mind that this law has not gone away and serve in silence until you get the green light. reporter: when the time comes, breaking that silence will not come easily. if it is repealed soon, and i decide to come out, i think it will be some pushback from the colleagues. pushback in what way? pushback and major penalties from the co-workers. reporter: you will lose friends? yeah, i will probably lose some friends. reporter: make it worth it, still? yeah, because i am me. i am who i am. reporter: for cnn in america, i m soledad o brien, washington, d.c. tonight, soledad follows two men on the quest to become fathers and the legal and personal obstacles they face as a gay couple. tony and gary have a baby airs tonight on cnn. it is the u.s. goal heard around the world and the