but also once i knew about my parents child before me, in the back of my head there was always a voice saying i need to find that person. how did you find out? i was about 9 years old, and my brothers were playing football in the backyard. and i came out, and i was a tomboy, and i was wearing a football jersey, and one of my brothers said, you know, girls don t wear football jerseys. why don t you dress like a real girl like our other sister. and i could tell something had been said. and i ran to my mom and she said listen carefully because i m only going to fell you this story once. and she only told me once. the story was the family