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My 11-year-old daughter graduated from elementary school at the end of the 2019-2020 school year and started sixth grade in a new school this past fall. She was diagnosed with ADHD just before COVID hit and has been working remotely with teachers she has never met, in classes with kids she mostly doesn’t know, and has barely set foot inside of her school. The hybrid learning option only kicked in last week and even with that she is only in school for 1-2 half days a week.
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For the first few report cards she seemed to be holding her own and made honor roll twice. She has had some big dips where she has stopped handing in her work and then has to make up large amounts of assignments all at once in order to get her grades back up. On her last report card she went down in every subject. I had a conversation with the leader of her house a few weeks ago, and she told me that in their faculty meetings, none of the teachers have ever named my daughter as a
Dear Care and Feeding,
My 14-year-old daughter posted on Snapchat a nude photo of two individuals, both young teens, half nude. It was not full-on frontal nudity but a “sideview” that she does not think is inappropriate. I deleted the app off of her phone and told her that we could discuss adding it back once we are closer together on our views of what’s appropriate versus inappropriate for posting on social media. In general, my rules are fairly lax as far as her phone usage, but I do have some basic core rules, including no posting or reposting nudity in any way. My main concern here is children’s photography being posted and then reposted without permission, finding its way into child pornography. I’ve explained to her our state laws as well as the federal offenses she may find herself in if she posts said pictures or shares them without the other person’s permission. She thinks I’m overreacting and ruining her life. I am holding strong on my stance of not letting h
Dear Care and Feeding,
A few weeks ago my sixteen-year-old daughter said she wanted to be vaccinated. I myself had no problem with this as I had gotten vaccinated myself as soon as I could, however her father (my partner) felt the vaccine was rushed to market and experimental and just too risky for her to take. Because I wanted to protect my daughter and because she wanted to get vaccinated, I went ahead and took her anyway without telling him. I really wanted to avoid him being angry. However, I admitted to him yesterday that she had the vaccine and now he is furious at me and her. He said she wasn’t at high risk for COVID, but there are stories of women being infertile due to the shot. I know it was wrong to not be completely transparent about our plans and he is hurt and insulted by my actions, but we see this issue (not just the vaccine but the entire pandemic) so differently. Not being vaccinated is as much a choice as being vaccinated in my opinion. Should I keep apologizing
Dear Care and Feeding,
My siblings one sister and two brothers, with nine kids between us and I have a problem. Our mom, who is in her early 60s, has recently become a crazed conspiracy theorist, spouting the whole QAnon/Trump/Bill Gates BS that’s been going around (with even weirder stuff that I’m pretty sure she makes up). She’s seen a doctor who said she isn’t insane and doesn’t have dementia, so there’s nothing we can do except try to ignore it. But here’s the thing: despite my siblings and me having a wide range of political views, none of us wants our kids hearing this stuff. We love our mom and she’s a wonderful grandma, but this has gotten out of control. She won’t stop talking about it. It’s impossible to change the subject, and somehow she finds ways to bring it up during every conversation. If someone’s talking about getting a new computer, she responds, “Oh, well, I hope it wasn’t a MICROSOFT because lizard people and mole children and blah, bla