Dear Chuck, Our best friends are on the brink of a divorce. A financial mistake occurred several years ago, and theyâre slowly working their way out. But the wife is struggling to forgive. Any advice? Financial Bitterness Dear Financial Bitterness, This is a far bigger problem than simply fixing their finances. A divorce usually leads to a financial and emotional disaster. My hope is that this advice will help you give them guidance to save their marriage. The Big Picture Financial stress is a leading cause in marriage conflicts. Breaking up may not solve the issues. The average cost of divorce in 2019 was $12,900. This varies depending on location, child support or custody, alimony, and if it was settled outside of court or in a trial.Â