>> right. realistically, don't you have to have -- i mean, you talk about it in the book, you give tips on how to have an engaging personality to realistically be successful. i don't know that people give men tips on an engaging personality. >> the cards are stacked against women and i'm sure about that in the book. what "lean in" is trying to do is open people's eyes to the way cards are stacked. if we stop calling little girls bossy. when we say bossy, my daughter has executive leadership skills, we'll stop telling women in the workforce that they are too aggressive. when they do things that...