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It’s important to give them the space to individuate, but to also help them understand there are still boundaries. Teens need boundaries to feel safe. But if the boundaries are too tight, they will rebel and push back a lot. If the boundaries are too loose, they will feel that they don’t have support. Too tight or too loose boundaries could result in extreme risky behaviour or, conversely, depressive behaviour. But if a child or teen is struggling, it’s certainly not always the fault...

Getty Images Vivienne asks how she can cope with fierce feelings of jealousy over her close friend’s professional success. Ask Val is a weekly advice column where questions about personal issues are given compassionate, no-nonsense answers by Auckland-based counsellor Val Leveson. Reader: I think I may have a problem with jealousy. A friend of mine recently got a promotion in her job – she’s not even in the same field as me and I felt a rage build up inside me about it. I am resentful th...

Stuff Auckland-based counsellor, Val Leveson. It could be simply because that’s how you’re made up. For example, if you’re an HSP (a Highly Sensitive Person), you may find regulating your emotions and outside stimulation to be difficult, especially if you were told by your early caregivers and friends that you were too sensitive, too much or just seeking “attention” with your emotions. It may be a good idea to explore what’s causing your anxiety through counselling. Once you know ...