Of her dying father said he is treated as a great hero and taken to fancy dinners by stockbrokers and men ofmi finance and women are swarming around him bodily is he very happy about that but writing letters to hisou wife telling her he needs toto raise his value in her eyes and she also loves the attention of men and occasionally she would put that in his face also so there were times when i personally came to thele conclusion one of the reasons why he was courtmartialed or why he took those actions that led to the Court Martial is it was part of the of growing crisis in his marriage he may have had an affair or dangerous flirtations and ultimately he saved that to go back to her and she recognized that as a sacrifice and accepted it. So later her literary executor cup for two different collections and he wrote in 1869 about how they had a huge fight and his gambling addiction was a problem but it speaks to his emotional sensitivity i can tell for a long time that he said the things w