Photo by yousef alfuhigi on Unsplash It's an unfortunate fact that in South Africa a large proportion of mothers are raising their kids alone. The reasons are varied, but the outcome is often the same: not enough money to manage alone, and countless trips to the maintenance courts. This mom wrote to us asking how to find her missing ex. It would appear that he has deliberately disappeared to avoid his responsibilities towards their child. " I am a single mother, I have a problem with my ex, who is the father of my son. I last received maintenance from him in March 2020, and when I called his boss to ask why my maintenance is late she told me he was paid off.