i didn't realize that i was in an abusive marriage. i think it sounds almost ridiculous coming out of my wife given how i can speak about it and remember things now, i don't know it was that moment that i realized that i was with a man who was capable of something like that. today, chief of staff kelly volunteered he had only been told of emotional abuse. she put out a statement, my only sadness is when kelly first defended the statement of rob saying they thought it was only emotional abuse. he changed the statement after realizing it was physical abuse. emotional and psychological abuse is abuse. in any event whatever type of abuse was alleged general kelly had reason for suspicion before