're looking at Imagine a late dinner party everybody wanted not only the so you doing media. On forgiving Oh God yeah it does not stop you right it doesn't it never stops if you try to take these things done they will always get them people will say things she's not stupid though she knows that she wants. The publicity but does it lead him up to see that but to go here all right I'm a regular sleep you go Sheldrake and so miraculously still hanging on to that job in London I mean does she know she was on this morning the other day and she didn't like me on Genie. From a song that I don't she got a great. Christmas she wants it's raining she's going to go to your whatever I'm thinking oh my God this is all dates I'm saying that it could be some Ruthie who takes control would use a gun but will become very composed ourselves. And then in a p.c. 3 counties radio side stocks and bugs travel and every 15 minutes Good evening Roberto will delays continue on the m 40 southbound for trunks and for the High Wycombe hand across roundabouts following a crash early an injunction 3 looking very slow now on the month southbound from Junction 10 the pollution airports bear road to junction 9 of Redbone that's where there's a crash that the outside lane is closed and going the other way with to watching those queues on the m one northbound off to junction 10 that's what it's funneling close to because of the breakdown and we're still seeing those long delays on the a one northbound from the home base roundabout to Hill lane that's all because of an accident still partially blocking the road and it's causing delays on the southbound side as well the trains are all running well though the going b.b.c. 3 counties radio. Hartson barks 33. It's 630 I'm Jane Killick police and what that say they're working to establish the exact circumstances of a woman's death after charging a 17 year old boy with murder police were called to a property in Clark way in what further Monday afternoon but they found a woman believed to have been stabbed a chief inspector based Aylesbury police station has been sacked after a misconduct hearing Julian Collinson was found to have breached standards of professional behavior including passing on confidential information after going to an organized crime group meeting the u.s. House of Representatives is debating whether to impeach President Trump for abusing his powers and obstructing Congress if they vote in favor tonight Mr Trump will become only the 3rd president in history to be impeached and Specter say Buckinghamshire County Council's children's services are getting better but there's still room for improvement of stead of made their 4th monitoring visit to check on the service after its inadequate rating in January 28th in the weather rain and strengthening winds tonight but milder than last night they get the latest news and sport online at b.b.c. Doco dot u.k. Slash 3 counties Thank you James b.c. 3 counties radio Welcome back Emily Roberts and Doug Abrams in paper chapel paper is a writing coach and shooter Doug screen watching or what are you working on the moment . You'll be delighted to know. Just finished in the book. Halfway for another one and I'm working on a t.v. Thing for Netflix and my you had a lot going on Sco you still work in same project or another project has. Just take horrible about 3 years and can you tell me more about what this means for Netflix yes so tight but I can't because some of us the early are still wanted it was not my idea but. It's very interested in the Falklands which is quite interesting. As it is a Ian MacKaye thank you and then Lee Robinson from Bob Newhart one of our original Palis descriptor soup some of the you and your son Harry was the project of the he was he was not well doctors can help him and you change his food regime you did ought to go in yourself you created a new menu for him basically you got your back and. He's made your man he's he's 18 driving driving me up the wall as well is driving a car now he's fine he's at sea flying high and really doing well for himself nearly finished his college course going into sports science there and your daughter has done very well in terms of ice skating for the years of you driving in the early hours of the morning to obscure places like yes skating it's my podcast on thousands of miles so yeah she's training hard she's starting her next season now so it's just more early mornings and how how far the she hoped to get with the ice cream and she wants to retain the British to get the British titles she doesn't want to name picks it's never been one of her things but her main thing is to be hot ice Disney on Ice holiday and ice told the world on ice basically she walks better on ice and she does in their own 2 feet so yeah so she's If you talk to any parents who've got children who've gone to a tree things whether it's in sports. For you it has meant a lot many years a 2nd frankly So yeah I mean we don't go away I mean she's she is fortunate enough we are going to Italy to train in the mountains because it exercises their lungs in the higher altitudes. And builds up their fitness higher in Italy in February. Yes say she does about 5 hours a day training and that's before and that's early morning so called to 5. And she's just currently left school actually for other reasons so she's had spend a lot longer at the ring now. She's quite happy I'm but it will hopefully want you one when she was large a title she'll think mom and dad of course she's one she's been a fair few per year yes yes yes so she does she does very well but she you know what I would want to get up at quarter to 5 she's the one that drives it when I miss it one day when you have to stop getting off the course of our driving or to slow. Yes I think I will do actually because it's such a big part of my life I mean at the moment I just dress it's got probably about 3 and a half 1000 crystals on I've been working on for hours and hours and hours on a nice thing. Because she's in a show next week it's like now. But actually it's on Friday gosh that's come out quickly Yes So it's I'm looking forward to my Christmas break they have a whole week at home and I'm traveling but your home is 7 we looked at a story earlier on concerning a guy called Gaisford Marquis He's a middle aged father he's the c.e.o. Of a marketing recruitment agency and he took 2 were linked in the forgotten such and we perform to reveal how alone he feels he's married father of 2 grown up children who've moved out so the internet syndrome has gone and his wife works away at weekends and he's admitted that his lack of social life has left a gaping hole in his life and that his only real social contacts are acquaintances work you know the. People work with people but he says he's lonely because he's middle aged and can't meet new friends and make new meet new people make new friends. Papers is common he says this is common this is the Middle Ages the plight the plight of middle aged people they feel lonely I think there's definitely a sense that you know people at work and then you have to you have to you know you spend so much time balancing that against family and then I you know my nest is quite full still so I haven't reached that kind of empty nest thing but I can absolutely see. That that feeling that suddenly you haven't got the kind of you know a lot of people through your children and you know it's a playground talk and stuff and I can see where I can see where he's coming from I think you know for me it's slightly different being self employed is that I work on my own time and relationships at work so I have to go out and make talk to people because otherwise I would just sit in my little office on my own day. But I can I can totally see when bits of your life are sort of removed. Not not in a horrible way but it just in the way that things progress that you would end up feeling. Connections are harder to make because all the way through you know school school run work you've got immediate things in common but having to go out and make that initial contact I think would be really difficult Yeah he says he's lonely because he's middle aged. Does it all the time all the time as soon as I saw that story and watched his video it was just like planning I mean I spent a lot of time in the military and I've come in now a lot of learn to live the services miss that come comradeship. But I thought I see it constantly I see of. Guys you don't see anybody of them whenever work or when they go to football they've got no other life and one of the interest one of the best things about social media of course is and allows people to reconnect. Forge relationships with people but often those relationships are done from a sofa in your house to so for only ever into the country and it's a it's a real problem of loneliness is a massive problem and it's one hopefully now this kind of. Revelation if you like kick start that discussion because we live in a society where people just don't talk to each other especially don't self I was in Worcester a couple of weekends ago. And everybody talked to everybody it was amazing you go into London no one will talk to you at all or if you talk to me will you like your idea it's crazy but it's a real problem why you know I'm a I work on my own all day you know the only person or sees my Mrs and I'm like your whole week without seeing anybody but my Mrs and s.l. I like it I'm quite happy like that but. I can perfectly say how loneliness can just up a lot of really interesting reaction to that story earlier on when we looked at it on the program because I think there are a lot of generational issues here whether it's older people who are lonely middle age were lonely and then even younger people and only because if they leave if they leave lead their lives on social media of course Instagram and Snap Chat they haven't got perhaps that physical connection with people it's which is really important I think I think we're going to have there's going to be a massive influx even worse than we are now of people been lonely for example my daughter one day recently she says well I can't believe how alone I feel now when you feel alone in a room of a 1000 people that loneliness is something you have to learn and deal with and make something out of it now I've got plans for when I have to finish taxing my children around I'm going to get back into my amateur dramatics I'm going to. Tenant and I've got a plan because I know that it's you know my son's more or less he's an impasse and he just comes and goes has food mines there's no food in the house so that's quite a it's quite good I still see him he's still there but I don't do much with him my daughter as you've heard I do so much with her that when that stops I'm going to have that void now. Do people that don't have children have the same experience because they have they've chosen not to have children which that's the fine but they've they lived that life of 2 single people if you're married together and you've got your base and so therefore does that loneliness come in because you've been going out and everything whereas our lives change because we go with where the children are at at the time so that makes sense because there are laws if you have children your life will be dictated for a number yet is why what they they want to do yeah so I just feel it but I think even children I think they sit behind the screens they talk. The microphones to you know you could one could be an American could be a new k. But they don't seem to believe that from Rome I keep looking till the control so my children I hide them all over the place a what's really interesting about this was it was a bloke who said it yeah it's quite shocking that a guy could actually come out with some from now that because we've you know we've blocks were kind of lost our role is lost kind of and it was really interesting and how do you remedy it you know if it was a woman you could imagine a lot of people would be in touch of all the time we agrees with you. All well and I do you know I don't know so I imagine it but with a bloke It was my 1st instinct was to get in touch with this guy but then it's like well what is that fake is that what he wants is what it's all about is just it's a very awkward thing is in a sea of people you say it's harder for men I think what do we do what the blokes do we not many I don't drink so I don't go to pubs at all you know how do you connect with someone is that what it's going do something that makes sense it's Ok I don't know I always worried about my husband. Because he doesn't say she. It was very much but actually he's just started this hobby about 18 months ago beekeeping and he absolutely loves it he goes to meetings every way 30000 beats in my backyard and they got me to go about what you know but it was something he wanted to do and I really relaxed him because he's actually got this thing that he really really when the hive star I die it's not very good time but on the whole. He's just found something one thing that really he really enjoys today and he's 5455 so he's coming into that stage where you know it's you know I think and he gets very left out with the children because I do all the running because he doesn't like getting up in the morning so you know he's found something to do and he then socialize with other people so I think it's planning for the future you know start now if you're in your thirty's forty's that when your children have grown out of a head to see what you want let me just throw this into the mix and those are the look at the ties into what we're discussing now because an investigation has discovered this week there are currently more than 8000 students at university in the u.k. Who have no relationship with their parents they call of these kids the is strange students often missed by the care system. Does this surprise you. That there are so many students university who just have no connection with the family this time of year motions would have gone home to their families or worse but there are $8000.00 the country who have no priest over. It does. It doesn't surprise me it saddens me and I think it's a it's a horrible breakdown between the relationship between parent and child and it's it's one of those absolutely fundamental relationships that you feel you want to be able to depend on and the idea of losing a parent not you know losing a parent through bereavement is bad enough is awful but losing contact with a parent or estrangement is sounds it's unimaginable. And the idea of linking that to the case system the idea of people who are just sort of sort of you know that idea of they just go out the end 18 that May and then suddenly that they're in you just think what or what a difficult time for you know for a young person you know 18 you're not you know you're an adult but you you you know it would be hard enough at 30 or 50 and suddenly at 18 you're there and you've got no one to go home to and you know it's always amplified isn't it this time of year where everyone's talking about going home and what you know my mom's going to that it's you know it must be small make Lebanon I mean we had it when I joined up which is over all of them with the aria we were in we were training we were in a 2 man rooms you know and their social places believe me and then but when I got to my 1st junior I was in a room by myself so what's your work and then you go into a single room and you could see no one until the next morning and as you go drinking or socializing which is why it is done today but there were lots who never went out but but within our group there were people who made a conscious effort to get to know those people because then we didn't have mobile phones or the Internet or anything you know we had no form of outside communication was there in those rivers and if they were kind of loners or choir or subdued. They could get very insular you know they were intially it from the world really and it was it took us awhile to realize what was going on with people but it came down to the group we said we need to sort it out is 11 of us you haven't got the universe you know qualities I don't want to one of the universe and the halls of residence we're hearing that they look at they all look after each other a really good bunch of kids but it's just there's just great chemistry there or the think is great if it works because you know. Sometimes it doesn't work out people feel very like. Environment and they don't have. You know going home to a family and he did sizing me greatly when I read that I just thought wow that's a high figure let me take some trouble to come back with on the way with him with maybe see 3 counties radio sad socks and bugs travel and every 15 minutes Good evening Roberto was to watching those queues on the m one northbound that's off to junction 10 at the Luton Airport spare road but it's a breakdown traffic backing up to junction 6 a at the m $25.00 into change this to one lane closed going the other way on the at once southbound it's looking very slow between junction 10 and junction 9 a red ball that's all because of a crash that's to one length close to the outside lane stays closed only a one of the partially blocks northbound from Biggleswade south of the home base roundabout to Hill lane at Biggleswade that's all because of the crash that's causing queues around that block and that's also causing queues on the southbound father very very slow going b.b.c. 3 counties radio. 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Nothing remotely wrong with billionaires if they've earned their money legally of course but does anyone really need 15000000 pounds worth of jewelry tomorrow Eccleston's billionaire row mansion has been raided by thieves who reportedly stole 50000000 quid with the jury tomorrow who lives in the 17000000 pound on the property with a husband and daughter Sophia had left the country just hours earlier. Being rich no problem on the way but who needs that much money in jury well. Yeah not me. You know I don't have a passion for jewelry so it wouldn't Lori maybe some people really love jewelry. If they've got the money and that's why I say 50000000 quid I know to you and me it's just like mind boggling but today I mean you know. That's what they want to spend the money on because you actually I mean they were both a part of it is right here but I think the battery is hard but I think that you know because it's really awful for them and I'm sorry for them but. No I wouldn't have that sort of money and jewelry it's not my thing that I would want so. It's not for me does anyone need 50000000 pounds of the jury well I don't think so to be honest but I think if you've got 50000000 pounds worth of jewelry Why are you keeping it. That just seems I mean I'm very sad that they've got it's a horrible fate Of course if it's diamond then it's Ensign asset for but you get 50000000 pounds worth of necklaces and watches you couldn't wear them could people . I don't want next is going to be worth millions but if it did with me and it should be in the back. Or is that question I don't know but then I don't know if you've got a lot to be hanging around the house but I'll just ask you I just I guess I guess it's beyond our current level of understanding is it so much money of friends who got very much which is worth a lot of money and you know I was recently he was he was being followed by 3 guys because they reckon they clocked he had an ounce of water and they were going to you know let's see here in a way you know which is the right thing to do because they were going to go after his what you know is what they would have done because he had a very expensive watch so you can you know now entering or not I say Stacy somebody else would make it anyway just saying Oh. Just if you got $50000000.00 worth of jewels in your house surely it's not wise to go on Instagram and announce that you're going on holiday. Burg or the night after work for normal people yes you're right of course but where there is it here it is a got the area. Israeli Embassy at one end of the road where they live the Russian embassy the other you can get more protected than this 70000000 didn't work it didn't work so I just think it's obscene that if she'd of I'll Be careful what I say now if she'd have owned it fair enough but she hasn't she hasn't contributed anything to society other than Instagram and whatever from what I can tell I think it's disgusting and individual got that amount of money just tied up in a ball. When we discuss it so that we all like to be rich whatever rich means one of that definition is for all those with the idea that you could provide you know have a very nice lifestyle whatever car you wanted that whatever you can go on holiday that you could look after your children your family and help and that's I know what he wants that's why I think we all understand the level of rich but I just don't get sort of having 15 degrees with jewelry in watches necklaces I suppose at least she spent it at least she spent it and you know that money is gone back into you know businesses and artist and jewelry make it's all kinds of people rather than it just be I can understand that more than I can understand just having $50000000.00 quid more money maybe the value of it would go up as a money in the bank but I think it's like the people who make it pay people you know and you think actually maybe that you know if you've got the money I'm much happier with people who have lots of money spending it than sitting on it I think I saw this because I never know sleep probably this morning about our past or this problem before. On the telly was about John Loeb shoes the handmade shoes in London just extra The histories of but one program on one little documentary was about which would the close of classic British pottery and it's been taken over by a Finnish company and they've reinvigorated their we have Wedgwood tea parties and they were just sharing the factory that obviously everything is beautifully made they're making this particular vase and it was showing us transfigured at the table help us one and then making these and these fantastic British class people men or women or intricately making the leaves had it all together how it goes in the kiln I think the vase one of the trail it has 7 grand when they can the artistry the Crossman shape it's going to be it was just an amazing when you sort of levels so looks over your body Yeah I was upset when my kids not my 45 pounds. But it is a big difference between 7 grand here even if you saw the work with No no no just imperfectly You know I would imagine is absolutely were even luxuries in London they've made history goes back they supplied kings and you know a pair of shoes that for 4 maybe 5000 quid but it takes like 34 weeks to make one pair of shoes and they've got these fantastic walls meant everything by hand is one of those traditional you know if you want part of it in such a way that for 5 grand shoes or boots or ignore you but only They've got these craftsman have been there for years decades and you know they had all these archives they were picking out books from the sort of the library opening up. Like you know going back King George's face for example the shoes made that all it's just the most extraordinary process and the guy runs the coming don't load the current he does 6 in the morning getting up are 6 he makes he sort of crafting the shoes and he's been the author in the office I just that that kind of craftsmanship that's what you get when you wake up ask for the morning you want you know look up and say. Because we're running a merry Christmas I mean amazing Would you pay someone to put up and take down your Christmas tree Persis as a funding their festivities this December by decorating other people's Christmas trees they're all straight in Veronica and Ivana they charge 13 pounds an hour to put up trees for families who are too busy to do themselves it started as a hobby and it's now become it seems a lucrative side business for these Melbourne based sisters Would you happily pay $13.00 pounds an hour only for someone to put up and take it down and put it all away again. This year I probably would 14 my daughter got hold of the train she did it myself bless it because I just have not had a single minute this month to even consider trying to put the Christmas tree up but one night we were going to do it how it was going out and this and the other and I do like to make it a big family affair. I sit there in struct to make sure it's very nice because it can't be messy but this year I think I was afraid somebody because I was I was really fearful that I was not going to get up on the whole night Arlo Looking our minister began it down from the loft put in there or to get in the light some I don't always like the fake tree I want a real Tracy wants to fake tree paper 13 pounds an hour they come around they put it up and then if you charge if you pay them they'll come down and put it away you . I wouldn't I would pay someone to come and put it up because we do we do that as a family you know where people there and it's like Christmas Tree Day and we all do that together I did that this weekend and it was lovely. Taking it down. And that's not my favorite job I think that under charging I think if somebody is prepared to pay to put their Christmas tree up they need to up their right frankly and my Mrs who does mine the lovely Tina Yes they're right extortioner Yeah it's worth every penny because I hate doing it and I'm not a big fan of Christmas anyway so while go to one day I'll go to football and come back in the tree will be up and do at least get the tree other you keep the tree and all the boards and get those down I have to I have to get me and usually for some bizarre reason I don't know why in my house I end up buying a new Christmas tree every single year I don't know why it's no good for the environment No it's not your final one. I would never want to know who. She is just like she sees these trees and certainly didn't that's one of them but finding out what in my garret but for really. Looking to have. Me My son is pinch one this year and yeah it's just as she does every year it's not just thing that's what might cause this I want to see it we can put it up no matter what is I get reluctant to get everything down a lot no bring it all down and I do you mean Oh yes normally for many years it's been the only model doesn't have to do the trip but this year he did want to do it so my wife did it and he said it sort of the purples in the bright colors my wife's and showed me a picture last week I just responded back for a joke I said it looks like the tray for all people time shows but we say oh it's what it's what. I've seen because I don't know Oh says Ringgold. For. Doesn't go I think it's just. All the things we've collected over the you know you say I now any of my own I. Own i love no no no no no I really kind of the kid stuff is all nice in the books I call the life tree among the saving actually just one came out showing his girlfriend all the different things he'd made on the tree it was lovely. I don't we're out of time thank you Richard you're very very precise I've represented Doug Abrams impeachable people we can feel far more about you they can find me on Twitter at b.c. . Mr Briggs and on social media just. Love you love to put downs. And other heroes and frankly care panel thought it was safe to have and have a fantastic Christmas maybe see 3 counties radio bad spots and box travel. Anything Roberto is still looking very slow on me a month southbound That's from Junction 10 at the Luton Airport Road to junction 9 Redbone but it's a crash in the still one lane closed going the other way watching queues on the m one northbound out to junction 10 a pollution a road the traffic backing up to junction 6 a at the m 25 into changed all because of a breakdown in the inside lane stayed closed on the a while my watching queues northbound from Biggleswade south of the home based roundabout to the lane at people made the fall because an accident that's to actually blocked this path in place on the southbound side as well then walking across the 8 him thinking very slow through the right works in both directions between Winston Churchill way and the links at and fed law of it going 3 counties radio a thank you thank you for all the cards such a generous bunch back to more often than 3 some are from 6 it's politics but I think I'm hoping going back to normal politics will discuss everything. Have a great evening next. Radio and. B.b.c. . 7 I'm a stranger in town the u.s. House of Representatives is debating whether to put President Trump on trial for abuse of power he could become the 3rd president in history to be impeached Congressman Joe Kennedy spoke in favor of it he broke our laws he threatened our security he abused the highest most sacred office in our land I want you to know that it does not feel good I can't stop thinking about the cost to our country not just the impeachable offenses. But the collateral damage of a president who uses power like a weapon against his own people but whatever happens tonight Republicans in the Senate are expected to acquit him in the New Year the relatives of 4 British soldiers who died in the 1982 Hyde Park bombing say they finally got justice after winning a civil case against a convicted member of the ira a criminal prosecution against John Downey collapsed 5 years ago now the high court ruled he was liable for the attack Mark tippers 19 year old brother Simon was among those killed it's been a difficult past 6 years since the case was dismissed by a lake and I want to know how much wine is being suffered over the last 37 years why all of the family of course the other boys who were injured it's been a long time which. Emily Thornberrys become the 1st person to officially ends of the race to replace Jeremy Corbyn as Labor leader early attorney Bles said the party must go through radical change to win power again 4 men from Telford in Shropshire have been convicted of abusing a young woman in the early 2000 she was 12 when the assaults began film Arky reports from Birmingham Crown Court jurors were told that the girl was used by a group of men for their sexual gratification one of them Mohammed Ali Sultan who raped her was previously jailed in 2012 after a wide ranging investigation into child sexual exploitation called Operation chalice during the trial the jury was told another man involved in that investigation and allegedly involved in this case wasn't in the dock because he'd been deported to Pakistan. 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