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Doubts are normal, but it always makes sense to air them out and talk about what bothers you openly because that is how you can both move towards some kind of resolution. It’s great practice for life after marriage too, because that is how all successful relationships evolve

The sooner you are honest, the more time you give him to process this and find a way of coping

When you do speak to each other, however, you should both try and address the issues that brought you both to this juncture, because it’s obvious there are things that have been ignored for too long. Until then, wait and try to process your emotions

The best thing to do is enjoy each other’s company and companionship until you get to a point where that isn’t working well for you. Giving her time to arrive at this place on her own is the most sensible thing you can do

Tell him what your fears are, give him time to see things from your perspective, and come up with a plan that works for you both

Take some time to think about this, evaluate how you feel a few days from now and, if you still can’t reconcile the person she is with what she believes in, it may be best to end this and move on

This isn’t an easy decision, but I suggest you put yourself first because your mental health is critical to good parenting

You can always tell her why you want to take things slow and give her a chance to explain herself before arriving at a compromise

If you can’t arrive at a compromise that works for you both, this will only get harder in the future. It is a difficult conversation to have, but also an unavoidable one, so the sooner you have it, the better

Why not simply enjoy her presence, try and celebrate the fact that you are in a relationship, and let things happen the way they must? You can also speak to a counsellor if you believe advice from a neutral third party can help you isolate where these doubts and feelings of mistrust come from