Safe from both external threats and essay from the cruelty of people can sometimes inflict on one another. Most of us i would think agree our children need to learn math, reading, basic science, civics and history. Most of us would agree cultural and political issues divide people need not be present inside the school. First learn to read and write and do some basic computation. Be able to name at least five the presidency. Then we can graduate to discuss all of the Social Engineering issues which tend to dominate our headlines today. Several weeks ago book bands were all the rage. Meanwhile an Alarming Number of our students cannot read which is sort of the ultimate book ban isnt it . Tonight we celebrate the pursuit of knowledge in the sharpening of minds. The eve of labor day was School Getting back into session all across the country seems the ideal time to talk about how we could provide the best Learning Environment for our young people how to provide a Safe Learning environment without our schools resembling military. How we can allow kids to become kids and draw the line of bullying and assault and abuse which makes some children literally afraid to go to school. How we can attract women and men to education as a profession including Special Education and counseling. How we can catch up after a rough couple of years brought on by a pandemic in the response thereto. People have different views on various aspects of education. People a good conscience can debate the role the government, state, federal, local. I suspect we all agree but as individuals and families and communities and indeed as a country we are well served by an education citizenry Thomas Jefferson is believed to have said it is a vital requisite to our survival as a free people. School is not always entertaining or fun but our students should not be afraid of going to school. They should not live in an anxious dread of being bullied. Going to school should not be taking your life literally into your own hands or risking your mental wellbeing. I very much wanted our next guest to join us tonight for this special because i want those children, those students who feel scared or anxious or prone to absent themselves from school to be equipped so they can avoid or manage or conquer those fears. Joining us now clinical psychologist, Doctor Bullying does real damage to young people. So, there is a Student Watching who dread school because they feel alone, anxious, intimidated, what can they do . What advice would you have for them . First of all, i am surprised your demographic lets assume a mom and dad wanted to watch it or they got a poly side project. Critically Important School is about preparing for life. Think about a situation or a class not sure how to handle it navigated that thought keeps coming up, that tells you something. Whats telling you is a got a little problem youve got to solve for the best way to solve problems is to have a conversation with somebody, right . Thats only doing counseling as we have a conversation for that conversation helps to broaden my thinking, my perspective semi options for how to deal with it. Look for things externally. I can talk to somebody. I can arrange Something Else during that time i can plan ahead. Most importantly look internally. Learn to manage your thoughts. A connection between thoughts and our feelings and our behaviors. We can manage that when you look and listen to all successful people athletes, teachers, principals, munitions, everybody learns this life skill and that is how do i manage a mind that can be prone to worry . That is a great life skill. Trey appearance you and i are both parents. We dont like to think that our child could be the perpetrator. But if you are a parent, do you not also have an obligation to sit down to make sure your child is not the one causing angst and anxiety and pain to another student . Absolutely buried prebe mit is adolescence. They are learning how to manage and navigate the world and relationships. Theyre going to make mistakes. If you get that upset about one interaction you need to manage her fears, one interaction does not make a diagnosis. Step and help them think broader what were you feeling when you did that . What were you thinking what you think the other person felt . Looking back on it what would you like to do different . At the time we need to help them think broader. Help them see other perspectives and alternatives for share a little of our life we had to navigate those as well thats adolescence. Trey fear is a prison. Adults are in it, kids are in it. Give us the keys to get out of the prison, that chateau fear give us the keys on how to get out of that. The first of all its the biggest mistake we make is avoidance. We avoid and think that is the best strategy adults do as well it is actually the worst strategy we can have because we are allowing fear and worry to make our choices in life. A lot of times as her choices from things we know we like it. Again i come back to it is just a problem to solve. We have increasing rates of anxiety and excess worry. Use good language when youre talking to young adults about it. I keep thinking and playing and rehearsing, face it look at options and alternatives of how to step into it and different strategies they are not all going to work all the time. But you want to start collecting some strategies and ways to manage situations where our mind over thanks. Because that again his late life skill we are all going to need to the future. Trey dr. Gilliland equipping us to navigate what can be a very challenging thing we call life. Thank you for joining us, happy Labor Day Weekend to you and your family. Good to be of the same to you and yours. Trey coming up students and schools are facing threats to many of us did not grow up with. Both inside and outside the school walls. The founder of Safe School Systems author of education in a violent world. Doctor steve webb joined u the impact of a meal goes well beyond feeding our bodies. Food can open Endless Possibilities for people to thrive. Because when people are fed. Futures are nourished. Everyone deserves to live a full life. And with your help, together we can end hunger. Join the movement at feedingamerica. Org actnow its something about having that piece of paper. 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Join the millions of people taking back their privacy trey welcome back to Special Edition of Sunday Night In America bids school is supposed to be a safe place to learn. But for some its a target its the place to reap the maximum pain and anguish on others it is a congregation of children which those with malevolent intentions know full well. Most people could never imagine hurting a child but most people would do everything in th their power to protect a child. The list of School Shootings keeps getting longer and longer. What is the answer . Surely no one believes in dead children is the price to pay for living in a free country . What about some of the threats that are harder to see . Social media and other forms of technology . Doctor steve webb is the author of education and world bids founders Safe School Systems. Doctor webb i do want to talk about School Shootings. But we forget to that young people are facing dangers from things other than guns things like social media. Cyber bullying can also have deadly consequences can it not . Parks absolutely and think for having me on your show. This has become such an important issue the United StatesSurgeon General has issued an advisory. We talked about the potential risk of harm for kids and their Mental Health and wellbeing. We have known about this for a long time. This is nothing new its just the fact why are we doing something about it . Trey Cyber Bullying is real, it is lethal. If you were in charge i mean there atheres some states talkg about requiring a certain age limit or parental consent. What are some ways for people who are sick and tired of bullying like i am to do something about it to help protect those being bullied . We have already got some age restrictions. Rebecca harassed to the point she committed suicide in 2013 she was utilizing an app called ask. Fm is an anonymous app a lot of these suicides are things we are seeing today in our schools and around our communities are doing with Anonymous Apps and the fact that kids between the ages of 10 and 19 their minds, their brains or Cognitive Development mix the risktaking certainly spiked. It did for her and she was 12 years old. Not supposed to have that app and still until 13 or over. We have already got agent restrictions to these apps but parents need to Pay Attention to those and make sure those are not finding their way onto the kids found many 10 kids are able to find apps to hide the fact they have got these apps and sexting photos and other Dangerous Things on their phone they can hide it from their parents. Parents need to be aware. Trey i want to move to another topic with lethal consequences. For some that word was columbine and now its too many schools to remember the names. So what happened . I know we have isolated School Shooting since 1800s but something seems to be going on now there are just more and more of them. When and how did our schools become target and how do we fix it . You just mentioned columbine that was 1999 we are still talking about it. That was really one of the first times when these two killers were taken videos of themselves and trying to become famous by becoming a School Shooter. The famous a part of it we are allowing these children these young people to be targeted by people who just want to be famous theyre going to commit suicide at a called a strategic suicide utilizing our kids as pawns to become famous. How we stop it is every instance in research for my book there is a social Media Presence with that killer. A social Media Presence were they told people they were going to be a School Shooter we laughed it off as routine. This cannot be routine in our society has to be taken seriously when a week, as a society should not take this anymore. Trey i cannot agree more columbine seemed like a long time ago. We seem to average one a month. But you are doing what you can to stop it and i salute you for it and i thank you for joining us on sunday night. Thank you so much. Trey next what happens in a Mental Health crisis meets a Counseling Shortage . What are the best solutions for Special EducationStudents Quester Question required to ade Senior Vice PresidentAlice Lee Parallel Learning Ceo diana next. [sound of door opening machine beeps, stomping] [male narrator] these are more than just the sound of a safe place to go after school. These are the sounds of interests being ignited and of mentors making an impact. At boys girls clubs, we dont do just one thing. We do whatever it takes to meet the needs of every kid who comes through those doors. [sound of falling dominoes] because whatever it takes is what it takes to build great futures. [sound of knocking] great futures start here. [stomping coordinated with graphics] im Jackie Ibanez in new york, Ukraine Defense minister has officially resigned just hours after president zelenskyy announced plans to have him voted out of office. The chair will replace him once approved by parliament. There has been, stopping corruption is a key factor in the effort for ukraine to join the European Union and nato. Electricity recovery continues from hurricane idalia. The powerful storm left a large Path Of Destruction behind. Nearly 30,000 are without power at this hour. Im Jackie Ibanez, now back to suwannee for all of your headlines, log on to fox news. Com. Welcome back to Special Edition of Sunday Night In America for the beginning of period of adjustment. For many students new classes, new teachers perhaps a completely Different School environment. It can be scary, and hard, what makes it even harder is the fear or the reality of being bullied or intimidated or assaulted or threatened by others. Its not just within the walls of the school put the old days we left school we left many of the problems thereto. But not in the age of social media. Cyber bullies enabled by modern technology could find you 24 hours a day seven days a week. How can we spot the signs of a young person under assault by others . The victim educate appropriate perpetrators to make sure parents not to look for on both ends. Senior Vice President and technology company. I have to confess i have zero tolerance. No matter how young they are. Ive seen the devastating impact it has on people who are habitually bullied. But could agitate to parents and grandparents do to stop the bullying . I so out there and making sure bullying is not acceptable. I was an educator at the start of the school year absolutely important that we set a positive school. When i was back in the classroom, what i really work to do as i wanted my students to get to know each other. To know each other and work out to respect each others differences. But we arent seeing right now unfortunately theres one in every seven minutes from seeing students being bullied. 160,000 students are deciding to not go to school every single day because they are being bullied. That is not okay. As an educator its not only on the school but its on the families we have to do something about it. We believe we have to educate the entire population on what bullying is. What are the strategies to prevent it and who to go to if we do see it. If you are on the Receiving End of it we want to encourage our students an instead of bystande. There is a difference between folks who said let kids be kids and then kids wind up hanging themselves in the garages of their homes because of being cyber bullied. There is a big area between just letting people be young people and work out their differences but let me ask him or think there were Guidance Counselors at the schools i attended growing up. I will mention one in particular his name is jim who helped so many young people navigate that challenging stage of life. Are there still Guidance Counselors are people students can go talk to at schools . And are there enough of them . You brought up the points around bullying is much more prevalent but it is less apparent now. Back in the day when we were in school you could see it in the locker rooms, and the library, on the school buses. But now its happening over social media direct messages text messages. One of the advantages of covid as it did bring covid Relief Funding to schools. But Many School District opted to do is they spent their resources on educating not just our School Counselors but teachers, on Bullying Prevention strategies. Lets not just in the hands of the school counselor, multiple people can assist. The fact is there is a shortage of School Counselors. What we believe is there are other resources out of their digital Curriculum Tools that can teach students about Bullying Prevention the strategies and what to do if it does occur. Or im about to say it will make me wildly unpopular with young people. But that is okay because i am never running for office again. But there are age limits on how old you have to be to purchase a firearm. To purchase alcohol, tobacco, to buy a lottery ticket, to sign a contract. If you have to be a certain age to access things that could hurt you or others, is it also may be time to say happy certain age before you can get on social media or access certain parts of social media . Am i just becoming like an old man . Know i have heard many folks have similar opinions. I cannot speak specifically to that what i will speak to is that we as educators, a parent to myself it is a c