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From the headquarters of. Broadcasting. Little studio it's like. What that is. The. Show thank you for joining us open phones up triple 88. To 5 that's AAA $8.00 to $52.00 to $5.00 Amber is where the Washington d.c. . What's up. I help a bit on well so has one dilemma I live in the Washington d.c. Metropolitan area well and we near the real estate market is getting more and more competitive people are coming here because jobs are here you know. For the little boy attractions so I'm just in the early year I'm watching the real estate market and the prices are higher and higher and higher so I moved back in with my parents last year to try to pay all a lot of my debt which is not always that good so I can be able to 04. Yes I can afford one of the new construction home of the in one of these ideal areas next the Metro and they're just continuing to Beirut and build and build and the numbers are going higher and higher and higher I'm about $50000.00 total yet right now that's my student loans car loans and credit cards all $50000.00 so I'm just trying to figure out like if I were to go to jump into which would probably not be a good idea right now but I'm feeling anxious because the get a property and because I know that the market is going to cause pain to go up right now with the house for if I did that you really do need a. Job at the Chamber of Commerce for the Washington d.c. Area because you're more sold on it than anybody else on the planet. You've just gone on and on and on like you're freaking live in Tokyo or something I mean it Washington d.c. Is going up and it's going up in value and I'm in college but so is every other city in America and so this is not an unusual situation and buying a home when you live at home with $50000.00 in personal debt and you're in your twenty's would be insanity. You don't get yourself in a real sort of trouble and this is happening because your base they sing this on this fear prices going up and it's making you really start to talk and think you logically you don't get yourself in real trouble I've been buying real estate a long time and 58 years old I bought my 1st piece when I was 20 and so you know you for 40 years I've seen the same exact thing happen over and over and over real estate goes up real estate goes up real estate goes up and you know what you're still going to be able to buy a house you're still going to get your house but don't let your house get you want you own your car. How much do you own and. I mean what do you make a year what do you make a year I mingle 70 but if I were in your shoes I'd get me a $3000.00 car and get out of debt that much faster half of your debt is a car wash and that's keeping you from getting a house and I'd lot rather own a house than a car if I could live in one of those houses you're describing and I were you and I was debt free and I had my mergence you phone in place and there was a 3000 dollar car in the driveway I'll be happy as a bug in a rug that's a good place to start right there and then save up and buy you a little better car for cash if I have to get in there but I'm putting my financial energies on things that go up in value and getting towards that by being debt free having your emergency fund in place and then having a good downpayment I don't want to put my financial energies toward paying off that stupid car it's just a car and don't tell me how you need a good car and know you need a good car only 3000 a car will get you there and it's keeping you from getting your house at least doing it intelligently Nathan's with us in Atlanta Georgia hi Nathan how are you I gave are you better than I deserve what's up. So it's me or him for about 2 months now. 30 years old I've got $900000.00 worth of debt and different things to everybody do their debt free scream it's on for me to get my acting career some just time to I'm not stressed about this in the morning the. 3 biggest ones that are stressing me right now is that we're the i.r.s. . Student loan debt and a credit card that from Bank of America that I'm getting sued over. Why are you getting sued. Just wasn't working and wasn't able to pay you are you working now. Yes Or what's your hand Come now household income. Of about $30000.00 a year what do you do. I mean Mt Ok well. That's rewarding work but it's not financially rewarding. National you get to help people and save lives and everything else and that's a good thing in your 30 years old what can we do to get your income up. I'm going to have to take a 2nd job by after I get out of all this that I'd like to go back to school for nursing. Like that plant so can an e.m.t. Are there good e.m.t. Side jobs that you can use your certification and make good money on the job. Not good money but it definitely you know extra income but maybe part of the never meets a right. Yes or better money I mean yes because you make 1500 a month as a part time job you probably could could you. How much do you owe Bank of America. Around $3600.00 yeah. So here's a thought well I don't think I mean with they'll go away in 2 months if you made 1500 a month and gave them everything right right now so I think we get your income up or your single yes they're good you don't have to tell him by else what to do except you now and you work all the time now nobody gripe about it so I just want to work like a maniac a glitz double our hours for a short period of time because here's the thing that I mean $19000.00 changes your life $19000.00 box changes your whole life doesn't. Care because you'd be sitting here making money thinking about nursing school instead of being sued by Bank of America. I hate them so this is great man I mean the bad news is you got a problem the good news is you can fix it fast I predict you are 100 percent debt free in less than a year. But you don't have no life during that year because all you do is work and pay debt and you never go out. And you never buy anything. In anything you've got that's expensive and nice if it's not a family heirloom or sell it or getting out of debt. Or leaning into it knock it out Bank of America. Or 1st on the list those people will mention I don't like them . But $3600.00 makes all the stress go away. 1000 much of the way hold on Imus and you copy the book The Total Money Makeover to show you exactly how to do that you call me if you need more help. 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I called you back in January 1 point 8000000 dollar inheritance. That asking you how it should handle that and you told me how to go slow and take my time and be patient with it and I was very helpful but now I'm having a new another problem where as so basically since then I've bought a house remodeled the air b.n. B. I'm making a lot of money about $50000.00 a month. Gross. Have a $15000.00 a month and I'm just blowing through that I have a crazy sex addiction I'm spending. Saying on some money about $10000.00 a month on prostitutes and Sir clubs and Therapy of all the above and I don't know what to do I have tried everything I go to sex addicts anonymous. And by I want to know what you would do in this situation I've done well I spent about half that money on buying a house and they're being being it now and I'm doing well at that. And that's in stand. Down it's been a long project that I finished but I don't know what to do about this how it should handle. Anything else that you tried that I haven't. Hold are I'm 20. And. The inheritance came from who passed away. So my dad passed away about 2 years ago. He was in a missing plane and I might be coming in to a lot more money because I felt a wrongful death situation is it's a long story about your mom. My mom she's out the picture the divorce I barely talk to her. And she says she's out of the picture. As you know John I'm not a therapist I'm not a trained counsellor. I have worked with addicts for 30 years. Because 100 percent of the addicts end up broke if they don't heal their addiction and so you're going to destroy your legacy your dad's legacy with the money that was left to you and you're going to strong all your future dreams that this money represents if we don't if you don't get the help and heed the help and fight to win against the addiction. Sex addictions and pornography addictions are the fastest growing addictions in America today we see that in our offices with financial trouble. People in your situation more than any other addiction we see we still see cocaine we still see. And we don't treat for that but we end up helping them with their finances we still see alcohol and gambling and sex are both just the the are not graffiti is it is it has gone crazy because of the Internet access and. It's affecting every part of our lives in good ways and bad ways with the access in this case is causing excess and gets people in real trouble with gambling porn sex addictions. So you're you know you named off a couple of the right things and that's getting in essay getting in. An anonymous group getting in with a therapist is a 2nd thing I would do. The 3rd thing I would do. Is. It sounds to me like just a guy talking to a young guy you know Guadagno young that all of your family structure has gone it's just you didn't have it with your mom and then your dad died and so you're just left without any authority structure as a 20 year old young guy there's nobody in your life standing over your shoulders going to dump you when you screw up your life I do have some family on my dad's side that I'm actually good with but they know what's going on. So they were I had some problems going on like over a year ago like aside from this just and I never and whenever I tried to close them they kind of they were like oh he's you know you're just being a victim and I never kind of trust that being Ok with them so I just kind of put off the leash and that's Ok everyone's Ok but that's fine so they're no help is what you're saying. But. They're good but they're just other No well I know that all behaviors obviously have psychology involved. As a person of faith as a Christian I also believe behaviors are spiritual. And so to treat something like this only as a psychological thing is usually a half treatment to treat it only like it's a spiritual thing might very well be I have treatment but there's something that you're obviously searching for. And there's something that you're missing. That's causing you to. Literally go crazy in this part of your life right. You know I think it's like I'm just beyond lonely I don't know. But. I don't know honestly him I think that's probably right that doesn't sound row. Can I can resonate with that I can imagine you being there in that situation it's amazing you can be a one of the largest cities in the world and be lonely you know but you can be it's very very real the so the last component I would add to it. And you're asking me So you always get my opinion when you're asking me and that I'm an expert on my opinion. So what I would tell you do is find a great church and we'll help you do that and sit down and get past oral counseling to go with your other counseling get with some young guys in that church and become friends with some people who have some character have some integrity and that are walking a straight line not perfect marriage in any perfect people over there at that church I can tell you that goes are a good church has got people in them so you can find that pretty quick but you will find people that are going to go oh you're Jewish Ok cool that's perfect then let's get with a rabbi. Let's get the spiritual element of this going because there's a there's an aspect of that that goes with this and if that's your heritage and that your faith then wonderful because the Talmud has a lot to say about the issues that you're dealing with. A lot and. So that's the only thing I know how to tell you today because I can't just yell at you stop it or you would have already stopped it I mean you're smart guy you've already realized this is ruining your life. And you know that I know that but the nature of an addiction is and you're finding this from the 12 steps is that one thing is you realize you're powerless and you know God has to step in and I'm going to put some structures in my life and I've got to you know figure out do some careful psych self-analysis and say well loneliness is the issue so how do I fix loneliness Well obviously I'm fixing it in appropriately and so how do I fix it with more wisdom and that would be hanging out with good people that are lifting you up. Obviously not hanging out with paid friends which doesn't work for anybody whatever version of paid to friends you have and yours is one of the more gross so but that's you know that's one thing I know how to tell you I would make sure I really lean into getting a group of people around me that I can trust and if there's a group of people that. Are working on a social project that is worthy and you got to get with a bunch of young men doing that and you had some good guys around you. Then that's very important I've got a group of guys I get with once a month those with them last night as a matter of fact I'm 58. That group of guys got all our sons together that are in their twenty's the other day and we all encourage them and they all agreed that they need a gr