do peel, calli, do they not see it or do they not want to see it? >> it's kind of both. as a family member you don't want to believe it's happening. you're in denial. this couldn't possibly be happening. and they come up with really good excuses -- i'm tired, i have a cold, i'm overworked, et cetera, et cetera. we start to feed in that and believe what we're told because the alternative is just horrifying. you don't want to believe your loved one is in the throes of an addiction and could actually be that bad because you don't know what to do. you don't know how to fix it. reaching out to a therapist or a doctor is even more confusing. >> i hear the nba has a really good program when it comes to dealing with addiction. one wonders then what happened to lamar. >> they have a great program. >> they have a physicians network. >> go ahead, joe.