1. Recognize what your toddler feels. It may sound a little odd. However, although toddler tantrums may already sound chaotic, the best way to approach it is by staying calm and speaking to your child in a way that lets them know you validate or recognize their feelings. By doing so, you are not only calming the situation, but you are also teaching your child how to manage their feelings. Although you are validating your child's feelings, it is still important not to immediately give in to their request, especially if it is something that they are no longer allowed to have or do.