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You're listening to the inspirational Aaron right here on your home town station h s I'm your host Jasmine to be here in the studio today with my dad and co-host Alex arena Hi Dad what's going on today we are going to be talking about being bigger than your circumstances so the 1st data what does that even mean well 1st of all 1st of all being bigger than your circumstances means that you're competent and the definition of being competent is having the necessary ability knowledge skills to do something successfully for me being bigger than your circumstances meaning meaning that you're fully capable of dealing with all matters of affairs your model is I can handle anything that comes my way and you operate from a place called I can handle it bring it on and you do all that without whining complaining placing blame being any need for a critical moment only you didn't see them from street or whatever political much greater distance but I got a little in going to see I haven't. Gotten it makes sure that whatever it certainly is the Internet and overcome any challenge or anything that comes your way and it's really an innate ability that you have to develop within yourself it's super high level of being confident in I kind of for me being very good. In your circumstances is a little bit of the same but I guess what's different for me is that there is times where I no matter what happens I just sometimes I just can't like sometimes you sit there and I can't give up and for me being bigger than your circumstances is saying no you know what you can just do it kind of thing but the circumstances part is a thing that is what holds us back I think or personally holds me back from doing anything or being a certain way is all right I'm going to go to this movie that I don't want to see going because my dad wants to see it and he wants to spend time with me even though I hate action movies and I have so much to do I'm just going to go anyways now if I go and I'm not happy and I'm not in like a good fun exciting mood then there was like no point of even going to so for me being bigger than your circumstances doing it but also doing it fully if that makes sense No absolutely I mean you shouldn't make a decision based on I'm going to pay a price for it or I'm going to choose one versus the other and then you should operate from if I want to make the choice to get to be a win win. And that would just mean that you'd have to decide to say hey dad or hey mom I have some other things that are really important to me right now or I got to really focus on these things so I'm going to choose not to take you up on that offer and you've got pick and choose being bigger than your circumstances is more like how do you handle the challenges that life throws at you so so one example is when I was a young man I embarked on this personal growth journey and I took on this leadership program that I got to be a part of this very powerful group of leaders that were working on themselves and being challenged in mentor by these transformational leadership coaches one of the things that I learned in that program was how to really take on all challenges in my life to the point where within the 1st couple years I learned and develop some things about myself that I didn't know that I was able to. Navigate outside of the status quo and be able to really rigorously take on any challenges that came my way as well as your mom she she embarked on her own journey and didn't own leadership course and had those personal breakthroughs as well so I know now like of our leave town on business and stuff happens around the house I'm so confident in your Mom I know that she can handle any circumstance that comes her way and vice versa if you have people that have proven themselves to be capable and have the capacity to be able to make certain choices and reinvent themselves such that they're always creating desirable results or or turning lemons into lemonade so to speak when life throws lemons at you then you're able to really trust those types of people the reason why I wanted to have this conversation was because for me as a parent my job is to try to figure out how to teach my kids how to be bigger than a circumstance or circumstances and one of the reasons why I'm always relying on you or turning to you and I mean something is because you've proven that to me that you can pretty much handle a lot and it's kind of a learning curve like when you say sometimes I come up against it that's par for the course you're going to have continuous challenges that you're going to figure out how to reinvent yourself to the next level to the point where in your mid twenty's or early thirty's you're going to be so powerful that you can just no matter what comes out you're going be able to handle all of it why I think I definitely have now had like you said been up against it where my circumstances it doesn't really matter what it is I there's just times where you physically and mentally you just your brain takes a nap and when you're like I can't do this I can't do this anymore go on this way and. Obviously that's unhealthy cause you know you kind of explode or I should say I explode and there's times where like I said it could be the simple the simplest task and it's just the cherry on top of all the other circumstances I've had to climb to get there so I think that there has to be like a time where you take a break or maybe a time where you do get to be the victim and say I can't do it like I just don't know anyone who could 100 percent just be bigger than the circumstance every single time and it's not it's not like once I get there I'm always there at the top of the mountain it's more like. An average of you know 200 circumstances that come my way as challenges in a month I'm able to handle 190 of them when a couple years ago I was unable to handle you know a couple dozen of them so it's really a learning curve and it's a process you're going to have to continually be conscious and aware of in practice how to take on every challenge and decide for yourself that I'm bigger than this or off figure this out or you know so on so canceled on me and so also said they were going to be here in their late I get to just figure it out again this goes back to more of a mindset like I'm just going to handle it I just get to be that person that handles it and something happens as you start to operate in your life like that what happens is you build a certain level of trust and credibility with other people including business partners or bosses imagine being a millennial and just learning how to handle more of your circumstances than the average person you're going to be the go to person that they're going to now want to promote as a manager or as a supervisor because you're being deemed reliable they can you're accountable they can hold they can they know that under your watch you're going to figure out how to either slap a Band-Aid on it make a phone call saying hey I need help but more importantly that you're not just going to go my God can handle this and walk off the job. So being bigger than your circumstances something you have to really learn or develop or someone has to teach you or they have to model it such that you're seeing it you're going all that's the way I get to live my life in a powerful way I guess I had never really thought about it it's for me it's so easy you do it or you don't but now that you're mentioning it who says you can't call in reinforcements and call someone to help or take something off your plate right I just go and go and go into I can't go anymore and you you burn out because you're such you're you know strong willed and. You know you're used to taking on projects by yourself and figuring it out however when you get to a certain level of hand handling your circumstances you become a little more wise and you realise to yourself like I don't always have to do all the projects by myself and you start to realise that if you leverage the relationships you have with others you can create a team of people because all that really matters is the results how do I create the results and so what I started learning in my my late thirty's. Is that I have a whole group of people that are on my team that are willing to support me and pay it back that I can always call on people and rally a team around me to overcome whatever challenges or whatever result I want to create so in the I guess essence of being bigger than your circumstances there's kind of like a there's something I guess for me that's always been one of my biggest struggles was being a yes man they fear not Facebook I did. Or a yes woman because I always had to struggle but always struggle between saying yes to everybody in and choosing to say no and now that I'm working on that and getting a little bit better than that a part of me kind of feels like saying no is not being bigger than my circumstance but sometimes I have to say no so where's the line that the line is is drawn around your capacity so I look at at it like you're a plate and your plate is either a salad plate or a dinner plate or your a Thanksgiving turkey plate you know you've got to decide what level of capacity you have and you can only stack your plate up so bit so much before stuff starts falling off and when you realize that you have too much on your plate you're going to have to start saying no you got to dial it down like no stop putting more my plate I can't handle anymore if I take on too much then I'm no good because stuff falls off my plate and then I'm letting people down or I'm not completing what I started and then that starts to build resentment and then you start to realize that you're failing more often and then you just start going down down the hill The trick is how do I create a bigger plate How do I stretch my plate such that I'm able to take on more and I'm able to navigate more of my life so that I'm achieving Enix and creating more success for myself so it's about more about how do I develop a bigger confidence how do I develop a bigger capacity to be able to take on more challenges. And do it in a way that I'm actually creating more results for myself what I want to biggest eye opening experience for me was. When I was struggling between the saying yes and saying no to people you kind of brought it to my attention that if I'm saying yes all the time and I have too much to deal that I'm not giving 100 percent to all those things so why give the assignment other project or the favor or whatever back to someone it doesn't it doesn't accurately represent me it didn't you know wasn't my best work it was just what I could do with the time that I had or whatever so when I realized that I kind of figured like there's no way I'm going to give someone of 50 percent project that looks terrible so I had to that was I opening for me I didn't want that to be people's experience of me like you said things falling off your play and it just looks bad on me versus the one time I have to say no to them so I guess I just don't really have the like you said the capacity to take on all of those things at one time but stretching sometimes it's like stretching my play is not that doesn't seem realistic either because I already feel like I'm drowning in the little cake plate I am that I'm on yeah it's weird because when you think you're drowning and you think your plate is over you know flowing and the things are falling off something magical happens it's like the universe just slowly starts to stretch your plate naturally because you took on all those things and then when everything starts to either fall apart or you start to regroup or start to reflect and look at some of the choices you made in some of the areas where you could have said no you don't realize it but your plate Act actually stretched a little bit more it happened subtly because you've decided to take on more it's almost like the universes are right since you're going to take on more than we're going to give you more tools to be able to handle those those circumstances. And it's and there's. Saying that says you don't know how far you can go until you're willing to go too far a lot of us as human beings we play life safe we we tell ourselves well I got a small plates on just not going to take on too much but if you play like that you're never going to stretch your plate the way that you stretch it and stretch your capacity is to keep saying yes keep saying yes keep taking on more to figure out what you're truly made of it's like you can't find that Champion into your kneedeep in challenges to where the champion is now summoned to step up and to come out and and to battle Well there's been plenty of times or I feel like I just drowned it like there was just nothing that I could do and sometimes I really do have to just give everything up or give up my responsibilities or finish just what I have and then just take a mental break for ever and that and that's normal and and I and I want to let you know how proud I am of you that you do take on a lot and your I mean not only am I proud of you but I'm excited for you because you know this is how you figure out who you are you know life figuring out who you are and what you're capable is not going to happen inside your comfort zone and it's not going to happen by you not being Chalons and not being frustrated and being upset and and not having those moments where you feel overwhelmed over overwhelmed is that level of stuff falling off the plate where you have to realize you've got to stretch your plate a little bit more and that's the part of you that's developing a bigger context and speaking of that we that's something we kind of be focused on a lot at our millennial empowerment team this past week where we kind of just. Dove into the idea that we were we all accepted that we're all living in our comfort zone right now that is much is work that we've done to stretch it and it's like none of us have really touched it in like a year or 2 so if my team is listening. I'm proud of you guys too. And we're going to start doing some exercises and projects to stretch that comfort zone in and hopefully it'll be what we're trying to do is get it all base to ourselves so if it's for your business or school for your personal relationships whatever try to stress those those those boundaries and I'm nervous I'm so more talking about in my legs shaking house cared of but I'm excited to go next week and see what they have in store you know that's a cool thing about personal growth and you know personal transformation is that you can learn some of these powerful distinctions I want you learn them you can kind of hide out in the distinctions or I know that already or I know this already and you become a know it all and you might know all the transformational personal development words or buzz words you know all the Tony at the robin seminars and do read all the books and know all the lingo However you've got to look at yourself and look at your results and say Ok what's next for me because you're of results are always reflecting the level of the Iraq in the level that your either comfortable or the level that you're challenging yourself so it's a it's a constant working in progress of developing your next level of Champion and what I was noticing with you guys are young people and you guys have done some trainings and you know you you and I get on the radio we talk about you know taking ourselves the next level and we we do al