mr. fix it. i can fix breast cancer. shut up and listen, take a step back and listen to your wife talk about how she's feeling and what she's going through. >> dave: your first tip, shut up and listen. >> got it on my button. >> dave: the next one is take a break from cancer. what do you mean? how do you do that? >> boy, as a care giver you need to take a break if you can, out of the house with your wife's permission to go for a jog or play a game of basketball. and as couple, get out. everywhere you look, there are reminders of cancer. go on a date with your wife if you feel up to it. >> alisyn: she's the boss when it comes to treatment decision sns. >> exactly. exactly. a lot of guys, it's that mr. fix it thing i talked about, a lot of guys want to go out and find the cure for cancer and run the show and you have to step back and you can play a really valuable role. a patient needs someone to be her echo, her foil. what do you think about this doctor, this treatment and she'll make her decisions and you need to support her in those decisions. >> dave: we never forget