Dear Annie: There’s a difference between friendship and an emotional affair Annie Lane: Dear Annie Dear Annie: I am about to get married to a woman I am still madly in love with, five years after we first met. Within two months after our first date, we told each other we were in love with each other and wanted to date each other exclusively. Yet, within four months, she was lying to me, going off for a night here and a night there, claiming to visit her sister, but actually staying with a married man she’s known since high school – a man with whom, she has admitted to me, she cheated on her late husband.