the term today, meant to evoke a government that acts like a meddlesome governoress, denying us our freedom and agency and full sentist. but the nan judge state is a fitting name for a state that gives mothers the support that a nanny can, relief, another set of hands, a set of watchful, trusted eyes. a society even without an romney s privilege or a big bank account, don t have to mother alope. as one of the millions of parents negotiating the difficult world of balancing work and parenthood, that kind of nanny state sounds mighty appealing. right now joining me we have jimmy lebay, contributing to the washington post blog, she the people. katy to newsweek daily beast. and eve ensleer, her most recent play is emotional creature and the v-day movement to end