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A colleague of mine called me creepy. Before she did that I used to look at her and say “good morning” because I found her pretty. One day, I wanted to have lunch with her and just chat, but before I could ask her she just called me creepy.

Whenever my wife and I go out for meals to a restaurant she has this habit of trying to feed me something from her plate. She gets offended if I refuse. She won't do the same thing at home, so I wonder what the reason is for her to be doing this.

Q: My wife enjoys very rough scenes involving verbal and physical abuse while I am into more vanilla physical intimacy. She has been sexually abused as a child and has tried many therapeutical methods to heal, but this type of violence is the only thing that gives her release. I feel uncomfortable and exhausted by all of it. What should I do?

You are an ‘island’. An ‘island’ is someone who is independent in the relationship, someone who appreciates low maintenance and gives the most when given space.

Q. My husband-to-be wants to have a bachelor party with a stripper. All his friends are excited and mine are too. I don’t see the fun in all this and the thought of him ogling, and possibly sleeping with, the stripper is making me angry. What should I do?

My boyfriend told me I am bad in bed. He says I am stiff and not fun to be with physically. He made me watch some movies to learn, but I don’t really feel like doing the stuff I saw. I don’t want to lose him because of this. Please help.

Q. My wife and I have been practicing non-monogamy for the past 5 years. We are happy with the arrangement but while I want to know more about her escapades, she refuses to listen to my dating stories. I would like this to change but not sure what to do about it.

Q: My girlfriend messages me all day long and gets very upset if I don’t reply immediately. She says that I am too busy for her and that I don’t love her as much as she does. I do love her but what she does irritates me too much. I feel like responding even less than what I already do. What should I do?

Q: My sister is attracted to women. She hasn’t told me or our parents about it but I have seen her with a girlfriend. I want to be supportive of her but she has been stand offish and denies it every time I try to approach her. What should I do?

I am attracted to my neighbour, but he is 15 years younger than me — he is 30 and I am 45. I know he likes me too, but the age gap is too wide between us. I am worried about what others will say about me.