themselves to the erin callan bar of perfection. if i'm not hillary clinton, then i shouldn't be running for office. i think sandberg misses the park by not telling women they don't have to be perk. another thing about sandberg, there are a lot of women who can carry forward the message she does. the information about the ambition gap and ways for women to negotiate more effectively. she had such ties in the corporate world that she's lenking for her lean-in circles. i wish that she would be pressuring them to have more flexible workplace policies. that would make such a difference for so many women in their lives. and the reality is we do have some institution alibi as. when women take off work, they are judged more harshly than men. so on the one hand, we do set up unrealistic bars. noonld we're partly perceiving the reality that we are judged more harangly than men. >> i agree with you. and ambition, when it come to