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News on 5 Live years Clare Graham a 56 year old man has been charged with attempted murder after a police officer was stabbed in the head and body in East London the attack happened in place in last night's hears 5 lives Mitch Mansfield the 28 year old police officer who was stabbed with a machete and stopped a van suspected of having no insurance he tasered the attacker and despite being injured and remains in a serious but stable condition in hospital 56 year old Mohammed road one from Villiers close in Luton is accused of both attempted murder and possessing an offensive weapon and appear before Thames magistrates court later this morning police in Essex a 14 year old girl has died after being pulled from the sea off Clacton with 2 teenage relatives after they got into difficulties an 18 year old man is in a stable but critical condition and a 15 year old girl is expected to make a full recovery this eyewitness saw the emergency services arrive 1st thing he was aware of course the beach patrol on the cord going very very fast down there and then the jet ski went off and then more of a run down in about 20 minutes and. Then. There was time to Niger people on the Beach Police in Birmingham have begun a murder investigation after a 20 year old man was shot dead in Arlington just before 7 Thursday no one has been arrested. Boston wants to develop the fast track visa scheme to attract more scientists to person the prime minister wants to maintain the U.K.'s position as a global science superpower after brags that 15 Stern is the director of universities U.K. International our universities are probably amongst the best in the world and that's partly because we are lucky enough to attract some really outstanding people from all over the world one in 5 academics who come from the U.K. About 60 percent of those from the E.U. So it's really important that if we move outside their opinion and that's a visa regime it should make it as easy as possible for those people still to come here the prime minister also says he hopes the E.U. Will show common sense and goodwill when it comes to renegotiating the Bragg's that deal earlier this week Brussels said there was new growing as for more talks because the agreement couldn't be changed but the prime minister insists conversations are continuing our political correspondent is Jessica Parker we all seeing the clock tick down towards October 31st and I think some people raise their eyebrows at this idea that the prime minister says there is bags of time to do a deal because whilst he's employing this tactic of saying that the E.U. Needs to compromise is not really speaking at all in a face to face basis with leaders research from the N.S.A. P.C.C. Suggests more than a 1000000 children in England has been abused or neglected risk being overlooked by changes in high the N.H.S. Plans its mental health services the children's tires he says more transparency is needed on high commissioning decisions are made and the U.K. Will remain in the end to rail scheme despite yesterday's decision that it would polite the rail delivery grip which represents U.K. Train operators says it's because of the strong reaction from the public Betty has the support the transfer window has closed for Premier League and championship teams the big deal of. The day being Romelu Lukaku swap the Manchester United fan into Milan that was a 74000000 pounds Arsenal complete the signing of defended David the ways from Chelsea in an 8000000 pound Dail they also got Kieren Tinney out of the line for $25000000.00 pounds and sold Alex a Y.B. To Everton a full I was off the Windows shop for a fee that could rise to $34000000.00 pounds told him assigned Giovanni Lascelles and Ryan says in Young's the 25000000 they didn't secure that big pool I debated Dale from the event Meanwhile Andy Carroll has described his return to Newcastle often he is away as a dream the B.B.C. Sport website has a roundup of all the Dales and the lies that Bill Daly transfer window special is available to download on B.B.C. Sounds rally in a school twice as Wills be on many inside Punic full nail in the fast like of the Europa League qualifier Meanwhile Rangers beat me on full 2 in Aberdeen last a really really to nail in rugby league Super League side Alan's big we're going to MIL's the 12 and South Africa. Has announced his retirement from international cricket and Middlesex be sorry by 64 runs in the T 20 this space B.B.C. Radio 5 Live on digital B.B.C. Sound small speak up. In the way as their forecast rain is expected to be very heavy and they already hours with the risk of Sunder storms the day had will be blustery with a good chance of. Them telling these 5 I call him his. 5 life this is Colin Patterson we go into extra time was given an extra half hour because so many of you getting in touch with our Brazilians special we heard from Laura my important Bal an author life skills coach and resilience expired lady Webb despite having been off of 4 o'clock in the morning this morning and she's decided to stay on for the extra half hour so thank you very very hard you are demonstrating Resilience Why would you then you see you've got a quote you think sums up recently you know this so many fantastic definitions of resilience but this is just got to be the best one and this is a quote I've read in a blog by Critical can ask called Sagna Schultz and I think. And then resilience and. The most elegant of being glowing refined a reminder that even a flicker of light closed the monks the darkness and we can say tiny ship of troubles from life stormy seas once again. It was yeah it was something Matthew in stocks and can relate to Matthew you've got in touch was your story. Well I got divorced 5 years ago. 19 yeahs had 2 children and yeah and obviously. I think side down changes everything I went up to. Surgery but I. Just I don't like either yes or no drug when you're. The changes brought you how and. When we went on holiday and then suddenly ate it I don't know. Maybe few things happened and I felt pretty crappy basically and I've had struggles with my mental health previously and when I was in our system in a hotel and I just got an edge to write about and I've never done anything like that before and I just wrote about how it's Phailin and I downloaded a blog and just put out that I had no idea what to expect and then you know I didn't really know what I was going to write it wanted written one pauses kind of pulled out of me and called out of me an excellent medical anything like that before and I was found and I was able to kind of articulate it I suppose and particularly when I then started talking about my mental health and I was conscious of being in the background and not want to go back there where I've been with depression and yeah an artist had it just the most amazing opportunities that came out of. Well the 1st thing I do I'm doing now and you know speaking to people and. Mental health campaign in I've been involved in and and my i value to publish and I haven't a book published. I mean I'm a great I have been ever since I was a kid and it was things where you know I had love to write a book but never imagined I could do something like that and it is strange to a 100 different things that have happened since then it's quite surreal really and I was last year in a video of. Bengal how come 10 times the change with. Glenn Close the actress. And it's just one of those things where you know you see it's a stranger it's just very very strange and surreal and I would have never expected a particularly bad and then I had a very bad. Bout of depression again this year and. Now I've got a new job working for my local mind. Finally met Juan. Go through the whole day and things and I finally met someone that. Has no place. Another promise to unity. A little pain with depression and you know even the pain to be fought Why are right. When given the pay you know I can still saying there's no way out even even if you've got it before and it's it's amazing how a child of a 3 bad bout that. One wants to call. It kind of things and has got really good really quick fix it's a strange thing it is just the whatever it can to keep going you know whether that's just for the next hour or the next day. You know it. I mean last time I was ill I just got a pile just for this cannot be what it meant for me. Because the MOST PEOPLE ARE had the most. Here and then in the corner certainly if things to happen again it. Strange thing is life you know that sounds to me like a perfect example of somebody has taken a situation and they've turned around credit. Great story thank you very much forget the lines Wow Sophie in Bristol is gone and college Sophie what would you like to say Hi Yeah I was just getting in touch because I wanted to share in 2014 I was diagnosed with. I had various outpatient treatment nothing was working and that was a year after I went to uni was a persisting in need in my degree. And then during that time in 2016 my mum had a form of breast cancer so I had that going on those were our analysts trying to still trying to battle with eating disorder and then things got gradually worse and worse night besides being impatient in 2017. And it was it was a horrible is a traumatic experience I sort of I didn't feel that it was quite right. And sectioned on a lot small way and that was a whole disaster but that was another story and then in 2018 I was fine be diagnosed with they said it wasn't actually right here too it was all to. C.T. And anxiety and all the treatment I'd had was wrong. To use Freeman was that since 2014 so 4 years 4 years of wrong diagnosis was your reaction to the. I was it was strange I was relieved because I had always said that there was something amiss but the same time I was so frustrated. Saying I told you. And I now in 2019 of I'm getting finally getting this all right treatment. I'm dieting and then an underlying disorder is. Caused by O.C.D. And I mean I struggle now because I'm still trying and trying to go away or find I'm quite. By this scare I decided I'd turn into something positive and I decided start a charity for females with autism. And about nearly 500 people on the. Fantastic Miley's face of the moment but this is where this is a perfect example of turning your wounds into wisdom is never an Oprah Winfrey trite but I think that's so powerful because you know we are presenting with these challenges with these difficulties but that real kind of in a strength real what's known as South Africa's he that belief that you can 10 things around that's just a great example say you know congratulations I mean. We've just given a grant of 1200 to an educational workshop. And also women saying this is finally someone to recognise they like my difficulties so it's very rewarding and. So proud. To give you because. You're a phony and as well Sophie and share in the graduations on the grounds of very interesting taxi of staff risk. Zillions my experience probably resonates with many women out there and seems so insignificant in comparison to what we've heard tonight but not to me my husband and I had a miscarriage around 3 years ago after a long wish for a baby and after many many tests poking and prodding we will be going through I.V.'s shortly through this process we've acknowledged that we might not be successful in having our own baby and we've been looking at adoption I feel like finally after a long time of having that why me feeling we're excited to go into this final stage of fertility treatment because either way successful in making our own baby or not we hope to adopt a child or children into our family are I mean there are so many children that will benefit from people doing that and I think that whatever the situation you know why the circumstances are it's about focusing on the opportunities that you've got around that so I would just say the best of luck to you in every situation that you have this is enough phrase why me has come up a lot well you know people say why me but then the other question you have to ask is Why not me you know because things can happen to anybody waiting and I think they're in of accepting that we're all human beings we're all vulnerable Well quite fragile in many ways so you know why don't we know the message here I'm so glad you mentioned the resilience to walk it's my toolkits is Jane optimist genuine plus optimist to suggest that no matter what you go through by being genuine about it you become more optimistic in terms of being solution driven Yeah and it is about being solution Geoff and I think sometimes we can if we're not careful we can't wear long on some of the things that happen to us and it's important to acknowledge things that happen I really believe that talking about things sharing examples like we have tonight you know people being open and sharing their stories that could be . Very very comforting to people and very very helpful but ultimately we need to focus on OK So what should we do because in a resilience we we can learn a lot about resilience we can build a panel of knowledge but it's all about what you actually do with it that really counts and not simply that you do have a tool kit and you will spend the rest of your life building tool kit because obviously every single situation is different color from Ken I'm going to use the name Dave because this one's uses real name which is absolutely fine Dave just tell us what your story is yeah my problem started when I was physically bullied at school and this led to me and very anxious getting attacked by people quite paranoid and withdrawn which led to me going into a mental hospital but that was quite a bad experience because I felt very trapped you know were kept in rooms for long periods of time. And you couldn't go outside because I didn't have enough star. And I remember kind of walking around the edge of the room over and over again desperate to get a place to outside as possible and that memory actually stuck with me and a few months later. I was still for anxious people and I remember watching this program about battery chickens on the B.B.C. And it's weird because they were like showing the sort of chickens and how the electrical stun gun of them doesn't work I'm gonna take a phrase cut like a fully conscious insult off at the federal and although they were screaming I couldn't like directly relate to it but what made me think of my own experience. Was when I saw them like charging around their cages frustrated nibbling on their bars like seemingly trying to get out and I flicked a switch with me because I kind of seeing that kind of made me angry it made me think about my own experiences and that kind of gave me the courage to talk. About kind of their situation because almost like I was helping myself as well because then I could talk about my own problems so I think. Often when we see other people kind of or animals in similar situations to us. That can kind of help us draw a parallel zone because you kind of like reversing the situation you can see what your kind of experiencing in a way. So as to be able to rebuild your life yes. Now. I work I do normal things like meet friends dog walking. And I now yeah I've even be able to talk I've been on L.P.C. Actually today talking about the environmental costs of eating bacteria knows you know because of all the talk about climate change and fighting eating and the grain pattern it was the main means that unlike free range and of. I do you feel I can talk about. Issues and I talk to people in the street where you know in the past I wouldn't even you know strike up a conversation with someone I'm Iron Age because if the knife is. Thank you very much for calling in with Wendy on the line from London as well Wendy what was she like. Yeah I mean my story goes back to 2016 when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. And then 3 weeks later I was told it was terminal so my whole Well sort of you know I was 47 at the time you know I never really been a real it was my how well it got turned upside down and so I carried on and it became a good operation just before my operation my mum died of a complication of her operation so it was all very well when I was going through. And then I did not 2017 I don't doubt that my husband was seeing somebody else and the marriage of 21 years full of and. And at that point I could have curled up and died I mean really wasn't in a good place mentally. But my resilience really came from having my son and you know he was 1112 at the time and I just had to keep going just had to keep going and I had this little poster on my fridge door which tells me what import in line and you know at the bottom of it it just says Life Life too short for shit don't worry about the rubbish doesn't focus on the really important stuff. And how old your son is now 14. And you said it's terminal so once the expectancy for you. When I was diagnosed 3 years ago between 3 and 5. What does resign mean to you one day resilience means. You just have to keep going and you grieve for the life that you are not having the life you expect it you know I will never see my son graduate our never see my grandchildren or him get married or anything like that but focus on what today today is what's important nobody's Canty TOMAR NO No you're absolutely right nobody is another kind of focusing on the moment counting your blessings what you have here and not being grateful for. And you know they can bring the love that you giving to your sons quite incredible and you know the way I also look at I'm blessed I know my time is short. Where everybody goes oh when I'm older I do this so when I retire I do that so that I'm doing all now. Today but today I have my bucket list on the fridge door as well and every mom we are every few years we trying to one thing you know is the last thing you take time off what was the last thing I take off was going to Jordan go to Petra but Don's quite. Well I've done quite a few big takes us down the Ice Hotel in Crete Another done a. Grand Canyon and lots of different places you know I'm on holiday now. Once next I don't know actually show what we might actually do a beach for the day and I'm on the beach so it is a troll here my son is never being a normal beach all agree. Surely when they do everybody else normally does when you are feeling at the moment physically physically I'm OK I'll get him came out 3 in. And out to change treatment which will probably push it back down again and of course there are only so many treatments they can give you and when you get to the end of the train it's about I N C N And you don't know how long you been at the on every treatment you don't know taken the last 3 months or 3 years. Amazingly. But I've got today you've got to focus on that now. I think this is just exam 5 people would have died on the road in car crashes they don't know that time is limited one of them probably will tell this morning coming around with a hell of a half which they can never put Ryan so I got the opportunity I have that time because I know my time is limited to put things right. And how much joy the holiday to Jordan. Got to say you know when I went to Madrid to watch the Champions League final just showing off my Wednesday. But you know what I'm going to do it because they're not going to I might not be around next year for who you support or any of the mighty Spurs because you know there is only one team and well they managed to do it this year. Probably you know. And you to train when I was on the wagon I was the only. Ground I think. I did I'm good f