Endured, but there is always some point that hurt you the most and this is it became the decisive factor that dumped you into this depression, am i right . I understand that you need to look for such a point and then work with your fears in this direction, yes, absolutely true, but again i return to this complex term, yes, this is selfregulation, what is this, i am aware of my feeling, for example, my loved one told me something that offended me, its normal to have such feelings, yes, we dont deny them, we. we admit, so i was offended, what . To the fact that my sister, for example, appreciated me, she devalued me, i would say so, and of course i its a shame, im starting to think not about that, not about myself, but why did this person do this, what happened to him . Its a matter of understanding, to understand, to understand why he did it, and it will become easier, but when i saw that, for example, a person, yes, well, limits himself, envies me. And cant cope with it, this envy comes out with this poison, lets just say, yes, and i wanted to feel sorry for her, and my resentment went away, its very important to clarify this point, yes, call and say, you know, i understand you very much, yes, well , here i was in a lot of pain, how can i help you help, that is, it turns out, in order to become happy and in order not to be offended, well, at least your inner circle, you must, everyone around you, too, what is called raising, also making happy , partly sharing your part and sharing to his own in just to understand to understand why what prompted him to do this or say it, it is not directed at me, well, for example, yes, if my mother is screaming, why is she screaming . Mother deprived herself of attention, directed all her attention to raising her children, but she was not there, and she its difficult, if she took time for herself, she wouldnt scream, you know, here. Well , because you said, svetlana, they dont understand her, that is, returning to this term, to this phrase, remember the quote from the famous film well live to see monday that the boy wrote a poem, happiness is when you are understood, very beautiful, this is correct, this is a very beautiful phrase, i think everyone should write it down, your own happiness is when you understand yourself, the happiness of those people who are around you when you understand them, and in fact, we should not be afraid to tell them this, returning to the psychology of poverty, the question is how much has changed. That generation to which, well, from happiness you and i belong , yes, the generation of soviet children, when we lived, that saving for a rainy day, there is this service for certain holidays, rather than being rich there is nothing to start with, yes, and honestly in general you wont earn money, but among young people, the socalled z generation of zero, they are different mentally, different, they develop faster due to information, you know, a lot information, you know, i think that they dont even think about it, we thought about it, they just take it and do it, thats what you said at the very beginning, they just do it, they have a lot of examples, we had limitation, no information, everyone lived approximately the same, you see, thats all, i went to school, everyone was the same, and before their eyes they have examples of dozens and hundreds of successful peers, they understand that, in principle, they are not gods who burn pots, but how we are speaking. That they can do the same thing, but they need something to do it do, then you already blame yourself, well, im like that, because i dont, im not this blogger, i dont get up every morning, i dont take selfies there, i dont go, i dont tell different stories, naturally, before my eyes, them in front of theirs through our eyes there are a lot of these examples that we rely on, and what arises inside a person, this feeling of envy that drives us, that i also want this, our quarry is the deepest. In the world, in general , everything is big here in yakutia, but for what purpose are you coming from moscow . Transport the stones to site 11 46. The ships will stand and go on course, maybe well intercept more, but they return, through bad weather, not even six months will pass, who are you, and i will appear, what happened to your wife, to leave again, im bezomi, dont tease dangerously, for half a year. Sergei bezrukov in the serial film by valery todorovsky. Mayor, if this is what i think, then this is a quarantine for you and me. Bison, fashion model case, premiere, tomorrow after the program time. This is an easy money podcast and i am its host, mikhail khanov. Today my guest is a clinical psychologist svetlana nazoeva. You can see all episodes of the easy money podcast on the channel one website. One more question, this is an interesting one, it is very close to me. Thats why i would like to ask it. There is such a danin kruenig effect, when people are highly educated, experienced, professionals, they devalue themselves, they devalue their knowledge, opinions, it seems to them, well, whats wrong with that, well, everyone knows that, yes. And when i express my opinion, i always consider the people who are around me. Me that they are at the same level, well, im partly ashamed of them receive, yes, on the other hand, i think, well, whats the big deal here, from the information that i say, and then you are faced with the fact that on the other hand people say, wow, you know so much, and so on and you say such things, how do you know this, on the other hand, people who are at the lowest stage of development, and what are you, and they, well , they are like that, they categorically declare that you know, like a fool its true, here. Among your patients there are such people, you know, in simple terms such an impostor effect, well, here im giving a specific example, yes, here i am about myself, whats wrong with that im hosting this program, im hosting this podcast, well, its nothing complicated , very smart people come to me, professionals, i just ask them, im trying to find out the situation for myself, all oh you how smart he must be, hes sitting on tv. Yes, heres how to fight this, how to raise your own selfesteem, we, we dont recognize our victories, why, ill explain, one patient came to me, who was a patient, well, let it be a patient, so a patient came, ok, a patient came, and he came to me with such a request, impostor syndrome, i say what it is, i dont evaluate what i have grown to. Why where does this come from, yes, because our parents never celebrated our victories, i received an a on the head, i patted it, everything is fine, you know , no matter how much we focus on this, how to get out of this, yes, start celebrating for ourselves, that is, we we note for ourselves that we are celebrating our victories, that there is a way out of this situation, that is , all our victories should not be shy, celebrate, at least for yourself, to take credit for your victories, maybe Start Talking more often. I, i will do this, i did that, i did this, that is, when we we were all taught to say we , that is, this is us, this is the merits of the team, that is , it turns out that more often you need to say i, this is what i do, i can do something for yourself, maybe use it, you know, as a life hack from the most famous manual from the bible, yes, where i generally think that the bible is the most beautiful manual on how to live on this planet, and there is absolutely a wonderful phrase love your neighbor as yourself, as yourself, i interpret it as follows. That if you dont know how to love yourself, how do you know how to love others and what love for others is in general, that is, it turns out that first you really need to start treating yourself with respect and love, not devaluing your merits, your achievements , then you can learn this is broadcast with a greater, lets say, degree of empathy and participation, the more you will better understand those around you, naturally, excellent wrote it down, yes, because there was also a request, she came. With such a request that i dont feel love from anyone, yeah, no one loves me, i dont know why, and what is she talking about, yes, that i dont i love myself, i dont have this love, and when i dont have this love, what can i give, heres a shirt im wearing, its the only one, if i give it away, i wont have this shirt, specifically, heres svetlana, they came to you , there have been cases when a patient comes to you. Well, lets just say, he paid almost his last money for your consultation, got an appointment with you and he comes with a simple and clear request. Svetlana, i am a poor man, and this is the money i paid, this is my last money. How can i become rich, thats what you told such people, were there such patients . There were, and it happens from time to time, that yes, they write to me, today i even received a message saying that i can come to you to break through the financial ceiling, well enough, i say, yes, a consultation costs so much, and the girl tells me this is very expensive for me, but i will find this money, we are in one request, yes, for in one consultation in an hour and a half we can solve this issue, i say, i can write instructions step by step, if you do it, yes, its just a matter of time, we can help our audience reveal the secrets, now well give you a few steps for free, the first three steps, according to the stepbystep instructions, the first is to understand how i will make money, what i can do, what skills i have, a patient came to me and said, im a musician, i sing well, but i want to have more money, what should i do, i want my own. Business, i say lets open vocal studio, well, you need to rent a room, yes, im saying what you have, what available funds you have, or where you can find investors who can invest in you, yes, you have skills, the other person has money, they connected, he opened one vocal studio, here you go, uh, the process went further, the development of events, the money comes to the needs, what are the needs, step two . Step two, yes, the task is to increase your needs, because there is such a phrase, yes, if i dont feel thirsty, i wont look for a source, well, thats all simple, you just say what you like, you cant buy there right away, i dont know, mercedes, but you can, no need to immediately, little by little, little by little we begin to increase our standards, quietly right now, where can i increase my standard, choose the next goal for yourself and then you begin, not exactly where, yes, but in all segments of life, and little by little. First i start with food , i understand what i like, i improve the quality of my table, yes, if i ate bread, yes, for 50 rubles, i start buying for example, for 100 rubles, yes, it is more tasty, i start, for the price, or is it really tastier, i just dont know, well, i mean , its not a question of price, but a question of taste, then, for example, i i want soft towels, yes, i buy one, the second according to my capabilities, little by little i increase my capabilities, little by little, this is step number two for us, yes it turns out, the next story, yes, so that there is more money, yes, money comes through new, this is to increase the question of my competence, yes, my knowledge, i m looking at what i should do next to develop this music studio, i take partners, a team, i go on studying, yes, i do this, due to this, yeah , of course, there are hundreds of examples of those same ones, yes, they are probably subject to deep, well, one might say, clinical study, when people from very poor families became, as you said, stunningly rich people , there is some common quality that unites them all, you probably carried out an analysis of this, analyzing the stories of your patients, success stories, and which you constantly cite, that is, there is some, well, well, not one quality, but several, thats the quality, consume more information, learn, look for examples, and try to find when a person is there looking for examples, looking for ways to achieve the same goals that achieved him examples, people from his examples, not giving up yet, perseverance, this is the most important quality, yes, which defines all successful people, he does not give up, the same example with the frog, yes, which whipped milk into butter and got out, yes, he does not give up , he walks, sees the goal, sees no obstacles, do you understand how to become like this, this is thinking, this is the image of us, can this be brought up . Can be educated, its a matter of thinking, yes, when we begin to regulate our feelings, fear, fear that prevents us from moving forward, yes , for example, im afraid of becoming poor, i ask the question, what do you lose, do you have something to lose, he says , well, in general, no, i say, then if you are now afraid of becoming poor, then you have something to lose, no, i have nothing to lose, then go forward, yes, these are supports that i can lean on, yes, which i am. For myself. So, you and i agreed that there are the first steps that will lead you to solving the problem of this transition from a state of poverty to a state of wealth. The first is an awareness of what is happening and a search for informational best practices, yes, best practice, examples that were before your eyes or in history or are now near you, we study them, carefully consider them, we understand how this happened and what i need to do, yes, so that, in the same way, second, we never give up, that is, we are not afraid of temporary difficulties, we we consider all difficulties to be temporary, i see the goal, i dont see obstacles, like you, meddling is a growth zone, im growing. For ourselves, we fix them, including for others, and do not allow anyone to belittle our success in order to remain in a state of comfort with ourselves, realizing that what i do brings happiness not only to me, yes, but also try to make it bring happiness to others. What angered the ukrainians was our bmp3 with its very large firepower; there is no such thing on any infantry fighting vehicle in the world. Special attention turns on himself. 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Eat such a term, recently it was banned in our country, well, lets call it marathons, i dont know, there is happiness, desire, whatever else, successful success, yes, selling successful success, all these trainers, coaches, ignoramuses, like me i call them, yes, as they say, there, get out of your comfort zone, i say, yes, let me at least enter this comfort zone in order to understand where i can get out of, tell me, is there at least one sound grain there, or is it all after all , this is more window dressing, this is more marketing, this is more of the same information, information quackery, information fraud, when sauce for you, with very clear nlp neurolinguistic programming , technologies, for the purpose of seizing, taking money from the population, they sell you some information that you come out, say, and what was it for the most part or not . Im wrong, if i now step on your foot with my heel, very hard, i will stand, i will stand on your foot, the pain will be hellish, i will say, lets pump up the financial ceiling, how will it work, no way, because the focus of attention will go to what hurts you, and you tell me, get off your feet, it hurts me, its not up to the financial ceiling, when a person has a certain. Kind of problem, yes, its difficult for him to think about financial ceilings and so on, he thinks about how to solve this problem for me, and if he found some kind of speaker, yes, who talks about the ceiling and so on and so on, and at least a small part of him was hooked and helped him, god forbid, you know, this is the story, there are no speakers, what are some things your patients who have achieved success might say . I went through all these marathons of desires, schools of growth there, well, these info, i dont know there, infobusinessmen, and what they say, well, they came to me in the end to treat their problems, their pain, which, that is, you say, go, go , then come to me more often and naturally, this is such a story , this is what, what are these marathons, its like motivation, to motivate, you know, to motivate for something, but one person has a leadership component. There is no other, he doesnt need it, he needs something else, you understand, thats all individually, a marathon is generally accepted information, yes, as a belief, yes, how to see something, some example, how it can be, a push, a push, partly, but everything is very individual, there is theory, and there is practice, we go cut out the appendix to a practitioner, and not to a theorist at an institute, so that he is cut. Svetlana, this is our whole concept of increasing the level in various spheres of life, doesnt it lead to poverty of consciousness, that is, we become richer materially, we we actually become consumers, we push ourselves to higher level of consumption, and spiritual poverty, isnt there behind all this, there is no time left, this is a very accurately noted fact, what is psychology, this is the science of the soul, we live in a society, yes, contact, Emotional Intelligence is important to us, what is this achievement of consumerism aimed at, and at what . To buy a new thing, yes, to earn more money, but what about you . But what about you yourself . That is, we simply include Spiritual Development in one of the zones of growth points, that is, we necessarily include an increase in level consumption in our Spiritual Development too, that is, we start going to the theaters , this is a mandatory point in the program , this is mandatory, this is observation, this is understanding, yes, what is what. Tell svetlana, do you have such advice, this is what we said, our life hacks, and you tell people , write it all down, you recommend that they write it all down so that they can read it sometimes, necessarily, because we come back, what is it, a person has a neural connection, what is it, experiments , experience, yes, on which i rely, and i periodically i look, and how should i do it, and how should i think, yes, but the most important thing that i recommend to everyone is to pause between feeling and action, think, check this box, yes, think, this is what i really need, here this is how i want to do it, or i dont want to do it, i can write down my emotion, this will be the very necessary pause and at the same time realize it, as you said , write it down, you know how to come write it down, yes you can do it that way, but in moment when some. Situations happen, yes, here, for example, someone told you, without thinking, you went into effect, flew out of yourself, and begin to do some actions, and when you stop, think about what to say, who are rich people, these are truly rich people, these are happy people, this is a state inside every person, a state of how you feel if i think, im chasing, who offended me, who upset me, and im all in fear with these thoughts . I serve these fears and thoughts, all my energy goes there, point, realize the emotion, stop and dont do it actions, w