A 'good' divorce isn't an urban myth. Here's what the experts recommend Posted TueTuesday 2 updated TueTuesday 2 MarMarch 2021 at 10:43pm Tamara Oudyn says experts recommend waiting for the dust to settle on your separation before making important life decisions. ( Print text only Cancel It took a panic attack at 30 seconds to news time to make me realise I wasn't really coping. "You OK, Tam?" came the disembodied voice of my director Pete, through my earpiece. Heart racing and stomach churning, I watched the thick red second hand on the studio clock silently sweep us closer to 7:00pm. The lights were making me sweat.