Then there are the quantitative issues. The gap is steadily widening between virgins who cater to themselves wonderfully and Virtual Worlds who know everything theoretically, but have no practical experience. And those who tender from bed to bed find here is where we slip very quickly into porno and sex addiction. This applies to the virgins, as well as the promiscuity who can no longer find the off switch or who are unable to be intimate in a proper relationship by its true for both. Even those who tender from bed to bed and who actually try to run away as soon as the knickers drop. You take a single dollar. So troy people i think are just as faithful or unfaithful as theyve always been dogs. But the opportunities for infidelity have increased considerably here throughout the canal, the pressure on people to remain faithful has dropped the norm. A select order your money in the past. There be a lot or someone would be caught me and were a hotel girl for a double room in that suit jacket, went to the cleaners. The result was a jealous outburst and heated argument, and the affair would be downplayed or there would be a confession. But the chasm that opens after checking someones mobile home, reading their emails, or seeing all the photos and all the facets of a relationship lay bare in the form of images and texts. Well, thats a shock, especially when our partner had no clue that this is sort of this, i feel has become a totally new kind of a relationship problem. As if the people who met online used to lie and say we met at the farmers market, if they said would met online name as well. Have said, we got to know each other backstage at a sec show and i dont know, hardcore magazine would have had the same effect for about 1800. If you had told anyone anywhere in the world that what marriage is, is that you choose your favorite person. And live just with them and any children you have for the rest of your life and that you should be together because its your favorite person, your best friend. You also want to have sex with. People would have said you were crazy. The concept is less than 200 years old, before then moved into police and some of the rigid confines of a conventional army. Over the last of those centuries old deal, romantic love was the basis for marital bliss. And so the large cities, the search for the right person, the big shift to greater personal freedom when time to her within months of socially people. Its around the time of the Industrial Revolution around the time that men start working for wages that people start working in industrial jobs outside the home, all these massive social changes that take place around the time of the french, an american revolution. We start to see these new family farms and this new ideal of romantic love, right . That people should choose their partner, the freedom of choice, apply to men, only women how to work her to influence. Marina moved from better circles, then begin the so for improvements culture once it ceases to be that men come to the womans home, invited by her and supervised by her parents and becomes the case that men invite women out right. Men invite women to go to a bar, dance hall, or a movie. Courtship starts to take place in a mens world in the world of the market in the world of work. The stories do you think is also one of them once a patient. The 1st women to agree to go in dates to workers in immigrants who come to the city after the 1st world war, the wealthy began to teach as well. It was all the rage at the moment that i call the invention of dating, we also see the rise of many new kinds of social spaces where young people can mix and meet one another. These include dance halls. These include movie theaters, these include boardwalks, or you might go out. I talk about these as a kind of analog or real life social media because like our social media today, there are sites that bring people together and facilitate certain kinds of interactions. So a bar that you go into is set up for you to me, interact with people in a specific way where thats not totally dissimilar. The social media we rely on so much for dating today. Online dating is a booming economic sector. Where do you do you, who is estimated at 3400000000 euros . With me wolf is one of the founders of tinder. Now the best known dating platform worldwide, its clients choose partners on the basis of photos on the g. P. S. Goofus turned her back contender and new moons, her own bright yellow empire. Another using up cold bubbles. Wolf is often referred to as the do you think green . Because as they like to see, she revolutionized Online Dating. We didnt really think about it as a rebel. What a revolution on dating, i think it was really getting people access to people in ways they never had access to each other before. So if you think about it traditionally rely on being at the right place at the right time, or having a friend in your duty to someone. And so you have very limited options. And when you meet, you dont have access to see whos in the building next door and have the opportunity if you want to, thats just never has existed. Thats not quite true. And so has nothing to do. You not forgive the kid in the 1st system to locate people youre buying it was already on the market. 3 years ahead of 200. 00 on the wrist finder is still a step ahead today. Its cooperated with the Data Community to fight racism and discrimination by using humor to make users aware of marginalizing profile texts. That contrasts sharply with many for sexual dating, where users are made to feel that such social pressures exist. I think the best thing you can do on Online Dating is, is used as a platform to truly be yourself. So in real life, theres a lot of pressure to maybe fit in with your colleagues or your friends or to fit a certain role and try there be something every day thing up need something that makes it unique to their clients who want to date, especially women to the platform and the marketing pitch is centered on feminism, and the 1st step of many can be much is for women only with the worlds carefully maintained suit. Image was a powerful woman. Yet on our social media home pages, she saw the brits are so few would have sung and she proof of herself as a looks real housewife. While she from its the world to share their jet set lifestyle. Of course, you also wonders who took knowledge, could be used to make the world a better place. So, Technology Just gives people a platform to behave in another form and right, but theres something people in there still, you know, reacting to their psychological triggers. And if you think about the way weve raised men and women globally, men have constantly been get been given the, the pressure to go after women to chase, to get them. And when there is this pressure to go get something, youre going to be rejected. Oftentimes, and if you think about the psychology of rejection, thats very powerful, rejection leads to obsession and aggression. And so when you reject somebody, and that person has the ability to hide behind a profile, and theres no government to control the consequence of bad behavior. You are left with a lot of abusive behavior that kinda hard to make people tender promoted itself by claiming it had done away with the pain of rejection. Because you dont even notice when youve been deleted on the make shift. But of course, thats not the case. The pain simply comes later this month. If someone has got their hopes up, then theyre likely to get hurt even more deeply. But most of society should feel hopeful and get mucked up because they found theyve been discarded when the other person has found something better. Before but this form of rejection is known as ghosting. Simply disappearing happened in the past to have Digital Communication contacts are just as easy to pin the broccoli as they were to establish. Many feared the digital discoursing needed and 3 months people claiming to have patel of the dial up, the one that are grandmothers and grandfathers years. People also claim that the car whirlwind romance, because back in that time the parents will be involved when theyre there. When theyre kids at the age of marriage, whatever that means now started dating that they would be there, they would accompany them they would be involved in the car, could take you away. So this is Just Technology and this is innovation, and this is, this is us, innovating is culture. Its not destroying it. Its giving more access card changed lives that lets you get from point a to point b. I want to explore your love life in your relationship so much better. The telephone, of course, life changing and these platforms to connect with people are also life. Life changing to be all about them is has shown he does know what weve seen is with Online Dating too. So that the relationship is romanticized artificially. So i was just about to cancel my 4 ship subscription, so to speak. When i found you and dick and then i lost interest in Everything Else with this interest if i was under for the war that i think still represents a deep yearning scene. So i was using flash chip and at the psychological test for 20 minutes you have to answer questions like do you like raisins or did you often wet the bed as a child . In the end you are one of 3 kinds of people. Im only 10 percent intellectual and only 10 percent emotional on through but 80 percent of me is passion driven so i dont think our ship is so great. I see my like flattering psychological test results better. What is more passe costs 60. 00 euros a month . Or is it cheaper for straight people . This is one burke. Theres just one red house on the street. , this is where shell go. Schneller laughs. Now, 88 years old in the 1960 s. , the psychologist developed the 1st much money contest for a magazine and later notorious par ship test as well. 80 questions and a top secret oh, good rhythm are designed to help someone find their better half. I was already in im arrogant enough to say that my characterization of a person is fairly accurate. If its slightly off, that could be because he or she didnt get honest answer study or maybe answered in a way that they thought would be more acceptable or give them an attractive characteristic when they dont really have the best of self perception and the way others see us can diverged greatly, tutti theres fred. But thats a problem across the board of your mind, not just one thats exclusive to partial people can have a totally skewed selfimage chits. The high price for payment platform is one of the leaders in the german language teaching world. The fruits such as importance to being beyond comparison with tinder and other online services, partially says its core and unique selling point is the true serious scientific matching test, which includes questions like do you sleep with the window open, long term relationships generated from zeros and ones who wants a bit of romance, professor has a tip internet or implementing best . The internet and romance go wonderfully together. Like put 2 candles next to the computer and youve got romance, even when youre searching or filling out a questionnaire and oh, month romance is wonderful, but its in here. And you can also get manufactured romance on the internet coming off the internet or to visit today. Every toothbrushes ordered online, arrives in the mail. So weve gotten used to the idea of finding a partner this way, and thats been the whole. Why not at home, and if we do everything with these electronic busy boxes that none of this maria clients who has been in the love business for more than 40 years in the good friends of mine that all the shit i found got to begin with. There were matchmakers and dating agencies and then the dating sites shot on to the market. And ill put it this way. We had a bit of a famine. Sometimes i really wondered when i would just close up shop kind of when i would no longer be able to live from that. But over the course of time that changed again, suddenly its bounced back. I wouldnt say people are leaving the dating platforms, but theyre coming back to me more often. The good old Teaching Agency is a relic from the precomputer age. Put file cards neatly sorted according to name, income and profession, and naturally, social status and family background. And also selects possible partners by hand, which of course increases the cost for the client. After all here, the weaves is separated from the chaff in advance and i dont know i like uptight. My fee is 3000 euros for younger clients rising to 67 or 8000 depending on the degree of difficulty. That might sound a bit strange, but if someone is rather special, then the search for a suitable partner is more complicated, is all her fifties needs not to say everyone who comes to me can make suggestions based on the existing clientele. But when i notice that something is going a bit more special, then i go in search of the right partner and his or her not. Maria klein says that shes made more than one phones botches. Shes been in business now for nearly 40 years. And Old School Still she places and proper middle class newspapers and studio uses this tried and true method just as she did in the past. As a vicious appearances always important, thats just the way it is. I only state quite clearly that a person barely falls in love with good character seasons. Its about a Relationship Sex appeal is part of that and that means finding the other person sexually attractive. This is an important aspect, and its important as well that the 2 people are similar, have the same sense of humor and outlook on life. So theyll be able to understand each other when they converge. According to a study by a chinese dating platform for at least 5 percent of men, there is never lived that fits, they end up on the digital back burner. Even though for many years now, countless goods have been published. The arch of the alleged secrets, you have to know one order to find your dream mate. The roles which men and women have to play in this part, they do remain unchanged. Is the possible objects of desire and the, the hunter. Theres a book for men called the game and a book for women called the rules. And i think that this difference, you know, the game as a book all about how to make women feel desperate to sleep with you and sort of how to get disposable fast relationships. The rules are all about how women must never show what they want, but play this long game of tricking men into liking them by, you know, not calling when you want to, not sleeping on them when you want to making yourself seem inaccessible. And i think that the difference between the rules and the game really is sort of distills the ways in which these very fashion binary gender norms still play out in the dating advice literature. Traditional gender stereotypes. I wanted all the belts here and this Thomas Schieffer elmiron ones, this dancing school, which has been a business 1st century. Its the tinder of back in the day. And vienna, its still traditional for youngsters to attend a dance course when they turn 60. 5, and want to use roofing for she didnt like the came around, you get to know so many different people. A dance course is a great opportunity to find someone who is on the same wavelength, is thats why dance schools in particular produce lifelong and deep friendships. Not to mention humorous matches and even marriages even. This weeks through the, by one of the key things about a dancing school, especially in our modern era, is that the 2 genders can meet naturally and honestly on a neutral ground. And learn to get along with one another without having to have any fear of touching literally. And it behooves the boston scene. After all, when they start the course, their own able to take up the correct dancing position anyway. These are they all come with this built in personal space during the course of they get over those as we learn to approach each other and move in harmony together is the see. These are things which are also very important in life. See this in the new, the, you know, whos leaving the abuse dixie and along with the vienna waltz. Good manners are part of the course curriculum. These are the golden rules of etiquette for men and women. Most of which date back to imperial times old film material of how or perhaps how not to kiss a ladys hand. A monster. Some men take their ladys hand, bower over it, and the kiss is quite damp. Making a lip smacking sound thats not recommended. And some ladies pass out their good fortune when their hand is taken for a kiss. She doesnt want it and pushes her hand down hard. Now, there are 2 types of men. Are. Those they give in and bend down to kiss the ladys hand and the other more energetic type. Who says she doesnt want one . Yeah. Well then ill use force and out my other hand and bring her hand up and there the cares. And the woman falls towards the match from a kiss on her mind to smartphones. Because these days, even a smartphone is a Constant Companion bowls. Indeed. Its a development the streets dont School Director views with mistrust feet was the of with we focus so much on our mobile phones and all these other things but not on the people who are right next to us. And thats a major problem of the man who finished it. My profile is just a one liner. It says on the 1st date, by pay for all the drinks the on the i think he can be expected to pay for things on the 1st day, 3 months. You think its thats worked so well that i send a disclaimer with my 1st text response. No cocktails, just beer and wine and no friends either. And i need to be allowed to sit at the same table. And they always say you dont get a 2nd chance to make a 1st impression. So when i go somewhere, i have to think carefully about the kind of impression id like to make. You must have planning. Ive got a list of icebreaker questions here. Like do you look pretty or ugly when youre crying . And then the human instead of once the conversation has gotten going, you should try to identify the other persons interests. Who can, you know, to disk, you please move used to fuel. They advise using the funnel that it would be a bad start with open issues. And then slowly focus on a topic that interests the other person. You or what did your mom call your penis . Well being human, because when someone is talking about their favorite subject, theyll feel at ease in open aspect of that way. Of course, you get to know someone much better than if you present yourself as a special deal yourself with the course or the dosh to use of group and kid school and it has lived in vienna for many years. Hes already had one or 2 personal experiences with dating ups and says they provide perfect material for comedy. Dating is common to the dating issue is brilliant for comedy because we live in a time when there are more and more single households. Or you have an age when people work a lot and go straight home afterwa