Phindi Relationship News Today

There is a lot of romance around being a “daddy’s girl,” yet it is falsely assumed these girls, as adults, have it better than those who had more distant or non-existent relationships with their fathers.

Lack of proper communication remains an undisputed reason for divorce in SA. There are some many noises – both internally and externally – that can cause clutter in how you interact as a couple. But few are as toxic, even abusive, as these four:

Being married to someone who believes they are always right is being in a controlling and manipulative relationship. It’s frustrating and disempowering.

Forgiveness does not mean condoning or tolerating bad behaviour that goes unchecked. We have to mature and outgrow our selfishness otherwise we abuse the essence of what unconditional love is.

We need to stop telling people their relationships are failing because they haven’t met some mysterious “right” person, because often that’s not the case at all.

Holidays often bring out some of our most primitive longings, and a sense of “nostalgia” even for things we probably never had in the first place.

Marriage, like any other type of relationship between two flawed adults, is not easy. It takes a lot of deliberate work to maintain it. Notice the phrase, “deliberate work”, because nothing automatically falls into place.

True love is showing love for another person without considering how it will benefit you or what you will get in return. It’s accepting them for who they naturally are and loving them in spite of their flaws.

Financial infidelity can look like a minor omission like "forgetting" to mention you went a bit over budget booking the baecation, or a major transgression, like draining the kids’ education savings to cover a secret credit card bill.

There aren’t many words to describe what happens in the life of a responsible husband with all the abilities, experience, education and attitude to suddenly lose his ability to provide.