Most women are dissatisfied with their bodies this is nothing new but young women have become more and more in secure since the advent of social media something is always too big too small too thin too fast too little too short term long or too much. On instagram and platforms like it those who are judged to be the most beautiful are rewarded with the most likes in motors and clicks hours spent on mobile phones fuel mutual comparisons and evaluations young women tend to focus a lot on what they are not or do not have and they feel inadequate. We cannot escape the power of images because its causing insecurity especially among women and young girls it affects men too but i think with all these pictures social media are causing people to feel more insecure. And once again our society you can only be too thin or too fat you can never fit in this thinking i feel beautiful the way i am now i feel comfortable charming and attractive as much as it is at being a woman isnt d. C. Pressure on women is also high because the female body has been central to the formation of womens identity for centuries almost indeed its been from on these as this is kinds of noise feel mean its not a completely new phenomenon of course but social media has certainly amplified the issue of you. Have to. Believe you are human or through were dealing with young people who arent fully settled in their identity yet these these things have a particularly strong effect on them. Going to strike think were facing a real problem and there is no simple solution in. This youre making my luck i havent always felt comfortable in my body but ive always been very interested in fashion. I used to pay a lot of attention to the media medium fix were going. I bought into its ideal of beauty my body just never fit into that mold and was trying to pass. Me on the real people compare themselves with these norms most of them fall short. And think theyre not beautiful enough or not finish for not toned enough or not this enough or not that enough. Say about can fit in. With us because the whole social media hype started on platforms like Instagram People started thinking that not only supermodels look that way but normal girls too and. So on and off. Films my. High. Res. Instagram feed i used instagram for thats the inspiration. And i looked at a lot of photos of extremely slim models theres even the hash tag. That its all about very skinny people posting pictures of themselves to encourage others to lose even more weight to work out even more and to eat even less. Oh. I wake up in the morning and the 1st thing i do was look at pictures of thin models on instagram. They werent just models they were also normal girls just normal girls with anorexia it. Is always. In the head of me that if a suit of perfection to fit an ideal image can become destructive. System then my behavior becomes compulsive i feel forced to make myself prettier to improve myself just so many speak of an inner voice some even called a dictator who fits them to do things he does and for pete that this kid is no longer a choice but in order to follow that sign. Which. Must. React on a forked beast and many young people respond to that with depression she does beat before there is no conscious is fed with all these messages. And that settles into their thoughts and always its like a sediment of sadness because they cant achieve what they desire. Seem to be at. The end of the one so i spent the night on the bathroom floor because it had floor heating and i was freezing so i had no strength left. Right and for kind of assassin my hair was falling out and using up the house that has nothing to do with beauty of feeling good. To another man you dont feel good just because youre really skinny your entire quality of life suffers from being that thin compared to names predicted the length of the months and. I wouldnt eat anything for months only when i felt dizzy thats when i realized i couldnt do this anymore that something had to change i had to go to therapy issues most of us and i miss most and it doesnt. The 1st and the surety that are supposed to come any attempts to conform to beauty ideals a bound to fail when i work with my patients i tell them that if my image of myself isnt correct then i dont need to change myself to fit that image i need to adapt my image to fit my personality these girls are trying to fit their self image and if that doesnt work its because that image is too far removed from reality. I started following body positive influencers on social media instead and deleted a lot of super waves from my instagram feed. d their belief would be to see if you were female role models are very important especially for young girls the question is which ones do i choose do i choose people who are beautiful and successful like beyonce or madonna they might seem out of reach or do i choose role models closer to me who are more attainable and who can inspire me to realize more of who i really am for. Me who wouldnt come. Yet the is that now instagram helps me feel more comfortable with myself now i follow a lot of people who have the same body type as i do or are plus size. It helps to see their photos and see how pretty they are and to know they have a similar builders mine and are still attractive. Then ill go in the mirror and feel beautiful again. Before. Strong is the new skinny fitness is booming and no longer just for men the internet is teaming with female fitness models who encourage other women to reach peak results what it takes they say is control and discipline. Is good in mice and mentioned see most people are doing pretty well that means storing fat for harder times isnt considered attractive and thats where this beauty standard comes from these diseases for most people being skinny isnt their natural state but the product of hard work and especially given the temptations of our modern Abundant Society where we can consume calories as often as we like staying slim is associated with effort and stress which makes it more of a status symbol. Which clothes for. This is an odd stop assuming you are. My add to my day to day life as a bikini athlete includes a lot of training of course i workout almost every day. Or. More important though is getting the right nutrition in between. And that means i always have to plan my meals i cant just go somewhere for a day without having cooked in advance. So if i know im going to be out the next day i have to buy and prepare everything the evening before and in addition i still have a lot to do on social media and i also make my youth. Many years myself many who do. But i was never that skinny look at that. So to. Escape if you mention you want to mind a shrunk no it is many people think that being thin is really important thats the slight doubt that i think fitness has become the guiding principle for a good body i think this because if. Im for especially for young woman because fitness is an ideal a norm that goes far beyond physical exercise fund theres fit for fun fit for work fit for life fit for sex fit for everything and that actually has a strong relation to the theory of evolution survival of the fittest which feeds back into the concept of competition and success. And i must forgive. Him but i think i have some competitions coming up and that means im on a diet i have to eat less calories and i burn and well i eat really healthy and the only im sorry soon. Im far is most am with you but youre really motivated and you still have a lot of calories and with time your calories drop as your body had absent things become more and more difficult as you must be its hard for women to maintain a low body fat percentage who are hard all and theres been some and he may be a social and it gets really tough my deficit is at its lowest and i cant eat a lot. Of course i have very hungry at times and that affects my mood. So part of the small today is monday and ive got 6 days left thanks im feeling really down today. Already. Im so mad. And i dont even know why. I feel like crying and i dont know why i somehow managed to force myself through my leg training and i did my cardio workout beneath im not even hungry thats how angry i am but im going to eat a little now anyway because i still have to take in a fair bit of protein if you drive us over. You know he would sing this communes for i say this kind of a version to pleasure is g. To an intense body cult its your minds response to our bodies objectification even as of in the. T. V. And when we start seeing our bodies as little more than objects things that we have no loving relation to or degrade them to tools to perform better to be better to be special to be admired. Then we are ultimately separating ourselves from our emotions in the latest in the incident from. You whats your my motivation is to keep Getting Better i dont compare myself to others i just want to improve myself and. Keep your kind of work against you in a way theres no upper limit to fitness you can always get fitter and that logic can perpetuate itself into infinity and want to help you. Get stuck on the work i do on my body pays off his cabinet type of wall i think there was a time when Natural Beauty was more desirable but it seems like we departed from that a long time ago and again its weird when these days we prefer to acknowledge people who have invested a lot of work maybe even had an operation or have stuck to a strict diet and exercise a lot of us who have monitored and measured and worked hard on themselves that help. Me its all about pride i go up there in my high heels youre standing there youve worked so hard for this moment and now you get to show it off loser to me its a moment of pure happiness. I think so many dangers and. Keeper of the extreme i have to admit without a trace of envy that some people achieve really impressive results with their bodies. Of setting up of the in the who will actually spends that much time energy and money on their body can change it quite a lot but this ideal of it ever being possible to reach a state of permanency or that im ever done working in can be happy i dont think that ever happens and i believe that is what keeps us stuck in this rat race list. I mean you just need to learn it from having 200 grams of chicken breast with bell peppers and red onions. Every year. The ubiquitous size 0 mannequins in the shop windows if they were real women their big stream under white almost all male dummies on the other hand would weigh about average why hold women to different standards. They mainly get some polish different masculinity is symbolically associated with reason rationality and the shaping of the world and of politics the critic wanted for. Women are associated more with sensuality irrationality theyre supposedly closer to nature and more emotional. For the so i could say should also perhaps be more at home responsible for housework all this is expressed in these pictures where girls and women are to be desired theyre expected to be objects of desire what they say and do is less interesting and i believe social media is giving new rise to this imbalance here people are compared rated and shamed and i must add there is a remarkable amount of shaming rituals on social media this guardians which i made an old. Obviously she most for. A single day its almost business as usual to be attacked as a woman if your voice your opinion the readers in my case its mostly male readers wont respond with arguments theyll say youre ugly youre fact nobody would want to screw you anyway they immediately make it about my gender and my body and cup i. Was busy at one station is full for me weve been observing a massive amount of denigration of women in the social media insults threats violent speech to say the least because going from home even sex for the t. M. Is to insult them on stock to devalue their femininity. And to devalue their person with sexualizing remarks he says its when easier to. Tax a common thought the worst comment i ever received was your subhuman why dont you become a stripper or a hooker and hang yourself and there are other people who right get yourself sterilized or should be cut out more and like to bang you so you stop writing such nonsense or youre stupid youre retarded you must suck in bed size in bed all these things have nothing to do with my work. Is titled oft i often Share Screenshots of comments like that its important to me to see that i have allies who think its just as bad as i do just that also i can remind myself and not everyones thinks this way i mention things on this day there are actually plenty of people with a positive mindset and thats easy to forget that often when you read such moments youre scum and. I think its because the users can stay anonymous. That way its easier to vomit your opinion or fart on to the web and then move on. Down back to my guns all of this is hard to take most of the time its plain massaging. Her teeth but here when you look at all these hateful posts and the sheer amount of them you can see there by people who think that girls and women have already taken over the world how to he. Think girls and women a much better off the men is that theyre taking everything away from men and that they are better educated that theyre already ahead in economics and politics the numbers dont support these claims but thats what they fantasize. I think social media is like a couple like barbie and ken. Perfect smooth no rough edges. And curly white teeth full sensual lips so talk to. The feminine stereotype stares at us like a soldiers car and women in commercials are doomed to flawlessness and those sold as sex objects the formula for success sex sells seems to apply particularly to female bodies who are the women behind these beautified masks and what kind of walter they live in. And. Yes you so much binge not long its last summer i moved to london i was 4 and i went out one evening and was introduced to several people. One of them was a manager an agent Something Like that goes on dad he said hed help me get jobs to improve my image for middle income. Not a few months ago i received a Whatsapp Message asking me to have dinner with a very famous actor because i was offered several 1000 euros for 2 hours comment when i asked and he said i had to be ok with natural intimacy. Natch that was when i realized this couldnt be normal i said i was sorry that i wasnt an escort i was a model. And this finn and model. No one else because actors just fine i was told lots of top models did it this is not that it was normal and that they were making millions. That shocked me he tried to convince me that you couldnt get anywhere if you dont accept office like that and. Being a pretty not only means being successful. It can also lead to constant sexual harassment. And by the way thats also the case for most pretty women. As we all know sexuality has fairly little to do with appearance. And more to do with dominance and Power Dynamics than to give right for he. Was you know you dont hear all that chance im often asked to take off my top or bra because they say it in the way of my portrait. Which always makes me wonder why is my bra in the way if theyre taking a picture of my face ive also had them try to help me on dress as if it were the most normal thing in the world i dont agree with that. The problem is many agencies are aware of it and just dont care whos. Not going to before moving to london i had visited an agency in munich and they told me my hips were too wide for the London Fashion week. To me. There was nothing there i was just skin and bones but you can get so hung up on stuff like that. And it makes you wonder whats gone wrong with his industry. You have to question everything so when i look at how my photos are taken its all staged its nothing surreal i mean when i see pictures from my modeling campaigns all i can tell is that its not many hours of makeup styling editing makeup styling my know what goes on behind the scenes that include the same goes for myself is i used to do a lot of work on myself is when i look at them today i hardly recognize myself and lots of people follow these perfect instagram pages because its like a dream in a world worth pursuing and thats how ms this is and the very. Thing is we cant pursue it because it doesnt exist exist yet. Middle of august himself its now im more interested in the edited pictures its important to me and my thought was that i show more real photos. In this all they appreciate that. My man in my heart is the pages that retouch photos should point out that its not real and im not sure that these people fully realize what kind of impact it can have reduced and what it does to young people its very dangerous and i think its a crucial topic that isnt being discussed enough in our society on his community. To mitigate the effects of photoshop to beauty if we can call that all we have to do is look different very few photo manipulations have to be marked as such as that might actually help. But we cant forget that the picture still speaks louder than the label. In the age of social media not even a make up artist isnt enough to cheat your way to ideal looks. Every image is digitally edited beauty apps on our smartphones make the opportunities for modeling boundless we can make our eyes bigger our noses smaller our lips are cheekbones high on our faces lena raskin much more perfect all of the swipe of a finger all the click of a mouse our digital optimized solves sound better than our edited so those. Industries new advertisers are socalled influencers. And we could. Find i pity you. With over 300000 instagram followers influencer janie has more subscribers than some daily newspapers Companies Use internet stars like her to advertise products and make lots of money jayney cant afford to look anything but flawless. Which. Incidentally is included Jack Instagram is a work of art i do it to keep up with people of course i edit my pictures my temples are retouched but if i think about it and try to think of a good reason for it then its different than just wanting to fit in for example i used to have very bad acne. People didnt care why i added. They just wrote me off as someone who didnt take care of herself to improve gas he can inflict. That tuna should i just mean if it got its course i cover up my pimples its self defense as soon as you dont make Society Standards you have to put up with people looking at you sideways office day and no matter how hard i push the idea of being yourself and loving yourself for who you are it still felt too risky because i have a fairly wide audience. Im still afraid i bought a ring of light and sat far away from the camera in my videos so that you couldnt see my acne and one way or another it still gets to you you feel boxed into a corner and wonder am i really any different to the rest. But isnt knowing me dealing with these new media that weve noticed that were moving away from looking at other peoples faces and rating them as a pretty very pretty average viewer for want to give to seeing our own faces being critiqued because it does it was that something we had to deal with much less in the past few fee