Me if i fixed it but all right. Myself aonsider journalist, and nobody else would consider myself a journalist. Ofegan taking on the life being an interviewer even though i have a day job of running a private company. How do you find leadership . What is it that makes someone tick . Lets talk about what it was like to be chief of staff to president trump. You thought it was going to be. You are pleased you did the job . It was certainly amongst one of the hardest jobs in my life, but it was the most important thing i ever did. For 18 months, i staffed the president the way i think ace a president should be staffed, presenting options, getting the experts to talk with him and hash things out. Vitally important, and for 18 months, we staffed the president effectively. David was it the hardest job you ever had, most memorable job , most enjoyable job, or just another interesting job . Gen. Kelly it was very hard, but meaningful. It,very enjoyable, but staff and the president of the United States, you are trying to bring not only your white house staff but the entire federal thernment to bring him make decisions whether its economic, social, or lifeanddeath decisions. David its often said people stab you in the back but also they stab you in the front. That is the job that often the chief of staff is said to have and you get criticized by everyone. Did you feel the criticism by people or attacks on you for any reason was something that was unfair or not tolerable, or you got used to it . One of the things that struck me right away that i was not used to, coming out of the military, was the intense personal ambition that people have. If that gets out of hand, which i think it was out of hand before my time and continued while i was there, people start to do things like leak to the press, things that are untrue or half true, not just towards people at the top like me, but to their colleagues. One of the things i did early on when i took over the white house was get all of the staff together. There was a lot of them, so i had to do several sessions. I said nowhere in the oath of office, nowhere in the constitution does it say you should be talking to the press unless that is part of your job. Nowhere does it say you should be stabbing your colleagues in the back so you look better. You serve the nation, and if you job it seriously, you get a and i wanted to stay, if you cant, find another place to work. David when you are in the ,ilitary and you say you do xyz and they dont do it, what can you do about it . Gen. Kelly in the military, if we tell someone to do xyz, expect people to question orders, to push back. I cant, as a commander, know everything. The white house is not you can fire people. I had to fire a few people. But very, very few. They were very disruptive, but i had good people. The vast majority of the people who work there are good people. They just need some direction. David when donald trump was elected, you were already retired from the military. Gen. Kelly i had retired from the military about eight months at that point, never wanting to work again. David and did you know donald trump before . Gen. Kelly not in any way. David you met him in the transition, i assume . Gen. Kelly i received a phone call in late november on a saturday. They asked me if i wouldnt consider coming up to meet with the president elect. And talk to him about going into the administration. My wife after the phone call asked me, what was that all about . I explained to her. I said, what do you think . She said, if we are nothing else as a family, we are a family of service. Go up and talk to them. I went up the next day to bedminster and talked to the president elect. Reince priebus was there. A couple of other people. We had a short chitchat. About 10 days later, he asked me to come up to new york city to trump tower. He offered me the dhs job. David did you say you accepted right on the spot . Did you feel you wanted to go into that job . Gen. Kelly again, up to that point in time, my lifestyle was service to the nation. Obviously, i had to get out of the marine corps. I was getting too old. But the opportunity to serve was something i really looked forward to. Dhs was a great job. The men and women of the dhs are phenomenal patriots. They are unsung heroes. David you did that job for how long before you became chief of staff . Gen. Kelly six months. I left the job on the 31st of july. David did the president call you a few times before saying i dont like my chief of staff . How did you get asked to do the chief of staff job . Gen. Kelly it was a couple days before it was announced. During my time at dhs, i didnt go to the white house a lot. Didnt need to. Most cabinet people are busy doing what they do, but he and i had a previous discussion on a couple of things relative to the staff. Anyways, he called me and said i would really like you to come on over and be chief of staff. I need your kind of leadership to put this place in a direction. David my wife wouldnt want me to do this . It is a terrible job. I dont want to do this . Gen. Kelly i really like dhs, the people were making a difference. An awful lot of your agenda is wrapped up in dhs. But he said, i really need you to do this. The president asked. I did it. David did men working for you get killed . Gen. Kelly yeah. It is part of the lifestyle. It is not an easy part of the lifestyle. There are things that you would be woken up for in the middle of the night. I think i owe the marine, sailor, soldier to at least be woken up and someone to tell me this young man, young woman died in defense of their country. David i would like to talk about the job you did as chief of staff. Before that, i want to talk about your background. So where are you originally from . Gen. Kelly i grew up in boston. David and your family was a bluecollar family . Gen. Kelly very, very bluecollar. My dad was a world war ii vet. He worked two jobs his whole life. Mailman and railroad. Greatest man i ever knew. David so you went to high school where . Gen. Kelly st. Marys High School Just outside of boston. David and when you graduated, what did you do . Gen. Kelly i went to almost a year of college. I had the war i graduated in 1968. The war was on. Coming from the neighborhood i came from, every man in my life growing up as a boy was either a world war ii vet or a korean war vet. Thats all they talked about. And so we had the draft back then. It was relatively easy to get out of the draft. I mean you just had to come in with a doctors note or go to college. There were a lot of deferments. I didnt want to get out, so when i passed my draft physical, which wouldve brought me into the army, like most of the guys in my neighborhood, i went into the marine corps. David you entered the marine corps. You became a lieutenant . Gen. Kelly i became a private. I went from private to private first class. Ultimately, i made sergeant. My mother was diagnosed with cancer, so i get out of the marine corps, but stayed in a program that continued my training while i was going to college. And as soon as i graduated from college, university of massachusetts in boston, i get commissioned and went back into the marine corps and stayed forever. David the highest you can become is a fourstar general. You became a fourstar general. Gen. Kelly i became a fourstar. David did you ever expect when you were just beginning that you be a fourstar general . Gen. Kelly no. When i was an enlisted marine, i wanted to be hopefully an nco. Thats corporal. I made sergeant, best rank i ever held. David ok, so you are in the marine corps. As you rise up, one of your assignments is to go into iraq after the invasion in 2003. So you were in combat. Did you expect that you would survive . It was fairly dangerous. Gen. Kelly well, it is dangerous. Theres a lot of shooting and bombs and whatnot. We are marines. You take that on as a possibility. When we were designing the campaign plan, one of the things we did was to understand the iraqi army, it was nothing close to us. But we designed a strategy that would minimize the amount of damage to the country and the amount of death to the iraqi army. We went there, and our mindset was we were not there to conquer them but to liberate them. We didnt want to kill a lot of them. I mean the army. You always try not to kill the innocent. David did the marine corps think it would have been over in one or two weeks and people would be cheering you . Gen. Kelly well, they were cheering us, almost everywhere we went. They came out in huge numbers. But the attack part of it was, in a sense, easy. We knew we were going to win. We would get to baghdad in lightning time. But what we kept asking in the kuwait desert leading up to the invasion in march, who is going to take this over from us . Mr. Rumsfeld had come out very strongly and said the u. S. Military is not going to get involved in nationbuilding. And our question was, ok, who will we turn that over to . Because we should start thinking about that now. And so, the idea that we were going to leave quickly, which the military did start to do, but not have anyone to turn it over to, that caused us great concerns as military men. David did men working for you get killed, under you . Gen. Kelly oh, yeah. David so what do you do in that situation . Do you send a letter to the next of kin . Or how do you deal with that emotionally . Gen. Kelly yeah, well, i mean, its part of the lifestyle. It is not an easy part of the lifestyle. When i was a commander there, when i went back for a subsequent tour, i was the senior marine commander on the ground. And there were a lot of things that you might list that would be woken up for in the middle of the night. I only had two of them. A missing american, because then we had to go to general quarters to find that person. And then, a death. And people would say, why did you want to get woken up on the deaths . Theres nothing you can do. I said, well, i think i owe the marine, sailor, soldier, and their family to be woken up and for someone to tell me that this young man, this young woman died in the defense of their country. David lets talk about after you retired you joined the trump administration, you were in the Business World. Or what were you doing . Gen. Kelly not very much. I started working with the National Defense university, which is part of dod. And then i just started to get a couple of opportunities to be on boards. I joined those boards. But almost as soon as i joined them, i was disengaging because i was in the process of going to dhs. David all right, so you are on some corporate boards for the first time. You are making more money than presumably you made in the marine corps. Gen. Kelly not huge money but more than the marine corps. David all right, so going back in the government was another cut in salary, but family didnt say anything about that . Gen. Kelly what was interesting going into dhs, i was about 50,000 more than i made a year as a fourstar. And then what i didnt know that my wife said to me after a couple of weeks at being at the white house, she said i think our pay is wrong. Because the paycheck is smaller, i didnt realize they took a major pay cut to be chief of staff. David you didnt ask the president . Gen. Kelly money isnt relevant. David lets talk about your family for a moment. When you are a fourstar, youre often traveling all over the place. Your wife gets to travel with you on some of your assignments. How many different places did you have to move as a general . Gen. Kelly well, when i was my wife would love that question. When i was in miami, my wife went to Guantanamo Bay for three years so we could have thanksgiving dinner with the troops down there at the detention facility. I took her to haiti. I took her to honduras once, maybe twice. Maybe honduras and guatemala. One each. Then once to peru. David paris or london . Gen. Kelly no. David none of that . You have three children. You fathered three children. Gen. Kelly right. David your oldest son is in the military still. Gen. Kelly he is a Lieutenant Colonel in the marine corps. Recently promoted. Just back from his, one of his tours in iraq. David you have a daughter. What is she doing . Gen. Kelly she was with the fbi. Prior to that actually, she was, worked with the wounded men and women, mostly men, coming back from the wars at bethesda naval hospital. Then, she went into the fbi. She was with the Hostage Rescue Team as one of the support people for several years. David you had another son who lost his life in military combat. Gen. Kelly thats right. He started off as an enlisted marine. He became a Second Lieutenant and was killed in afghanistan. David did you and your wife say, having two sons in the marines is an awful sacrifice for any family . Gen. Kelly no, it is our way of life. That may sound strange to the listeners, but its a way of life. They make their own decisions. David what would you say is the best training to be chief of staff of the white house, and particularly with president trump, what do you think is the best training . Gen. Kelly one, you have to tell the boss the truth. When you dont think hes going down the right road, not in front of a bunch of people, tell him that. Truth to power. David ok. Gen. Kelly someone in the room has got to say, at the beginning of every conversation and at the end, is this good for america . David lets go forward now to chief of staff. You are the chief of staff, sounds like a good title. Everyone in the government is responsive to you. You can call any cabinet secretary and tell them what to do. Is that the way it works . Gen. Kelly i would not say i would tell them what to do. I would suggest. They are cabinet members. The president puts out, as you know, whether its tweets or his time with the press, and he does a lot of discussion with the press, he puts out his feelings on different things. More often than not, i would get calls from the cabinet people saying, i heard him say this. Is that a change . Should we react to it . So the president is never hesitant to pick up the phone and talk to his own cabinet members. David ok. Did you say to the president , maybe the tweets are too much to keep up with . Or maybe you should not tweet as much . Gen. Kelly never did. The president feels very, very strongly, whether you agree with this or not, feels very strongly that he is not dealt with by the press fairly and that his tweeting goes around the press and gets his agenda out, gets his word out to the World Without having to rely on a press conference. David lets talk about a few substantive issues. Early in the administration, when you were at the department of homeland security, there was the issue of immigration, the ban on immigration and so forth. Were you alerted to that when you were there . And how do you think that is now working out . Gen. Kelly three days after i became the dhs secretary, the eo came out on the socalled travel ban. As a sidebar, i would say the seven countries involved in the president s thinking were all dysfunctional. You know, i mean, iran, Everybody Knows it is a hotbed of terrorism. The other countries were dysfunctional. The entire population Muslim Population of those countries added up to about 11 of the worlds population. The point is, those countries, they dont have a process that we could bless and say, the people that they say are coming out of those countries to come to the United States for whatever reason, theres no way to really tell who they are because these countries are in a state of collapse. It couldve been done better. Back to, david, the staff process. If that had been when i was there, say several months later, the idea of the president might want to do that and he has strong feelings on immigration, we all know that we would have run that through a process. And at least had a better release plan. David when you were at the white house, you had the wall issue. The president wanted to build a wall. You were quoted a few times as saying well, it doesnt have to be a concrete wall. It can be seethrough or Something Like that. Was there a difference between you and the president on that . Do you think the wall is a good policy . Gen. Kelly when i got to dhs, i went to the experts, customs and Border Protection people that man the bastion, the watchtower and said, do we need a wall, a physical barrier . They said, we need more. We have, remember, back in 2006, the congress authorized over 650 miles of wall. And senators clinton, schumer, and obama all voted for it. So that was in 2006. 650 miles. What the cbp people were telling me is we want to improve that barrier. And we can give you if you tell me how i can get 300 more miles, i can tell you exactly where to put it. If you tell me i can have 1000 more miles, i can tell you exactly where i want it. They also said that we want to be able to see through the wall. Because we want to be able to track what is going on on the other side, and just as importantly, according to them and they are the experts, we want the people that are contemplating jumping the wall to see us. Because if they see us, they dont do it. David he had a meeting twice. He met twice with the leader of north korea. Did you think that was a good idea to meet without advance preparation about what would happen . And do you think the policy of meeting usually works or you should always have advance preparation when you have these summit meetings . Gen. Kelly theres a lot of advanced preparation. A lot of advanced preparation. Theres a lot of letters back and forth. People in other places have their contacts there. But i will applaud the president in that he looked back on the last, i dont know, 70 years of trying to deal with the north korean leadership and none of that was working. And he is the kind of guy i grew to know that wanted to try it personally. So i picked up the phone and talked to the guy. So i will pick the phone up and talk to the guy. Or i want to meet with him, and try to develop a relationship. That is who he is. I think many times it was, all the other stuff has not worked for 70 years. What the heck, lets give it a try. David some people would say the president was reluctant to criticize putin for anything. He seemed overly friendly with him compared to other president s. Do you think that is a fair comment . Why do you think it was . Gen. Kelly the explanation is much like with kim. He, things had not been working very well over the last eight, 10, 35 years. And he is, again, he is a pickthephoneupandtalktoth pickthephoneupandtalktoth pick up the phone and talk to the guy kind of guy. David was it complicated to have the president s family in the government at the time . Gen. Kelly they are an influence that has to be dealt with. David today gen. Kelly i do not mean mrs. Trump. The first lady is a wonderful person. David if you had to advise somebody who was going to be chief of staff in the future, what would you say is the best training to be chief of staff of the white house, and particula