That now so this is tim tim is our 3rd child he was found by kiwi my husband in a parking lot he was about 2 pounds skin and bones covered in fleas with a big hole and an abscess in one of his rear legs and so he scooped him up and we took him to the vet and he had emergency surgery he had a really rough 1st 10 weeks on the planet but its been pretty sweet ever since. Currently you were actually living through the 6th mass extinction of species so we are currently driving species to extinction at a rate thats about a 1000 times faster than the natural background rate of extinction and a lot of people are unaware of this. 5 major mass extinctions obviously the last major mass extinction on the planet was the one that took out the dinosaurs right now were living through what they called the anthropocene in anthropocene translates to the age of man its where the human impact on our planet is so great that were actually changing the fossil record of our future so you know i try and reduce my Carbon Footprint as much as i can i drive an electric car the house that were sitting in the spared by solar were in and thats great and there are more and more people putting up solar panels than buying electric cars and going began and thats all good for the planet but as long as were still adding a 1000000000 people to the planet every 12 years i dont think that those adaptations are happening fast enough. To shut down sumo who knows who. Weve seen most of. The google. Shows this to. Where. The. You. Know the. Me. Right back to you is about my dog marty at the time who passed away he made me think about family more than in the traditional sense he was a bad technically labeled a bad dog we got go and had a great relationship together and he became very happy and became a totally different dog and i kind of learned what love could do for something for someone and that was was kind of has projected me to where today in my life and that song is probably my Favorite Song ive ever written the greatest love song i think i could ever write i mean really amounts of thing and again it goes back to that whole idea that theres no reason to bring more kids world i feel like bringing children into the world is suffering in the world and we will take things that already need love the. Liza minelli Something Else that you need to give the love to we do our own thing we enjoy our lives he plays music 4 nights 5 nights out of the week we like to sleep 10 yeah thats really i wish to have us recommended you dont spend money on things its very convenient not to have it so its a very small part of it but it is very convenient and the kids are very lucky my parents are amazing people they took care of me and so will give me so much load they still give the so much that its amazing. And i really didnt have that i had more of like a. People telling me my mom telling me my grandma telling me like i dont have kids is the biggest mistake you could make you know and that probably think they part of it you know. I feel like. My own grandmother my own mom everybody you know that was generations before us didnt have a choice and they were pressured into it it was like you had to grow up have babies there was no other there was no other option so im going to take full advantage of busy having a choice and not feeling like i have got to have kids or theres no other way its a privilege really to be able to not be shunned for having this choice i know a lot of people they would feel incomplete if they didnt have kids and they get pressure from family and. Just pressure from everyone around them because everyone else is having kids so theres still a lot of places mostly like smaller towns are more concerned of towns thats all going to have a lot of babies. I think theres some return all instinct in women because i definitely quince in a while like feel this need to lake. Hold a baby bird like you know that baby fever thing i feel like thats a pretty hormonal thing and its emotional thing its not super realistic you know theres this feeling that like the only thing you do with your life what you leave behind is your your child and the predecessors and all that and i dont i dont agree with that think. Again everything you do has an effect on the planet around you the world the people and not having kids for me i feel like a better suited for that i feel like i bring more george World Without having responsibilities that im not really feeling fit to take her or fit to deal with i feel. More time to write songs to make music. I do i think it makes a difference i think theres this community right here in Longmont Colorado which is a prison for. I have some friends that really kind of make its overwhelming busy the way that they feel about when we get together on stage and jam and stuff. And that thats so worth it to me right there. Was the. Thats her 10 months old we were out of care and you dont want. Certain about a year and a half in like 3 thats her mom karen this is when karens always came to live with me here in this house so it was 2 and a half from them. And they had lived here. For a half years now i do i do not have children i have never been married ive been single all my life im really not very relationship oriented i identify primarily as gay but even without like a sam not very relationship oriented and i just never felt very good about the idea of bringing children into the world because i didnt feel like things were in very good shape that a life was just going to be a lot of suffering for them d. N. A. Has made as very competitive by necessity thats just how species evolve been the strongest survive and oftentimes that involves unimaginable cruelty. I am sure that we need to stop it from continuing to grow because its like you put your stand in a bath of warm water with a little bit of sugar and they just keep periphery do seem and put it out alcohol and till they have polluted their environment so much that they die its kind of sad that we dont have any more control over our selves and our environment this little one celled the yeast organisms. Were working to hunt is it exists today. Zoe my god daughter and i have been taking care of since she was just a few hours old shes like the best thing that ever happened to me in my life shes still a big part of my life although she and her mother have gotten their own place to live and gotten on with low. Which was our plan always but. Few years of being here when they left it was a bittersweet. Very attached to them. Live. Live live. Live. Live. Live live. Live. Live. Live. Live live. Live. Live. Live. Oh. Please. Live. Live live. Live. And very well welcome to you are watching us inside. During the Great Depression which old mr remember there was most of my family were working. There wasnt it was bed you know much worse objectively than today but there was an expectation that things were going to get better. There was a real sense of hopefulness there isnt today todays america was shaped by the turn principles of concentration of wealth and power. Reduced democracy attack solo duality engineer elections manufacture consent and other principles according to. One set of rules for the rich. Thats what happens when you put her into the. Narrow sector of will switch will is dedicated to increasing power for chills just as youd expect one of the most influential intellectuals of our time speaks about the modern civilization of america. That was weird how. Would you like to have children i would not why i dont in my childhood like me because in my child my mother my biological mother tried very very hard to be the best parent she could and to raise me to be the best person i could be and. I ended up not liking her and i dont like her as a person and. That and that fact has instilled a belief in me that even if i tried the hardest i possibly could to create. A nice individual. Foster. A valuable person to send out into the world. They still were not. Like me as. Though. We met in 2001 here in the United States at work at law 1st. 17 years decided not to have children when i was in my early fiftys my q. E. I. Didnt go the right way. My feeling true search continued and i wanted to help more. To change careers to find balance in life to find happiness and to find some spiritual answers for myself so i feel that paving the child would be an obstacle rather than help. These are all waiting pictures. For you to. Go. I still love you of course. That is. In the 3rd world but still a matter of survival a person must have many children in order for some of them to take care of him or her when they are all. In the well developed world and well developed countries there is a very good social support system so you would have your retirement the government will take care of you and you would be much better off without children you could retire earlier you would have more savings. It was so think its a lifestyle and its very expensive to raise a child human states if you want to give good indication its that list of well and dont just leave them. I think of the so that not to have children in my twentys when i realize that life will start. That suffering in some form as a guarantee to everybody well happiness is not and i just did not want to bring a new life into this world. I dont know that i regret it. We always have a thought that perhaps im missing out on something. And certainly my father says he thinks id be exceptional mother and wed be exceptional parents but i think its harder today to not work as a one because i think the cost of living stops some much but if it was covered with only snowboard work over it completely completely would you stay home and 3 children potentially i think based on my experience working with children and the children that. Add in one parent home seem to be more what better behaved better communicators just seems to be a little more balanced i think because they had a parent theyre highly involved long story short we just kind of kick the can down the road if you will you know maybe later later just never happened for us but whether it was careers or. Where weve had a lot of ups and downs with careers and pauses and unemployment or career changes and geographic location moves and kind of all those things just delay delay and next thing you know youre here in the upper fortys and youre in your happy with your spouse and where you are i would say that most of our friends if they dont have children whether theyre married or single most of them have dogs or cats for the most part dogs and we find that all of us think that our dogs are like our babysitter i do think people are as theres more and more people theres more more traffic theres more and more congestion theres not as much opportunity to be out in open spaces and finding those things that i think really help us relax. For me its being with my dog its being outside every day and if theres less and less Natural Resources if we lose the National Park if we lose those open spaces that i think are key to human balance i think you will see a lot more aggressive behaviors in your ability and in patients the more dense the world gets the more angry i think people get and thats unfortunate for me personally i. Regretted not having children i think really you know have a good bond ourselves and were able to strengthen that and put time and energy into each other without having to have you know needing to pathak energy into the children as well. My name is low. And i have a masters in psychology and. Ive been writing nonfiction and researching the childfree choice and 2 books that ive written related to that topic. And the 2nd one is called the baby. I dont have any regrets because not having children has allowed me to have the freedom in my life to create the life that i want and have the adventures that i have had the career that ive wanted to pursue and ive been able to do so many more things i think than i would have been able to do if they really had been at the central focus of. The title is the fact or fiction childfree couples are happier than a couple of kids. Used to be. A big debate. There isnt one answer thats my. Asking the question why does society find the child free choice so hard to accept that led to my book baby matrix and 2 assumptions and beliefs that Society Holds that judges the child free choice where where i landed was a set of believes that have been with us for generations and its collectively called. And listen just means the x. Saltation of parenthood motherhood birth and putting it on a pedestal and our society has been doing that you can go back to the roman times that its been pushed into our brains in our like our social and cultural hardware of what were supposed to be in supposed to do that people think. These beliefs are true 3 powerful assumptions is if you dont have the desire to have children theres something wrong with you as a person theres something wrong with you psychologically something wrong with you in terms of you havent figured out your 1st specially for women your female identity somethings wrong there theres also the assumption that were biologically wired to want children theres absolutely no evidence to support that so there is of course evidence that we have biological processes going on if for pregnancy at the time of birth but no biological processes innately that create this somehow desire to have children and a 3rd powerful one is that by raising children thats when you find true fulfillment in life. Theyre all myths. In my research one thing i continue to notice is that theres pressure so its not so much a fear the childfree have as much as the experience from others who want them to do what they did so they others loved ones their family members they can put different kinds of pressure on a childfree couples for example to make them feel guilty for not bringing grand kids onto the sea not doing what they did so that they will have a bond of even closer bond because they will have this thing called parenthood when i was researching the baby matrix i looked at the issue of what if youre old and you have no children will you be old and lonely what will life. And what i found from reading what has already been study is what people find in their golden years or their elder years in terms of their well being whats most important that helps them have a positive wellbeing is that they are financially secure so that when theyre retired they basically have enough money to live and also that their partner is alive so it didnt really rest on. Depending on their children for them to be happier in their older years. I decided to change my mind and to try to become a mother for a number of reasons of course one reason was a lot of pressure from it was also. Really one. Major change in my life. I started thinking it would be at least one good reason for me to create another school in this world into this world. Medium that i wanted to raise person so to speak a new generation i wanted to raise my child from the mainstream i want to. Be progressive parents. I wanted to share with my child the only spiritual things spiritual. 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