She and her husband both work full time, and theyve got four children, all under the age of 6. When i get back from the gym, sometimes somebody is in the kitchen waiting for me. Id love to know if any families really do sit down for breakfast at this time of the morning. Come on in. Whats the time now . This is india. Can you say good morning . This is james. James, say hi to everybody. Hi, everybody. Theres a lot of juggling. There you go. Im going to go and have a shower now. All right. Open up. Rinse. Hi, how are you . Being able to divide and conquer is certainly one of the secrets to success. Should we get you dressed . Hows that . It always seems that were saying hurry up, finish this, get on with that. We need to get a move on. Those are your shoes. Can you please put them on . No. Off to the races. What is all of this in here . Have a good day, you girls. And aston, no spitting. What about milk for lola . Jack, your bag is undone. Right. Please. In you get. Weve never been late yet. Who is your chaperone today . Okay. Give me a kiss. As soon as i sit at my desk its wonderful. You just kind of sit and you go, ah, thats great. I am just exhausted just watching that. So well talk about this. Here with me in new york is cnn commentator and Human Behavior expert, mel robbins, you know her, and sandra singh lowe, who has a book out this week called the mad woman and the volvo, my year of raging hormones. Welcome to both of you. Ill tread lightly in this statement. Sandra, let me start with you. Its quite a title to the book. Where did it come from . This whole juggling act were talking about, how did you decide to write this . Well, im a mother. Im a 52yearold mother of a teen and a pretween daughter and im menopausal, so all these hormones are hitting at the same time for mothers who are in the Sandwich Generation i call it, the triple ms, middleaged mothers in menopause, women feel very overwhelmed right now. And our coping strategies, you know, all the medical advice we get to be honest is cut out alcohol, sugar and caffeine which is what some of us live for in a monday morning. And all the medical advice is always just have more walks, drink eight glasses of water a day. Do yoga and eat kale. Please tell me why kale is always the magic food, like, all my problems are going to be solved with kale . What are you going to i mean, what should mothers know on this mothers day . What should they know . First of all, heres what im telling people. Cheryl sandburg wrote that great book lean in but if you want to lean into work, you better lean away from the dishwasher. Because one of the things that happens for women there was another study done, sanjay, and this is really interesting. 62 of women who were surveyed said even if they could afford help, they still wouldnt delegate because the person wouldnt do it right. So, for all of you at home, that have ever held open the dishwasher and seen, oh, my gosh, they didnt stack the cups right and youve rearranged it or youve refolded the laundry or scolded the kids when they have shrunken a sweater, you are screwing yourself over. So, for mothers day, i invite you all to lower your standards particularly on chores and start to get your kids to help. Because the truth is, i have an 8yearold son, a 15yearold girl, a 13yearold girl and, you know, my poor husband, sandra, i was laughing, because the last time i had a hot flash, sanjay, was right on this set on camera, so im hoping i dont have one while were talking right now. Lets heat it up in here, yes. If my 8yearold can do a 372piece lego kit in 37 minutes flat, he can bus the table and do laundry. But its my own expectations that are making my life miserable. Thats well put. By the way, have you been to our house, because thats exactly what happens. Yours . Thats exactly. But i bet youre the one thats reloading. I bet when youre home you kind of like things a certain way. Sometimes if you dont do a great job you may not be asked to do it again. Ill leave it that way. I know a lot of partners dont do a good job, thats it, its easier. Its strategic. Yes. Sandra, i saw you nodding your head. You agree with a lot of this. I am really struck by this fact, its harder, i have young daughters and my mother is probably watching the program right now, studies show it will be harder for my daughters than it was for my mother in some ways. No disrespect to my mother. But this is challenging work. Are we preordained, mel, for this to get harder . Part of what were dealing with and im sure sandra will agree, when they look at most studies of households 70 are dualearner households. And until women start to demand the work to maintain a home is shared among everybody that lives in it, we are going to constantly be behind the eight ball in both finding times for ourselves and also feeling, i guess, energized enough to take on more in the areas of our life outside the home. Sandra, what do you think . I totally agree with that. And i think that theres something of taking on all the problems of the world that women do today. I think, for example, we always get the statistics, man, if kids dont get a home cooked meal every night together around the table, they will be obese and have diabetes ii and its up to the moms to do it. And thats sort of another level of pressure on us that we feel, oh, my gosh, that theres somehow the blame that always comes to the mom. We always have the new book, the tiger mom book or french mom book and it always sorts of hits american moms of Something Else were not doing. I love your idea of lowering the bar, exactly, on mothers day, stay in bed all day and if somebody wants to give you a mothers day card, maybe you let them in or maybe it wont. Because its up to you to do your own thing. I think with the home cooked meal, Roseanne Barr used to say in her wonderful sitcom way back when, if my kids are alive at the end of the day of, thats enough. Has this conversation felt cathartic for you, sandra . Absolutely. I want kale. Im craving kale she mentioned it so much. Kale and chocolate and pear with one. I am still laughing because i hear so many womens stories how theyre really getting through it and how many women of our age are putting half of their Weight Watchers points and putting it into pinot grigio. Vodka on the rocks has a lot lower point value. I stopped drinking bourbon a lot because it has a lower point value. Sanjay is not talking. Weve gone from kale to caloriefree vodka, weve gone all over the map, but look, happy mothers day to both of you. You are great mothers and its great for dads to hear the conversations as well, happy mothers to my own mother and my dear wife. Appreciate having you on the program today. Thanks for having us. A lot of people have been asking me about this popular dietary supplement. Deer antler velvet, does it work . Or could it do more harm than good . So i can reach ally bank 24 7, but there are no branches . 24 7. Im sorry, im just really reluctant to try new things. Really . Whats wrong with trying new things . Look mommys new vacuum cat screech you feel that in your muscles . I do. Drink water. Its a long story. Well, not having branches lets us give you great rates and service. Id like that. A new way to bank. A better way to save. Ally bank. Your money needs an ally. Thats keeping you from the healthcare you deserve. But if healthcare changes, if it becomes simpler. 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Deer antler velvet, its this dietary supplement that a surprising number of athletes, trainers and doctors are turning to. They believe it helps improve muscle strength, recovery and boost energy. Its been used in china for thousands of years, and the premise is pretty simple. A deers antlers grow fast, more than an inch a day. Could those regenerative qualities transfer over to human beings . I dove for a ball and tore my rotator cuff 90 all the way through. Desperate after his injury, professional ball player Adam Greenberg turned to deer antler velvet at the suggestion of one of his doctors. How quickly would you feel these results after taking the pills . Within the first couple days, i knew there was something positive going on. Dr. Quak called me up and said how were you playing . I said, what do you mean . He said, you dont have a rotator cuff. Its basically nonexistent. Intrigued by adams story, his Orthopedic Surgeon dr. Patrick quak decided to Start Testing this on his own. The first thing he wanted to try and confirm, safety. The first 100 we tracked them fairly closely, you know, with, you know, questionnaires, phone calls, to really make sure if theres adverse effects that can come from taking the product. So the 100 patients or so youve followed, you havent seen any harm from this . Correct. What about benefits . Increased energy, decreased joint pain and muscle ache and increased recovery. The Immediate Reaction is suspicious, a little dubious about this sort of thing because it sounds too good to be true it probably is all of that. What are you comfortable about saying about this now . I think it really boils, like, to we didnt invent this, the proof is in the 2,000 years of use in chinese or asian medicine. Deer antler velvet is sold in the United States as liquid drops and capsules. It ranges from a couple dollars a bottle to a couple hundreds of dollars. Because it is sold as a supplement, not a medicine, companies dont have to prove theres any benefit. So we decided to look into it. Combing through dozens of studies looking at the effects of deer antler velvet on humans. Despite the enthusiasm, none of these studies showed a convincing benefit from taking the product. Heart rates coming up and everythings looking great. Only one on Strength Training showed even a possible positive effect. Greg broder was the studys author. I had really positive findings but its so small it needs to be repeated with a large number of subjects before i would say you got to take it this is a given. This is absolutely going to help you. Endocrinologist dr. Alan rogel believes any possible effects are due to nothing more than a placebo effect. If i came to you and i said im taking this stuff, i feel stronger and faster, what would you say . I would say dont take it. That would be easy. Because it doesnt work. Yes. Im not going to die from it, but it doesnt work. Yes, exactly. Some believers point to something known as igf1, it is banned by the World Antidoping Authority as a performance enhancing drug. So we decided to test it for ourselves. We wanted to find out how much of the igf1 is in there when you buy. We bought more than 1,000 of deer abler sprays, drops and powder, 12 different products and then we had them tested at the Sports Medicine research and testing lab in salt lake city. So, im testing these supplements for igf1. What we found was somewhat surprising. None of the products had more than a tiny amount of deer igf1 but that doesnt stop dr. Kwok and many of the other doctors we spoke to about this piece who do believe deer antler velvet replaces deficiencies we all have. It has naturally occurring glucosamine, concountry to cop kron droitin and hylauronics aity, substances that happen to be the Building Blocks of cartilage. He was so impressed with the product that he invested in the company. This would jump it to the whole next level really, really quickly. But even they acknowledge the science is not yet there and this is by no means a magic potion. Its not take this and you will be an amazing athlete, eating a noninflammatory diet and putting the right things into your body and take deer antler. The last bit is pretty good advice. You cant take this stuff and say it will replace good workouts and good eating. Speaking of which, cravings, we all get them. My advice . Ice cream. Just about any flavor. Ive decided to show you some smarter alternatives to some of your favorite foods. It will leave you feeling full without packing on the pounds. Yup. All five of you for 175. Our clients need a lot of attention. Theres unlimited talk and text. Were working deals all day. You get 10 gigabytes of data to share. What about expansion potential . Add a line anytime for 15 bucks a month. Low dues. Great terms. 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Welcome to the program. Thank you very much. This has been paernl journey for you. It really has. Going through a process of learning more about foods and how i use foods to lose weight, i lost 40 pounds about six years ago. Mindless eating is a big issue. If there are foods around, people will eat it. Lets talk about ways you can substitute your cravings. If you have candy around exactly. Go to dates or raisins or gogi berries, cranberries. Just have it out, youre going to grab it. Pasta. Instead of pasta, use some zucchini thats ground up, put some tomato sauce on it, if you have a pasta craving. Tastes good. Its great. Chips, this is a big one for people. Exactly. If you dont want chips, theres always kale chips. This is one of the most popular segments youve done. Youve turned it into a business. Its exploded in the last couple years. Who would have thought, kale, mainstream. Come ford foods this time of year. Exactly. Thats a common trap. That is a common trap. Try to stay away from that as much as you can and always have good fresh vegetables, guacamole and hummus these are comfort foods that you can substitute with other z as well. These are water dense, so a lot more food with a lot fewer calories. If youre going to eat fat, eat natural fat. Its filling to have it with the veggies, too. You get the water up there. Thirst and hunger are often confused in your brain. Oftentimes if you think youre hungry drink a couple glasses of water. Satiate the thirst. That can help. I wish you luck with the book. We talk about the problems in this country with obesity. We try to focus on solutions in this program. Youre part of that. Thank you. Appreciate that. Up next, do you have what it takes to cross the finish line in what organizers call the toughest oneday event anywhere in the world. One tough mudder. Thats coming up. Mercedesbenz . What does it mean to drive as far as you want. For up to three years and be covered . It means your odometer. 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When i signed up, i thought there would be all shapes and sizes of people heefrmt everyone here is in really, really good shape. Im starting to wonder if i can cut it. Weve reached the top of the hill. I have my number. Sophie says its too late to turn back. Too late now. Three, two, one. Come on. Come on. Started out with those guys at the beginning of the race. Theyre a little ahead of me now. Hoping i can catch up to them right now. Tough mudder. Come on, mudders i got it. Almost at the end. How are you guys feeling . A little tired. How about you . Fantastic. Its going to be something to test everyone. Every different person has a different the nice thing about the tough mudder course is it tests all those things all in one day. Dont stop. Good job. Good job. What do you thin