Honest achbd been as candid, i would not have gotten that criticism. our colleague, t.j. holmes, did write a piece called i was a bad dad. he was the father of a new child and also had a child from another relationship. she talks about how as a young man he wasn t the father to that young daughter that he is now. when you read the comments there was a compelling sense of i thought that s wonderful, you have that sense of wholeness. but here s part of what i wonder. what if i was just a bad mom. let me just raise my hand. so i am not good at all things. i am a bad singer, i m a bad so what if i were in fact a bad parent. we have people in this world who have been bad fathers but great physicists and great politicians, great artists. yes, yes. and it s just as different. if you re a bad mom, it is the wholeness of who you are. it s all consuming. and one thing that she was ....