Allowing anger to control you is destructive. By Corine Gatti corine gatti Think of your emotions as a pressure cooker. What happens? Simply, everything in the pot bursts and overflows until you have one big mess. This illustration pretty much sums up anger. But how can you control it? Don't stuff your anger, that's for sure. Stuffing your anger only leads to more hostility. Researchers have found that not venting can damage your health and create other problems for relationships and it can lead to destructive behaviors. When you come to the point where you need a release, you want to do it in a healthy manner that is productive. Here is how to release your anger in tangible ways.