we are not talking a soft individual in terms of his play on the field, we are talking his personality may not be what other guys want it to be. the notion of manning up. the notion this is the way football players are supposed to act, we detach our emotions, feelings and hearts. it makes it less and less likely to recognize someone is in trouble. >> i did very similar commentary i wrote. basically, we are saying the same thing. you write the phrase, man up, never wins. it's only when we express a lack of connection with our feelings. if we can't feel with others, how can we truly feel for others? it's self-explanatory. it's not just in football. everybody is like you need to man up. what? men don't have emotions? >> you know, there's so much