Can I refuse to go to my brother s wedding?
Our reader s brother is getting married in the same venue where she wed her now ex-husband. She asks The Midults whether she can pull out
21 May 2021 • 12:00pm My brother s fiancée (who I have yet to meet) is insisting that it’s her big day and her dream wedding venue
Credit: Martin Tognola
Dear A&E,
My brother is getting married and they have decided to use the same wedding venue where I married my now ex-husband. It was a terrible marriage and an even worse divorce and three years on, I’m single and still feel shaken by the whole experience. I’ve talked to my brother but his fiancée (who I have yet to meet) is insisting that it’s her big day and her dream wedding. My parents think I should rise above it all, but I know I’ll find it hugely upsetting. So can I pull out? I’m really confused about what is reasonable and what is hysterical. Wretched