Have been arrested a murder investigations began after a man was found dead in Wembley last night the MIT Police say he's believed to have been in his twenty's and was discovered with head injuries close to monks Park Gardens just after 7 pm so far no one's been arrested get we care pools railway station which the transport secretary has described as Eva crowned it is to be given a 150000000 pound upgrade the government says Major enhanced minutes will be made at the West Sussex station to improve the flow of passengers Meanwhile Chris Grayling has told B.B.C. London that there is no going back on expanding Heathrow Airport that's despite Boris Johnson the front runner to become a prime minister having always pledged to stop its even saying he would lie down in front of the bulldozers we have to remember parliament has voted by a majority of nearly 300 stickier Heathrow expansion the go ahead it's now in the detailed planning process so I don't think it's about whether Heathrow expansion is going to go ahead it's now about a planning process to make sure that the final shape of the Heathrow plan is a community from this possible takes into account the impact to the airport on the surrounding area so it's about getting the detail right the veteran Labor M.P. And problems break city Kate Hoey has announced she will stand down at the next general election B.B.C. Radio London's political reporter Mendosa has the details been the Labor M.P. Inbox or since 1989 and she's long been a prominent Bragg's it's here but over the past 3 years that issue has put her at odds with her local party her constituency in south London is staunchly prey remain and last summer she lost in a confidence vote of her local party and she said that she would stand down after the 2015 general election but she stood again in 2017 in the snap election her decision now to stand aside next time has been welcomed by Jeremy called been supporting great momentum which said that she was out of step with her constituents at Wimbledon you had the last British player standing in the singles has beaten the tee times champion Patrick a bit of a she rallied from a set down to advance to the quarter finals and make gold when it is at the championships for us Nick. Well he does not appear to be there we'll have more details when we speak to make a secular look at the weather this evening his case rather cloudy as we head into the evening with the risk of a shower but largely dry the showers if we get them all fairly isolated there may even be just a glimmer of brightness out there as well with temperatures reaching around $21.00 maybe 20 Celsius overnight tonight it stays dry and he stays cloudy quite a warm night too especially in central London 14 cells is there but a degree or 2 cooler out towards the suburbs for Choose day it's going to stay long mostly cloudy but temperatures similar in the low twenty's again the risk of a shower in the afternoon but all in all large she try B.B.C. Radio London it's full minutes past 7 on digital radio 94.9 F.M. And B.B.C. Sounds this is this is B.B.C. Radio London Eddie Nestor's drive time. Is night time drive time gives the radio a lot of money I'm sorry NESTORE taking calls texts and calls from you give you how you can get in contact with us in a little while it's on our agenda or we're going to narrow it down if you don't mind OP if what wouldst really owes a little bit surprised disappointed me was the standard actually that more wasn't made of the 7th of July such. Happening at the time it changed the way that many people think it's the closest that I personally have ever been to terrorism. I was out I was about I was on a transport system or about to get on a transport system and I remember driving I was driving to the station when John Galt was on talking about power outages again one of those master classes of brood costing and we came into work as knots knots of the state lots of us. I thought we were doctors nurses we could do anything I just know that our never been in care but it must show started up for you then 5 to 7. Now I was here from about 10111130 at least and I always had because I felt that I just needed to be here so that I could see is that I can feel it or whatever we're talking about that today only because it hasn't been talked about the way we as a country as a city how we view terrorism because we went through. A pretty bad year a year or so ago didn't ring I mean we've been marking what happened not just with traditional if you don't mind me describing it as such Islamic terrorism but right wing terrorism to read the what happened and report what happened to borrow market what happened at Westminster what happened. In Manchester we had a pretty tough time didn't we but. It was a one I'm a disco wall something serious is going on in some way you were what you were doing and what you were thinking how we impacted on you certainly things that are like to talk about today if you don't mind say a might be painful to you Jenny and you know it said there was an operation but because she was always late this is one time we're being late really did work for her so if it is something well maybe you could tell me more generally about why you think it was under playing 14 years on but it's so big you would have thought it was just everywhere and it didn't seem to be anywhere or maybe a mistake. Only you have a way because it touched you in a particular way maybe you have a way of marking and whenever it happens you mark it because you lost somebody you knew somebody impacted on something in your life now 807312000 text one triple 3 install your message would London emails to Eddy don't NESTORE at B.B.C. . I mean doing a little bit of memory lane stuff today and just in case you didn't care we didn't know here is how it was mocked and how the day proceeded how it developed and how it was reported on what was then B.B.C. London. Public some major incidents the Kang at the moment just out of well with that C.F.L. They're all saying that please people avoid the whole network at the moment we characterize not 200 meters as are a few trucks I don't know if you bang your lights went out and everybody does. Vacuum And then there is idle trolling as we where for the class and the door between us a tray OK meant by face my hair when you're trying to start. Carriage opposite arch was correct the roof. Was. There were people like just free to people travelling in blood trying to get into our carriage going to worry for whatever was going on in their carriage or know it I think the power rubbish to the power cannot do that so I try to reach either you know you can open the doors can I see the windows you decide to standing in the train even dead bodies on the track all of London's transport is currently disabled or stopped well that buses or trains are the safest thing everybody can do is to stay where they are surrounded by our spies 68 was in front of me just a lot of Parsees and then bang City explosion and. And there was debris everywhere in the air over the about a 100 yards away and all of a sudden people were just screaming and crying and I was running away crying so it was going through my head you know I was trying to get on that bus I was going to be on that bus and now it's in front of me and it was there a moment ago and now it's gone it's just pieces flying through the air. People wandering around don't know what to do where to go. With with this and think oh what we think we've got now is 4 scenes when explosions have been reported so Russell Square and King's Cross Underground is one incident. In the street is the 2nd age when a road. And then an explosion on a bus in Tavistock Square so we've got 4 sites I guess and a testament to the scale of the speaker of the 1st situation. Several London double decker buses have been commandeered to ferry people I've seen at least 4 or 5 that still some in the Amy emergency entrance now been used to ferry and people the walking wounded as you were describing today's bombings will not weaken in any way our resolve to uphold the most deeply held principles of our societies and to defeat those who would impose their fanaticism and extremism on all of us. We had so many memories come back but memories that Cappy sat there. Like if you driving in and around London at that time what was that like. Cannot you see that that was front tested but there was one piece of really 2 that I would hear in there which was one of the most amazing piece of oratory of course I do this for a living are like people speaking in a like to hear people speaking Well I like carousing speeches and they was one of those so we've just been awarded the Olympic Games the day before they would do great good were on a plane that was Singapore I think where the decision was actually made and when Ken Livingston made a speech that's I mean if you think it you also listen to google and see that speech that he made it was like whoa. It was one of those you know about London when the meant to him and how we would rise above it and we did and we have but now we have lessons to be learned from it your experiences your memories of that day way you will how perhaps you date changed was affected love to hear stories 107312000 you can text a one trip or 3 and start your message where there were a lot of who can actually thoughts on that but the other story. That where rock N roll in with today is one of those intensely personal stories one of those stories that is about life itself but sometimes life itself is the biggest to bear it's the most difficult most challenging men a pause we've talked about it before yes on the show because we've made a little bit of a kind of nuisance of ourselves in respect of taboos and we so it isn't something that we haven't discussed before whether my previous guest it's H.R.T. The year or the length of time that you're going through. When she 1st started going through the many poor She's 76 now still having home flourishes but what about the relationships that people have how challenging the day big become as taboo is you getting in I don't feel like that anymore I'm not a light switch I can't turn my feelings on you don't even look the same you don't smell the same I don't think that you support me in the way that I need you just. I imagine things happen I really do I must be hugely challenging for anybody in a relationship while it's going and I know because I've done this enough times that no. The experiences will be the same I know some women have it they barely noticed the thing has stopped I know some women treat it as a liberation some people treaty as. I my womanhood has got I understand all of that but we didn't have what did it do to your relationship how is it changed it has it changed to is it still going on is anything to do with our skies if you are a guard how did you feel did you feel like as a couple Eva going through it perhaps lots of questions there bottom line that I'm inquisitive like that I wondered 731-3000 as well that's a number you can get in touch any time you like Diane Downs bring miniport expert anybody's. Through an experience quite often becomes one of those you know she was 45 when she went through surgical menopause was and has had to have who reason removed back in 2013 have good Diane. Thank you for talking to me so. I'm good thanks how Yes Well I mean crazy lots of questions that will annoy you perhaps but I'm guessing no guessing you just love me for being a silly boy which is well lots and lots of people do it to How did you feel 1st of all how did you receive that food I'm guessing it wasn't welcome. Well I had to have a hysterectomy because I had lots of things going on so I hadn't Dmitri I say I have a condition called Adam oh my I say and it was it was thought that I had ovarian cancer so it was a bit of a no brainer for me to have the surgery because of everything that's going on from a so I was actually quite. A surprise relieved to have the surgery however it was really afterwards that it all went horribly downhill from a because I didn't get the right advice and support either before or after my surgery busy to tell me all the complexities of man of course and consequently I was kind of left to sort of deal with it on my own which didn't go terribly well. Hold on are you talking about it because I will interrupt you because. Questions even the ones that people be stupid once a please forgive me OK Is it because you. Surely bore tone because of your condition that you felt that you needed. Special attention to those who go through it naturally I know not to you know sort of everybody every woman should understand what men of course entirely also. The possible not because every blue moon as you said earlier Everyone's was going to be different possible since it's all the possible composable complexities it is tough there's no idea about if you go into a surgical or medical manifolds because your eyes rays arrive a taken a why they shut down somewhere else and happen gradually what happens out of the night so that can be that can be very tough. You were advocating it being told to unscrew the absolutely I'm not just advocating it we've campaigned for it and it's going to happen. Why why why does a little girl who hasn't even learned about period the number of women when they would go so they were dying in the girls' toilets and something why did they need to learn about the end me for calling it that when they haven't learned about the beginning well they're not going to be little girls they going to be teenagers for a start and then you're going to have it's going to be a part of the curriculum which is sex education and relationships curriculum so it's going to be a period pregnancy man of course at the moment it's theory of pregnancy but we don't understand don't learn anything about medical tell me why it's so important. It's so important because as women and men we don't learn anything about it so if we don't learn anything about the women when it happens to us you know we don't go through the door when with for sale for she wants to say this might be coming so we don't learn anything about it so when it comes from lots of women it hits hard. And I could tell you the things about being a woman that nobody tells you how your body changes when you have a baby how you might breast may not look the same how you might not want to take your clothes off in front of your partner anymore. There are all sorts of things that happen and what I'm trying to get at is why this is different. Because this happens to every woman so pregnancy is not going to happen to every woman. Every woman will not choose to be able to become pregnant every woman is going to experience men of course and it all affects women directly it affects it will affect every man indirectly whether you are partnered with a woman where they you have seem our relatives and friends whether you work with a woman and nothing is more understanding we have the more knowledge we have the more we can look after ourselves and support those around us bear with me just bring other people into this if if you don't mind. Diane Downs Very say your age to . Fit in of people today she went through early menopause but has become an expert and she's advocating now for girls teenage girls to learn about the men are poor when they have relationship education and and the like that interested in you when you're listening at home now where did you learn about the miniport How did you learn about them and opposed did you know when your mom was going through them and of course it was easy is it something that was talked about is it something that was discussed were you prepared for it you'd be happy for your 151614 maybe a road kill to learn about the men oppose I'd like to have the conversation with you listening please get involved over 807312000 you can text 81 triple 3 starting a message with the word learn and I know this is a difficult one for some people so if you'd like to send an email or the question point and experience then. NESTORE November echoes here are trying to Romeo at B.B.C. Dot co dot U K K N How bad did it get at it at its lowest point it's not did how bad did it get only Yes Me personally I became suicidal. I'm sorry that was how bad it got for me thankfully for lots of women it doesn't get anywhere near that but I certainly counsel lots of women that that has that has been their experience. So yeah it can be it can be pretty tough for one in 4 women will experience really severe debilitating symptoms . When did you decide this is the way to fast and I mean to turns people around what makes people who. Is a challenging experience into something positive have a point did you decide Well listen is it going to be men when to turn this around in order to help other people yeah I think when I realized when I was at my worst busy I would sort of spend my time to injury o'clock in the morning when I was panicking and couldn't sleep I'd spend it on the internet thing to see if anybody else was feeling as bad as I did and I found that there were lots and lots of people who were reaching out for help and I remember saying to my husband at one point he and I if I ever feel like me again I'm going to my damn sure I can do something to change this I'm so consequently I re trying and I date professional nurse trying to manifolds on the therapist anyway so busy I now you know sort of I now offer that support but I also stuff if this might menopause not for companies. You know it's got 3 items one of them has been achieved last week which is fantastic but the other 2 have to have guidance in the workplace so we're losing saw too many women from the workplace because their medical centers and also to have mandatory G.P. Education because unfortunately we don't currently have that and as I said earlier it's going to affect every single woman that's 51 percent of the population and it's currently costing women the health and wellbeing to some of them it's costing them their jobs and careers for lots of them I'm still men it's costing them their relationships. So you know sort of it is something that we need to look at OK so part of this and not really a part of our focused on before. Is how it impacts on relationships yell it let's hear a little bit of your partner what he's 45 she had full hysterectomy that. It'll go very well seem to be gliding along very easily life was just as it was normally and then we got into a sort of December January and it was like falling off a cliff side I always describe it as my wife is like to go. And she became meal she was totally lost she didn't want to get out of bed where she would bounce out of bed and go on with life no longer getting on with life you seeing someone so dark wanted to end there you know and that's really quite a difficult thing for anyone to deal with I actually found my mother in law and got to Congress I was so worried about what my wife might do to a self but the other thing was of course is that you know still the same person is just you know aware of what's actually happening to them how to. Save her that recording before but how much of what was recording came as a surprise to you know none of it because we've talked about a lot. Because of you know sort of. Because you don't when your when you're experiencing it your in your in such a fog that you don't really you know we taking account of what's going on on a day to day basis to argue start to fail very useless. And just know you know what life is just doesn't look like it's going to get better if this is what it's going to be and just you know kind of I'm just a really difficult person to be around and I think it would be best if I wasn't here and that's obviously not a rational thought. But Martens my husband we've I can about that links now. And you know as I say you know k