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Ask Kim Kierkegaardashian is an advice column by a mashup of the nineteenth-century existentialist philosopher Søren Kierkegaard and the reality star and fashion maven Kim Kardashian West. Are you suffering an existential crisis? Vexed about what to wear? Send your questions to kimkierkegaard1@gmail.com (or address them to @kimkierkegaard on Twitter). Questions may be edited for clarity and length.
Dear Kim Kierkegaardashian,
I had a recent partner who was really into dirty talk. That doesn’t come very naturally to me, but I was managing O.K. until she specifically asked me to call her a slut. My woke brain started arguing with my caveman brain, and it made the whole thing distinctly unsexy for me. Is it problematic to call a woman a slut in the context of consensual sex, if she requests it? Does it deny her agency or make me a chauvinist to even raise the question? Should I be worried that things like internalized misogyny might be affecting her agen