Yet many people with troubled relationships turn hopeless and helpless in response. So, here’s a brief synopsis of different approaches promoted by three US-based highly regarded relationship helpers. Read, then search online together, looking locally (usually more affordable), to find someone who practices what you both consider the “right fit” for your needs as a couple.
1. Coaching. Lee Wilson is a “relationship expert and breakup coach” who started in the marriage-coaching business 20 years ago. “As a coach, I can be more outcome-driven and help people achieve specific goals.” The approach is to be “more direct with my clients and even hard on them if they’re being lazy… or falling back into bad habits.” A coach, he says, is an educator, “helping people understand why they aren’t achieving what they want to achieve in their life or relationship” by his reminding clients of what’s holding them back and reverting to old behaviours. Another coaching