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Consensus talk to about the type of the 28 punch rises and sometimes its exhausting. Trying to find in, in about another student in the home, life can be exhausting. Listening to people talk about pets, hes saying slight, theyre important if i could screen. But whats good with that to, to get us meets like jumping back and forth between 2. Well the midterm springs close. Its okay to enjoy yourself and just to now start. But dealing with life and death, you have to process it. You can just shut the telephone from this, the field on november, november the full. Every time i come to the hospice, im filled with a kind of joy. Its not that easy to talk about. So its just anybodys picking them time coming up nice to meet you and all the time drowning and Infinite Sadness when im alone. But i do think about just a lot of that. I think i find positive energy in difficult situations as well as in happy one that i because barbara always says, learn how nice that youre here. And every time i think to myself, how nice that i get to be. So you have the highest and you have mine and i present i in the high im your hand. When is the new present . Is the dvd ash . 021 grams. So what does 21 grams referred to . Thats roughly how much the human. So my way, its not scientifically prove, and of course thats not true, but it needs the most have room for what. What does that leave room for . Oh, crap. Thank if the ones we want to make dash less of it today and we want to talk with you about things. People dont usually like to talk about time. So again, im a companion for the dying, which means that im always standing at the crossroads between life and death lead to ive been doing this for 7 years now and i have the feeling this way cuz put way more intensity to how im living. Because without death, theres no life and also be the stuff of the one on top of that. Ive also lost the siblings. So death is always played a big role for me. And then with my grandfather goes, so i was 11 when he died and saw this decline, the other really alive, mans where did so many things changed within just 2 months. I was there for all that. So thats been my experience with that so far. How you say you were at the funeral home about i was at the funeral and i saw him for the last time for the 2 weeks before he died. I visited him for the last time. He was already pretty far gone, how hed regret a lot. He talked about his mother, he didnt really recognize anyone anymore, but he was still alive and still present somehow. Or why his own grief helps us to see feelings more clearly and sense most subtle. And youre always getting mixed because grief doesnt begin with the death of a person. So grief, all the dislike, guess is a fact of life that accompanies us. It was your dislike. I accompanied an 8 Year Old Girl who loves to 12 year old sister to bone campsite fund on dublin. So i doing to find many rice house to the day to come and sit by another. With an hour i noticed that she was sometimes the police side for a moment, a moment, and then she was okay and its been divided. So we go back to play a piece of control up with this. Like she jumped from one pool of sadness to the next box and then often its the case with us adults that we think of just such a way of grief that we call and get house events. We will mess drowned and it then goes, i definitely noticed that some major differences between children and adults of oxygen and all the on the estimate assessed for a few weeks. So ive seen accompanying mandy who has a Serious Health conditions now soon she will die. Hes on the waiting list for hospice bed of on demand vice funds divide, signed it. Right. So lets just i was wondering about your bucket list or i would have called a wish list of, of what you call a bucket list in there. For instance, tom. Yeah, its quite a funny story. I saw a movie wants to fill stuff to her in the hospital and they said to themselves, hey, i still have certain things that i would like to do or has the field before i kick the bucket, to go home and they still, before she was lucky and then it became so clear to me a bucket list, which of those things that i would still like to do before i kick the bucket, to move up to the top feeder that you have so many were 40 or 42 right now. Wow. And 2 of the ones that just coats youve done those to exactly. I to feel the or shape them some houses. It was sort of and it was funny in the beginning of the when you think about it for its like what do you really want to do or experience in your life or something where its like there were a couple of things where i thought to myself, as well, hello. This might be exactly what i want from life general before to happen. For example, id like to eat fresh strawberries or fly. I thought that would never really happen. Then suddenly i found myself sitting in an ultra light airplane. And it was like, wow, well, because flying me kind of means interesting to me. Probably because i had a near death experience. I felt this kind of freedom then to be honest, im springs. I had a good handle from this matter that i felt some of that again and this out for lifeline. Just existing between heaven and that was really fascinating for me to finish for senior and heart disease. And and when did you start writing all that down . Just a moment of oxen was enough maam. And thats my little list immediately off to my last surgery from which was when i decided not to undergo any more surgeries, that was a very major operation because they had to do super late me 4 times. And it became very clear to me like no, ive had a total of 11 life saving hot interventions guys, but thats enough. Or i didnt the same bread, so to speak. I decided to take this palliative rogia to those, and also to pursue these wishes. So if i could list of what id like to do and im, im, i still havent got their final searching for ready had a near death experience. Um, how does, what do you think happens after death and told me no, its been for the stuff. What about sort while im totally convinced that i know because in this new test experience, i didnt see it right. What tunnel like some people to i saw myself dying from a box for me it was completely bizarre because i could hear and feel this crazy alarm sound coming from the marta. I could field and this is 5th. But at the same time, there was also a complete stillness total silence. So it was completely quiet and noisy at the same time. And there was also the total piece. I noticed that i no longer had any questions. I also had this strange, 360 degree view without having to move in any particular way. Thats what this come give yet. And it became clear to me that in the end, the 1st thing would be why mail my notice that me from and then it was clear, well hello, there you go. And my fear of death immediately vanished. Foster this near death experience phone, contact the number on the the money you take about item is gone. Yes. Its going about that. Thats what id like to ride the road coaster. Okay. Okay. But that was pretty cool too. Yeah. As to april, the 11th, i may tell, or i said childrens bereavement, great. I was leading just reply to a few moments before her big sister died of bone cancer. She was only 12 and it was 8 years old. And somehow we instantly clicked and since then i have a company the family show through that grief joy and dying gum. Yeah. Does ita sits in her folder . Tell me what youre planning. Lice. Im done reading the document. Yeah. Okay. Um yeah, i just have your mind, i have my dissertation till the occasion. We also have, im interested in the agency of terminally ill children to nephew to vanish. And because i think that children on to involve nearly enough in this whole process when it comes to therapy meshes and just being included in the whole Decision Making process. It seems as though it is a painful though. I think you should definitely let the kids have their sides mediate. Of course, you could also consider the parents perspective, the design, other actually assessing how equipped to their children or to decide on these issues. Im going to non so it but the children should definitely be involved. You should ask about their opinions and wishes line and also about agency that within them. Oh my god. So based on that, do you think that you find a Company Different families . So my doctoral thesis now for a few months. So for a year then i might get to many different perspectives because no 2 families are aligned to the the im glad i then somehow incorporate them all come talk to me. Now, would that still be scientific enough . For them assistant transfers them, you know, does this contract Qualitative Social Research . It could be really going into depth, not taking a broad approach if you have found it. And then it becomes less about how having as many cases or families as possible. And more about looking at what are the very concrete subjective issues that come up and asking a terminally ill child. These questions ended up being done. And if you do that over a long period of time, you will need significantly fewer cases than if you were to just conduct a series of interviews. So i would 1st wait until you have the Research Design and then you can look at the next step is done. How many families do you need to answer your questions . Find something that will be decided on the front of me since june, the 15th. The thing for me that still inexplicable is how the time i spend in the hospice is imbued with the menlo de cool, nice, gentle rhythm of nice weather. Adagio pressed of mine, arrow major, everythings held together by a structure, everything interact just with everything else. Its like the values of we define demand, im increasingly aware of the emotional depths that sign codes based in the word itself and its inhabitants. And so ive got this, this is, i feel very, very comfortable here. I just have to say that over fee is i had to just go on. Although i cant say exactly why i simply feel comfortable here. I feel like coming good hands, you know, good all school. Thats always for me for me. I never used to feel this way, but eventually its irrelevant whether i still have 3 moms or only for another 2 years, but its just not the important piece. It is hard, im enjoying this time that i have now like this is, its beautiful because all the things that i have suffered in my cost dont matter anymore versus the device. This is how was it for you to grow up in an alternate gmc goes into effect. Doesnt shape me a lot, for example, because of that experience. I didnt want to come here. I didnt want to come to this hospice life isnt very easy. Is it for you this too much ahead of you . You dont even know it yet. So thats Something Else thats good for me. Im gonna look theres not much that can happen to me anymore. Buffy on them. Are you afraid of death because it doesnt sound like its only roll please . No, no soul. Especially since i was told that my dad would be simply losing my strength, losing the desire to do anything with the sort of you the said it would be like slowly saying good bye to life and falling asleep. When the im and i will not resist this study, this was this almost, i think that death comes when its supposed to come done. And that is quite reassuring domain transfer with the mind like the god. Oh, by the applied to on the side to be a v. As in the sun, boston the items on the east august, august the 21st im leaving a message to me personally is supporting the people here and making their lives most beautiful because we so i want to put a smile on their faces and enjoy life with them to the fullest over as much as possible. Life is so precious and we only get one, even if he knows its incredible. We assume you should still make on every my minutes and unforgettable quantities and maybe im taking on a bit too much for. But thats my goal. Notice and you should always have a goal. And so dont mind seeing how ok. So i think these need to go back. Yeah, i said no, yes i had the same. So when i saw that it somehow doesnt fit to to, thats what will come, where do these blocks come from . The big data. Theres only the pink one here now, to me, thats a little too so, so really gotten this done down. See now it was really fun and again, want to know exactly. So were looking at what does this mean of nearing it like this . Yes. Okay. As positive matches, look good. I work on the front of comcast to this very good. Yes, great. Then very so im just clicking that and then im excited to talk about the back cover. Take dixon. We can think about the design as the back cover to hope to look side to mid threes thing and come back and then maybe we can look at the whole phone go on and this paragraph, its important to me that these 10 insights come across Even Stronger this is seen items as the notion of what the books about coming, okay, this of us, of us just ball. So its not just and the people dealing with this its on the phone number to sign conductress is as you always put it so beautifully. People who are dealing with death dont need to take a mindfulness. Cool. Yeah. Yeah. Kind of does. Instead of a guess, i dont want to write this, but kindly for people who are confronting desk right now. But for everyone, because this is a subject this effect so, so im going to swing willow die at some point. And thats why its so important to somehow deal with the subject beforehand. Its what i answered when dest eventually happens, it wouldnt be as difficult to manage the, this is isaac boot strawberries, lost a cool, thats totally space of view. 8 enough to it, so in your bucket the yes. And the fresh from random back look really fresh to thank you very much on chris, about one right now. Id love one. Great. So its good to say i havent eaten strawberries for ages. So yes, that was a great idea of yours. My place. Yeah. Please eat there is still plenty in the town. Yes, thats great. I always loved them as a child to my grandmother had a huge god and back then, im from the 3rd. If it was filled with strawberries and cards, things like that. And i was just really present whenever i was the you dont really find me in the god. Mm hm. Because i thought also it also has a lot to do with your childhood, right strawberries. So im not so do you want people to weeks to please at your funeral level or does or what do you think about it . See what else . You know, some people really like things like that. So you, for example, i could totally imagine people Drinking Coffee at my funeral. I think thats kind of cool because i also like to drink coffee all the time, thinking if enough, like, ill be downstairs and listen to do to, you can drink something. This doesnt time to me, so then im not quite sure about it. I mean, usually i dont where black guy may come to. So, so should i take some of the again, name, is that okay, lets most of the fair cool, very cool. Its somehow much smaller than i expected. I know its good that we can look so much speaker on tv. Oh, of the diesels, in line with a 27 year old ones that the company to die out of the black. Yes. And then i get that question fairly often, and i always think to myself, why wouldnt i missed as the bottom it . Why is the scene is something that said the queue. Yes, yes, its something that everyone finds so difficult and they say, hey, why you doing this . Why are you dealing with such a heavy subject to such a young age and table . For me . For me it doesnt feel heavy for me. Its for me, its more of a question of why isnt this a normal thing for us to do it on this . It is best without something i just dont because i want these with teeth for me. It on this day when this one that instead of relationships, liam on this emptiness, and just being in this pure existence, what does line . I think thats what makes me feel even more life and screwing less high china ive got hope to hear. Yeah. This is i just way too much going to flour, but we dont have to cool of it. Lets see. No, thats right. You can type some out so much color flour. Didnt know what to do with so much cauliflower. I think i took it to the overestimate to dates when okay, no stress the yeah yeah, no, im since im, i may the 19th. He passed away on speaker, so they said he would peacefully in his sleep. I know it must have been a relief for him to finally guys, but it still has the mazda, i go to visit with him 4 times dr. Todd design. His eyes were always shining until he couldnt type in the many more. Then he was just sleeping, speak to me, cuz i only later did i realize how much these meetings had changed me. The interplay of life and death accompanies us every day. We dont want to acknowledge whether somebody, unless dest directly affects us, or someone in our family media, your boss, just as was still ringing my ears. He was never afraid of death, thought he was only afraid of lives, but im leaving. Why not be there . You go, thanks. Have a good flight for 14. Okay. And then please check in with ms. Britsky in room 13 to see if hes ready. I know im bringing you not just sitting here. This looks delicious, mrs. Shiva. Oh my god, god, it always sounds delicious. This is fantastic, right . Wow. Just great. I had hoped for this. I think you requested asparagus with potatoes in him. Yes. Because identification todays friday. Right. It smelled like face, didnt it . And i was like, yeah, yes, thats much better. Now lets tend to towards mesa magnesia, so everything is the my milk is this, so everything is good. Weve got everything. Yes, of course. Good. Thank you. Shouldnt going up and see see you later by accident on november, november the 18th. Every now and then i experience moments of doubts. Even though im set this, i found my life cooling, working in a hospice. There are also times when i feel pushed to my limits and some things. And i wonder if i can really do this from a company, people on that journey. I understood like like well, were christening the book. I think congratulations. Thank you. Is like september the 6th. And its like from time to time when i forget to when my name tag, people asked me how long i have been a patient to you. The total cost is my end fault because i deliberately shaved my hat. But with my hot up, lets the, unless ive been thinking of shaving my head down to 3 millimeters for a while, you publish it through now lets, ive actually done it. I feel a lot more feminine than i did before. Simply because it feels so much more comfortable. So if you want to feel that maybe im always looking to do something extremely extremely because we tava, the instance of april, the 16th a musical often noun in the hospice. The year was the last sense to reopen, to stop functioning apart from that music transport so much more than just a few notes. Its beautiful to see when it looks something in a persons mind and causes memories to come flooding back. Now, yes, im the fucking guy, you know, for version blowing Vision Mission yet. So to me it looks great. Wow. And so this is the nazareth and now look, i know right since may the 13th the she was asleep. I sat down with her intuitively and started to speak. Im sure if she could tell me or not, its not me. I took her hands and started to cry. I could not understand how such a special person could be destroyed by this disease. The pin send the corners of her mouth turned up and she pressed my hands tightly to her hard time. I cant remember a moment in my life that was this full of looms, love and energy as this one is the, the, thats how good treason. And if it was funny, you think so. I really like it. So call me writing desktop. Say what do you think about us remain for a little behind why here, man, well then you can just like you. So last of it that, that works out maybe okay and or sadness or even just to feel really happy, honestly. So sorry, because sometimes its just nice to scream at all. Okay, but then you also have to join and or the. 6 the what can be done in times of Climate Change . Can we adapt . And more importantly, can we even stop it . We look to brazil believes in south africa to ideas that hope to defy Climate Change. 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