sfl very upset. you did it. i did it because i had to respect my parents. respect is very, very big. michelle said sports was the reward for doing well in school and to doing well in piano and violin competitions. while all of them felt pressure to succeed they emphasized how deeply their parents loved them and how that pressure they felt was really about respecting their parents and wanting to do well to show them that they could. you know, what s interesting is that amy says in her book, my western friends who consider themselves strict make their children practice instruments for 30 minutes a day. chinese mother, the first hour is the easy part, it s hours two and three that s tough. all of them laughed as a result. she says toward the end of the book that western parenting is about building self-esteem while chinese parenting is about not letting up. she said that building self-esteem, what we do is by telling people that you did a good job, even when you didn t.