“ If you’re having thoughts of suicide, you should tell somebody about them. But, most people can’t or won’t do that, so they will tell you in ways that is not so conspicuous. Like ‘I’m a burden. Or if I wasn’t here, nobody would care.’… They’re maybe not coming right out and telling you but you’re noticing these signs,” says Rolph. ASK A lot of it’s in the way that you ask somebody. S o asking them in a way that invites them to respond positively if they are actually thinking about suicide gives them the permission to answer honestly about it.”