Before You Go Dear Lola Conchita, 'yours is the kind of love that’s secure and selfless' Separated by an ocean, Arvin Joaquin found comfort in his grandmother’s letters. Now, he’s sending her one of his own. By Arvin Joaquin Lola and Arvin (Courtesy of Arvin Joaquin) I still replay our recorded conversation from February 2020 when I came to the Philippines after you broke your hip. When I heard about your fall, the possibility of losing you was so palpable that I bargained with God. I swore I would preserve your story. That night, I held your hand as you walked me through your colourful life.