Not About Feelings: 5 Secrets To Finding a Compatible Partner in a Long-Term Relationship “I realise we are actually very different people.” How many times have you heard the following? “We broke up ‘cause we are just not compatible.” “I realise we are actually very different people.” I’m sure many of you can resonate with these statements, or have friends and loved ones who have uttered similar lines before. What’s this magic word ‘compatibility’ all about that we see it as key to a happy long-lasting relationship? Many people around me spend a lot of time picking on their partner’s flaws, and soon I realise that they often become very unhappy or even bitter about having to “put up” with these flaws, that the relationship often comes to a heartbreaking end.