Getty Images/Getty Images Divorce coaches are warning women considering separation to make sure they have their ducks in a row before they have the big talk. This story was first published on capsulenz.com When Jenny told her husband of 12 years that she wanted a divorce, it had been a long time coming. In many ways, she surprised herself – perhaps both of them – that she was the one to finally call time on their marriage. “He wanted out,” she tells. “But he just couldn’t be ‘the bad guy’ who did the divorcing. His head was already so far out of the relationship and it felt very much over.”