I think one of the worst things as a kid is what you want to do its not what you want to do its why do you do the things you do you could design a life that is focused on your y. Being aware of work as a way of expression people ask me what motivates me every day and i look im just being me i started my company because it was an expression of myself i am just painting on a canvas but i think if we can teach them that think of their work and their life as a place to express themselves and then dream of what they see themselves becoming having that strategic mistake makes you think more long term rather than the short term what athletes are told see you pics are making the shots before they take the shot and i think that the same thing is true for the rest of us we have to picture what our goal is is looking like and not just pick an arbitrary goal but what do we want our life to look like and then create a plan. Get their movement help kids do better. Thats a lesson every kid should learn and those sort of shut the responsibility i can make sure that i never will be poverty and my kids in the loop are weak if i do the right. Hello my names wendy 18 years old i go to high school and i am a senior this year there was 8 of us dont live together there is a 3 bedroom house there was a lot of. The economy hit and everything my parents both they both had lost their jobs it was kind of hard for us to even like. My life even though im still free and reduced lunch now. And im always much my little brother house. And there was. My sophomore year and i was 15. I was on a journey with r. B. C. And coming back. From there i just started noticing that i was feeling different all the sudden like youre either believe or youre pregnant and i was like i dont think. Like i. Was i like pregnancy tests and i was like. I just i dont like that or and so i go the pregnancy test and they came out positive then just kind. Of my mom told me what any other parent say to their kid just. Going to be fine were going to get through this no matter what happens. What am i going to do how am i going to finish school. How am i going to do any of this that all. Terrified out of my mind. It turns out that any us right now an awful lot of children are being born to parents and parents who are not married to each other that is a bad out 50 percent of the births amongst the youngest generation in other words about half of the brothers and the youngest generation are babies born outside of marriage to typically quite young parents we have been on over the years by careful studies the kids who are from single parent families generally get less education than was. In themselves that was older they also. Passed and. Then kids who come from married couple. More of our kids will be with their marry parents and live for their whole childhood with their married parents that also can make a huge difference theyll do better in school will be more likely will college and even though they might compositions magically over the last 4 decades more kids arent still families who were kids we were both there so i think americans are going to figure this out Single Parents alone have high stress levels stigma because it gets them because theyre Single Parents. As teenagers we have these adult problems that we feel like were adults but were were very malleable in the sense that were still children in a way our emotions go up and down and go when happens is building the kids are making these very tough decisions around friends and peer groups and theyre making a lot of decisions around relationships and who their phone love with its with the with those people and its just this kind of like. These tough things like. A lot of kids in poverty. I never thought i would. Ever play because i was i am i still am training i do so much charity work so Much Community service org everyone at school is like the spring isnt she the smart one isnt she one good one from her family isnt she the church girl i never thought this would happen. You dont think from one night. Its going to pop out 9 months later you just think oh i have it once here keep going with 5. And a half. And no one you see the picture of blue your whole world just. Turned upside down. And when you talk about participating in risky behavior whether were talking about having sex doing drugs drinking watching pornography whatever it is getting involved in social media. Becoming really addicted to whatever device it is that youre using if were talking about any of those risks to be i think its important to consider. The outcomes of those that its important to consider that were not living for just this moment we have a child dont. Really think about the cost that it takes to be a parent the cost in time the cost and finances and i would encourage you to wait until youre married before you have kids wait until you know youve got that 2nd parent that 2nd income that can help you raise that child what kills me is when i see a kid with all the academics to rock it you know they get these all lazy finally they finally break this Glass Ceiling where you put all this hard work in their academics and then they get pregnant. With their high school. And then like literally just take 3 steps back and i think its because theres a. Little intelligence we just dont talk about like relationship and the strategy around what you do as an emotional. Im always been a daddys girl i would go to him for everything. And so long different views than i did. Youre going to. Completely. April 26th. Later to see how he was doing. To catch up to see if you want to see my son. But i still cant believe you decided to keep. Now youre not going to have anything. And. Still 3 years. I heard from. One of my teachers actually. When i wasnt there and everyone from the class told me she said. My daughter i would take the baby away from her and raise it myself. And hearing my dad now. Youre not going to amount to anything youre not going to have a future anymore because. As. Weve been dishonest. Because what we have said. Is that. Any way that you can make any decision or choice that you want to make whatever you feel this day you can make those kinds of the sea. And we will do the best that we can to alleviate the consequence but the fact is we cannot alleviate the consequences it is true that you make your own decisions you can choose any of these paths that you want to choose but we are being dishonest to you when we say we can help you avoid consequences there are consequences for the choices that you know having sex outside of marriage is not going to fill the void that youre trying to fill it only creates more and more of a vast open and. Within you because you are opening yourself in the most mourner of a way to another human being who is in no way committed to and his whose actions are really out of selfishness unlikely and a desire to meet a need that day. The day i had him i started getting ready i started getting pain and then by the time i got there they told me it was too late for me to get better im just bawling my eyes out i was like i dont know what to do ive never done this and whenever he got there. I was scared the 1st time i change just like right. Like i care and change the diaper it will finish but what do you mean you cant just type of like i can do the i am fix tina i can do this i cannot support for him i cannot just call work and raise a child. Bearing a precious little boy mile at me and im thinking i cant do that at all the only thing going through my head was i cannot do that. If you find yourself pregnant at 15 there is no easy option for you you can choose to have an abortion and that is not an easy option it leaves damage. The rest of your life for you and for your family. Having a child at 15. All kinds of issues because now youre not just a Typical High School kid youre responsible for another human being youre going to have to find a way to bring in candy youre going to have to tear into a sick baby in the middle of the night when you have homework and you have to get up early and go to class yourself and then your other option would be to place your baby for adoption which is the most difficult decision ive ever seen a young person it is a wonderful choice and it is often the best choice for that child but it is heart wrenching and extremely difficult so once you find yourself in an unplanned pregnancy we cant take away those consequences and you now have very difficult decisions to me. So i have my little brother. And me about doing it for. Me wake up at 6 in the morning around 7 i will wake up my little brother and mother around 720 i will get matthew ready. My sisters at 730 take my little brother 30 i get to school and im racing im rushing to get there i get out of school i want 30 and going to work out too much i get off or i. Play with 30 minutes but i have and then i go and whenever i get my 30 minute lunch break do the same thing go to my sister. And then i get off work around mary. After both. Working on my homework at around 1030. 00 and i usually fall asleep but. Join me every. Sport im sure ill see you then. So what i would say to a 15 year old is. All of that will have convinced you. That you are lazy. That you are incapable but you are selfish because i dont believe any of those things and. Believe that you have a purpose i believe that greatness is only. Value into other peoples lives and youll bring value into the lock in this child if you choose to hear that its not going to do things and we have failed and it is now our job to come along and support you to enable you to make better choices. My mom will watch matthew the 1st year that i have and i want to tell their. Thank you mom i love you i appreciate and work. Ok for. Different. By watching him taking care of me making sure how to look for them ahead. She told me for the 1st time i know i never tell you this often but im so proud of you you have a baby you are working youre going to form not only that youre getting fellowships she told me that i was a fighter if it if. Youre a strong woman fighting. For me to get a message from her saying im proud of you and everything they are complicated everything thats regularly for me was the best prez i could ever get this is what i have been working for him but he years to get us some. Im proud of. Theres a group of villagers working the fields by river when someone in the crew noticed a baby floated downstream. One of the men rushed into the water rescued the baby and brought it to shore before he could recover a number of babies were found floating downstream surely there was a steady flow of babies floating down the river and the whole village was involved in the rescue efforts pulling babies out of the water and making sure they were made safe but not all of them could be. Some are pulled under by the ranging river whether slipped through the villagers hands while others fell back into the water as the villagers tried to save them. The villagers were saving as many babies as they could before long they became exhausted from all their effort. Frustrated controversy erupted in which one group argued that every possible hand was needed downstream to help rescue the babies they didnt have everyone scope they would lose too many downstream. The other group argued that every possible hand was needed upstream secure find out how the babies were getting into the water you could save all of them in a limit meet the needs of the costly time consuming efforts downstream. To find out how these babies are falling into the river in the 1st place we can stop this and no more babies will drown if we go upstream we can eliminate the cause of the problem. But its too risky some said might fail or take too long. To lose too many lives. Owing to the ones weve lost and our future children to fix the problem upstream and save one else calling them to live in. A drought from a separate water fountain used in taxes well how much. Ok what was different about the water. Coming out of it found. A person. With the album out. Of the boat that many. Other grew up more real than most of the. People completely. All that life. Based around. When you. Get in there can always address poverty one is to try to prevent it from ever occurring in the 1st place and the 2nd is if it does occur to a 1000000 you know provide people with assistance with childcare housing that has to be. To help those who are in need. And you have to help those. In the future and in order to do both you have to work downstream to go through the circumstances that got us to where we are are unique and so our approach to every person and every family and poverty needs to be as unique as that person in that family and thats difficult to do and its a little overwhelming to think about but people are different so its interesting looking back historically on what weve done to address poverty in the United States its mostly been to provide people with assistance of various cars and those things are needed i think we should not leave people destitute and without such assistance. There is not a lot of evidence that those things are going to move people out of poverty except temporarily i dont think americans are in favor of simply redistributing income what they want is to provide everyone an opportunity to get ahead on their own we believe in equality of opportunity not equality of results. I went to a conference once the conference was an opportunity conference where we invited 74 families from our community and hopes to just allow a pathway to cycle out of poverty majority of the people in this conference were a generational poverty so they came in and they heard from dr diaby goal on her story and were encouraged it was a 6 hour program and she would say how many of you know what it is to have a disconnect notice how many of you know what it is to receive an eviction notice and for a long arms who are coming up and she allowed them to see that if i can do it you can too we all have hope with us sometimes just gets very good so i had the opportunity to do this. Simply see hope rise to the surface of 74 people and thats not something that you can contain we knew you cant contain hope i left this place with hope and im going to tell everybody about it i want them to know what i know and im going to succeed because people came in the room they didnt know me and i matter i wasnt born i but. I am part. Right im no longer in this isolation where im irrelevant or i have to walk around and lead with this label of shame little by little the hope starts to take that label off and when people come into place youre able to replace that label with words of worth instead of allowing that person to feel. We all are the same when it comes to what our basic needs are and what our basic desires are and i think if we really think about what we have in common with one another thats where we can start to create a basis of understanding a person saying im not going to judge you im not going to criticize you im not going to do you value your lived experience because its different than my you say to the other human being what ever dream youve ever had is still possible. When i was growing up it felt like there were a few kids that were completely off the list. And there are a few kids that were trying really hard to make good choices and really had their focus at where it needed to be but most of the are somewhere in this gray area where were trying to get our toes as opposed to the line as we can we. Completely stepping over but we werent really convicted either way were just all kind of trying to get get. What i see now is that there are more kids off the rails. There are very few. But there are a lot of young people who are committed who are strong who are focused who want to make good. And who are making an impact. That is my hope for the next generation. And that hope comes from the stories that we tell that hope comes from us saying to our scholars you can do this were going to stand by were going to help you get through this day after the power to turn the ship and it happens making good decisions after that. One of the bigger you have to realize the things you do from 14 to 24 hour compound interest of things that like were going to take you to places that you can get understand what you do today is going to play more compound interest that anything else youre playing a game thats bigger than yourself youre playing a game for yourself or your familys name or your kids that dont even exist yet for your grandkids who are going to benefit off of the hard work you put into that. Not all poverty is preventable but we know certainly that based on research and research that were using for our programs some of that can be preventable we want to help them help the Community Around what were trying to rally our Community Around and support. A lot of times when i work with people who currently live in the crisis of poverty theyll still not smart enough to get a skill not smart enough to go to college to ask for help you got to ask for help in Poverty Issues dont ask for help. Thats the wrong message. Nobody makes it alone absolutely no one we have to Work Together we have to overlap with other organizations we have to be community by the key is allowing hope that we can allow hope we can communicate hope we can allow worth until theres a relationship. That not only helps those who are in the river but also gives them the tools to help their kids and their kids not be in the river thats the movement we want when we reach out to people across. These barriers of poverty barriers of political opinion. We can really find some unique treasures in people who are different from us and find out that theyre not so different after all. Cas calendar is drawing all forms over a long day and theres tracing paper changed already served our. His 1st words were added i will see youre a challenging post you got 2 years to live. I have no doubt that what happened was prevent. The sites concentrate maki it was a 1000000000. 00 industry these companies had a huge financial motivation to solve these problems there are numerous stocks showing that doctors were keen to test facts right concentrates right in fits of its own that Patients Want gives them the wrong stoplight. Or curve in the stomach why they would keep going to secure those years day. And people still die i dont know which question or so are it being hard to leave so many have. 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